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Author Topic: Pre-Nuptial!?  (Read 4827 times)
Ricardo
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« on: December 22, 2003, 05:00:00 AM »
This comment was posted on another list: "I've lost many woman b/c of prenuptuals they did not want to sign"
For this list:  how true has this been for you.... care to give us some insights on the 'pitfalls/pluses' of pre-nups with latinas... do they view them as an indication that the guy will not be loyal or long-term?  Thanks
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Patrick
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« Reply #1 on: December 22, 2003, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Pre-Nuptial!?, posted by Ricardo on Dec 22, 2003

I think you should talk to a lawyer in your area to find out what the state laws are where you live.  They can explain to you what a prenuptial agreement can, and can not do for you.  They can also explain what protections the state law has in place.

I did this before I married.  I spoke with three lawyers (free of charge) and all thought I would be better off just taking some simple steps to protect myself prior to marrying rather than get a prenup.  It all depends on your personal circumstances,  what you want in terms of protection, and your own state's laws.

There's no substitute for consulting with an attorney where you live.  You should do so right now rather than later.  Never trust any internet forum for this kind of advice.
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DallasSteve2
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« Reply #2 on: December 22, 2003, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Pre-Nuptial!?, posted by Ricardo on Dec 22, 2003

I've married 2 women from Colombia and both agreed to sign prenuptials.  If it's important to you then cross that bridge early, like on the second or third date.  If you're in Colombia and they balk at that, you've got plenty of others who will accept it.  If they won't accept it I would wonder "What are their real motives?"

Steve
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Ricardo
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« Reply #3 on: December 22, 2003, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: Pre-Nuptial!?, posted by DallasSteve2 on Dec 22, 2003

Thanks Steve... I would have thought that this wouldn't be a problem for a woman in  love, so was surprised that this commment was posted.  I agree totally, if the woman balks, it's time to look at her motives, and possibly move on.
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mudd
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« Reply #4 on: December 22, 2003, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: Re: Pre-Nuptial!?, posted by Ricardo on Dec 22, 2003

both steve and patrick make good points, every state is diffrent, and in some, its a waste of time to get it done, so you need to check with a lawyer in your city. also, if a girl says no, she might be trying to see what you will accept and what she can get away with. some wont sign one because, and i can somewhat see their point, they are leaving their family, job and friends, to move away with you, so its no big deal to you if it doesnt work out, but to her it is.she is the one who has to go home and deal with the family and friends. to put the shoe on the other foot, would you leave your family, job and friends to move to her city to be with her? most would say no. best advice, take your time and get to know the girl and her family.
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Ricardo
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« Reply #5 on: December 22, 2003, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: Re: Re: Pre-Nuptial!?, posted by mudd on Dec 22, 2003

Thanks.  I agree that one should consider the lady's point of view as well.  Having said that, bringing up the subject with your intended does bring some, possibly hidden issues, into better focus.  Good luck to all.... Ricardo
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zack
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« Reply #6 on: December 22, 2003, 05:00:00 AM »
... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Pre-Nuptial!?, posted by Ricardo on Dec 22, 2003

I have heard many stories about prenups that were not air-tight and didn't do any good in the end that I'm starting to wonder if they are worth the money.

I talked to a prenup attorney in Chicago a few years ago who is supposedly the best. He charges $8,000 for one prenup. I know that you can get one for a lot cheaper, but I have to wonder if they really pay off in the end. There always seems to be a leak in the contract somewhere. But if someone has a huge net worth, it is probably better to have one.

Zack
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