Vietnamese character

[Hamlet]

Greetings,

Although I have spent most of the past year getting to know Latins via email, phone and letter in anticipation of a trip there soon, I have also been getting very friendly with a Vietnamese woman with whom I share email daily.

Her character seems to be outstanding: sincere, very hard-working, loyal, faithful.  This is not to mention that she is educated and works as an accountant for a foreign firm, intelligent, witty, clever and speaks English reasonably well.  She is 35, and she has agreed with me (age 46) that it is not necessary to have children.

In fact, I can't find much of anything to fault about her, apart from some relatively minor physical disabilities that I consider inconsequential.  And when the subject came up, she offered that she would be delighted to marry me.

For those with experience, are there likely problems ahead of which I may be unaware?  Are Vietnamese women as good as they seem?  What about their sexuality, particularly with respect to the fact that this woman seems to be a virgin and is reluctant to discuss sexual issues?  Is sex often a problem with a Vietnamese woman?

Hamlet

[madmal]

... in response to Vietnamese character, posted by Hamlet on Jul 24, 2001

I am biased....but yes I think Vietnamese women are as good as they seem. And I'm not just talking about my wife, Doan. In the 3 years that I have been visiting Vietnam I have got to know many women. In your words they are mostly..."sincere, very hard-working, loyal, faithful"
To that I would add fun-loving happy well-adjusted.

Coming from our very liberal backgrounds we find it difficult to fathom women in their thirties or forties who are still inexperienced sexually. But in places like Vietnam it is very common. I have found the women to be well informed about "womens business". The fact is that until they have a husband, that facet of their lives is not explored. They are very feminine, sexy women....just not promiscuous. You don't get to put your hand in the cookie jar until you are married, but then the whole candy store is yours.

Mal

[Lori]

... in response to Re: Vietnamese character, posted by madmal on Jul 24, 2001

I agree with you mal. The women in vietnam are very beautiful and sexy. They are very innocent. Thai's sister who is 25 has never even been on a date. Thai himself is a virgin, and he is 32.
oh the simple life of the vietnamese. How I envy it so!!.
These people have so many hardships, but yet they are very happy and upbeat people.
One thing that really suprized me. I went over there thinking the men were very dominent over the women. That was not so. At least not in Thai's family. Of course the men went to work and the women stayed home and did "women" stuff. But we are talking about washing clothes by hand and things of that nature. The women really need to stay home and run the house. But believe me, when there is a discision to be made, the whole family is involved. It is not made by one gender or the other.
congrats again Mal and Doan!!!

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: Re: Vietnamese character, posted by Lori on Jul 24, 2001

Whan I tell people I'm married to a Japanese woman they immediately think I must be the boss and she the servant. Nothing could be farther from the truth. While she calls me the boss, it's a very rare time when either of us make any unilateral decisions about anything. All family decisions are made by the family, not by me.
-- Jeff S.

[Lori]

... in response to That's a common misconception about all ..., posted by Jeff S on Jul 25, 2001

My missconception came from the fact that the women usually stayed home. I quickly learned that just because they stay home does not mean that they are docile. Actually, I love the way things are between the men and the women there. Looking forward to experiencing that first hand *S*

[Lori]

... in response to Re: Re: Vietnamese character, posted by Lori on Jul 24, 2001

Thai sister is single and wants to marry an American. One drawback, she does'nt speak a lick of english.

[Hamlet]

... in response to BTW, posted by Lori on Jul 25, 2001

Lori,

I tried to email you at the address listed in your planet love profile but the email was returned.  Did you change your email address?

Hamlet

[Lori]

... in response to Re: BTW, posted by Hamlet on Jul 25, 2001

n/t