I have decided to post about my recent experiences on my third trip to Cali, Colombia. What I have to say hear has been said before by other peoples experiences..but I feel that some information is worth posting again...so here is my story...Please leave feedback if you are interested in me continuing this story..I hope that others can learn something from my experience...I hope I do not bore anybody...
As I have said this is my third trip on the search for a "Latin lifemate". The first trip was spent with one woman who did not have have the chemistry she needed to maintain the relationship once I left the city. The second trip was to Bogota and Cali where I had many dates but did not find that special someone with a a combination of looks, intelligence, and class that I was looking for. Before I go any further...I am not going to mentioned any agency names about my experiences. The agency used is very reputable and I do not want my experience to be a reflection on you choosing or not choosing a particular agency.
I am 40 years old and exercise regularly and consider myself in good shape. I had planned to give Bogota another try this summer when a girl from an agency in Cali wrote me in May. I will call her "Olga" (not real name) she was 21 years old, going to school. She did not fall into the age category I was looking for...which was 25 and above. Many people over the years have posted about the experiences with young girls in Colombia. The comment posted about young girls always goes something like this......" I know that they may seem more mature for being 21 but they are still 21!!" Looking back now at this recent experience these words are very true.. In many ways....21 is 21 and being in a different country does not make things different as far as age is concerned.
Which is why I had set my lowest age range for 25. But...I thought to myself..well she was very atttractive let me talk to her and see if maybe she was more mature then her age....Yes...I was not listening to my own advice which was from the many experiences shared on this board....but she was more attractive and appeared more mature then what I found on my search 6 months ago......so I took a chance hoping my advice and others on this board would be incorrect...
We talked for about a month before I made the trip to see her. The chemistry on the phone was very good but I am fully aware that phone chemistry was not the same as in person chemistry.
I decided that if I felt strong chemistry with her and felt she had it with me that I would stick it out until I saw any red flags in regards to the relationship or her character. I guess my feeling was at the time was that I had done the "agency scene" and knew what I was looking for.......If this felt right...I would stick it out for the time being...after all...I had two weeks....
She picked me up from the airport..and she was stunning...A beautiful smile...dressed very famine and sexy. I could tell by her actions that she felt chemistry with me and that I also had with her...I decided to spent time with just her to see how things would play out...
Well, the first week or so went great...She was sweet and kind and very affectionate. Very jealous over other woman with me. ( if I looked at someone) She also at the time came across as someone very sincere. ( had a hard time with me giving a taxi money, treated me to a manicure, got me a little gift when I arrived, always said "thank you" for meals.
On the third day she wanted me to meet her family. Her mother lives in the United States and she lives with her grandmother. During breakfast at the house. I met her father who is 41 years old ( and yes....since I am 40 this did feel a little awkward) Her dad was a very nice man. By the way I speak and understand a little Spanish. have studied for a few months..Olga has the same with English.....this did help tremendously in regards to communication. A pocket translator was used for more complex communication.
Olga excused herself to use the bathroom and grandmother told me something about her that makes complete sense now...but which did not at the time......"Olga no bueno humor" ......at the time I thought she was telling me that Olga did not have a good sense of humor......and I felt at that time she did because she made me laugh quite often..but I realized much later that the word "humor" in Spanish is mood...She was trying to tell me that Olga has bad moods.......
These "bad moods".....and many issues I would experience first hand from what I thought to be an "angel and very mature and sincere 21 year old woman"
To be continued...if you wish..........
