She lives with her family and contributes with the bills. She tells me that her phone may get disconnected in a few weeks if she doesn't find a job soon. I think you can predict where this is heading.

I don't want to sound like a tightwad, but I don't want to be taken advantage of either.  To me, paying her phone bill will make her less willing to get a job. But I sure don't want to resort to only emails either.

She seems sincere and has not asked me for a dime to to this day. I think I will just see how things pan out but I don't plan to send money any time soon.

Any thoughts?

Zack

We have talked about marriage but I'm not a typical gringo in that I like to take things very slow when it comes to such a huge decision like marriage. She, on the other hand, wanted to start the immigration process within the first month after we met. I don't know why so many people base such a huge decision largely on intuition.

Part of my hesitation is also from some previous relationships that started out great but were disappointing in the end.

To answer your question, we may get married but it won't be any time soon. Perhaps eight months, preferably longer.

I trust her enough to send the money.

Thanks for your input.

Zack

 I don't know how it is in Colombia but if it is at all like Ecuador the phone company first cuts the line for outgoing calls before eventually cutting it completely. I guess this allows them to still call and pester the homeowner to pay the bill :-)

If thats the case maybe you can still call her for a while after the line is cut - although i agree that it would make sense to pay the bill if you are in a relationship with her.

Steve

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If you are not in an intimate relationship with her, do not send a dime under any circumstances. (rule #1)

Also I wouldn't get to upset thinking that she is irresponsible for quiting her job. You know women in the work force in Colombia receive more sexual advances in one day than a topless dancer in the US gets in a month. She is probably just trying to be true to you. I can only imagine what she has been having to do to keep her job up until now in Colombia's male dominated macho society. Why don't you think Colombianos don't want their wives and girlfriends to work. It isn't because they don't need the extra income.

There probably are some but I have never met one. But then again I never met a virgin in Colombia that I know of. I'm pretty sure you would have to start looking in the jail bait territory if you were to have any chance of finding one.

Anyway I would question a women's motive for wanting to wait until you were married if she wasn't a virgin.

The reason I said I think colombians get more sexual advances really has nothing to do with their looks just the fact that gringos are really backward compared to colombianos when it comes to soliciting sex from women especially if they work for them.