... in response to Re: I agree, posted by Westerngrrl on Jan 26, 2001Why is having fun and material things so important? Since when did family become so unimportant and something that can be "put off". At least my attitude when i was your age was have kids while i'm young so when i'm older I can do more things and have more fun with them and my Grandkids. I'm glad i did too because i had to start over with the selfish wife I had. Now I have a chance to have a better family life where if I had waited then i would be very depressed right now.
Family has to be the most important thing. Not wealth and material things. Plus you have to learn to depend on each other in a relationship. All your post talk about total independence and material things. None of those will comfort you when you are sick or hold you when you are lonely.
Take a look at the effects of the "lack of love" that occurred in Poland while it was controlled by the communist governemnt. They'd take the kids away from the parents an put them in orphanages. The kids are unmotivated or inclined to what ever decrepit thing that comes up because they do not know love or respect others.
Family must always be first and it has nothing to do with presents, eating out and trips to Europe.
Bear