... in response to My Cartagena Dilemma, posted by Ken2 on Dec 28, 2003"On our trip/my visit(s) her affection was extremely limited although intimacy was never a problem. When I ask her pointed questions she says Im "intenso." When I take about the importance of communication she says Im intenso. Questions like are you still commited to coming and making this relationship work, she says Im intenso.
I tell her I love her she says I do not love you but hope to fall in love over time. I appreciate her honest. I know some girls show lots of affection and say they love you, but this is no guarntee that a relationship will work."
True, but sounds like you have another Pete E story in the making. Her showing you lots of affection may not guarantee that the relationship will work, but her not wanting to show you any pretty much guarantees that it won't. And since demonstrated love and affection is one of the best things about being in a relationship with a Latina, why would you settle for less?
Here's my layman-diagnosing-a-stranger's-problem-for-free-over-the-internet take on things: she's getting some good things out of this relationship, but she doesn't perceive you personally as being one of them. Thus the evasiveness and saying you're "intense" whenever you bring up these uncomfortable (to her) subjects.