Meet 'em & marry 'em the same weekend

[Ralph]

... in response to Lots of truth to what you say. What to d..., posted by Pete E on May 31, 2003

Am I the only person that finds it funny we need to caution people to "take a few weeks at least" to get to know them? I think a few weeks is NUTS. Ending the DCF is probably a good thing in Colombia. I am sure there were many guys going down and marrying a girl they know for a week and in less than a month she is in the states. That is just crazy

[Pete E]

... in response to Re: Lots of truth to what you say. What ..., posted by Ralph on Jun 2, 2003

The new rules about direct counsoler filing will just add time to the visa process AFTER someone has already been married.The fiance visa starts looking more attactive.Who wants to get married and then wait to get her here?
A few weeks to get to now them is nuts?You sound like someone with no direct experience of the Colombia thing.Its not the same as here. And the distance and difficulty with time and money to travel cause guys to speed up things.Not smart maybe but understandable when you find the woman you
want.
How long a courtship do you think is needed?How would you go about it?How long do you think the above average Colombiana will wait around for a guy while he is making up his mind?

Pete

[Michael B]

... in response to Re: Lots of truth to what you say. What ..., posted by Ralph on Jun 2, 2003

Agree with you in the cases of 'bought my ticket Monday, met her Tuesday, married her Thursady'.........but if you've known her for a while, say 6 months, it was a good way to get her in the States fast....of course if you leave it open for the 6 month people, the 2 day people will use it too, with the potential for disaster that you mentioned. I forgot to in the other post, but I want to thank Bala for giving a good 'heads up' to guys who were planning to DCF anyway, now they know to move the wedding up to before the dead line. I'm not saying start your trip today and hope to find one in time to meet the deadline, I'm only saying move the wedding date up if you have an existing relationship that you're already sure of.

[beenthere]

... in response to Re: Lots of truth to what you say. What ..., posted by Ralph on Jun 2, 2003

Ralph,
I agree with you 100%!!!!  The cancellation of DCF's might hurt a little, but I think in the grand sceme of things, it will probably weed out some of the potential failures, due to the fact that couples will have to wait longer, & thus hopefully get to know each other better.
Of course, "quick" marriages can still happen under this ruling, but the lady will have to wait a little longer before she gets her visa.
Only time will tell on how this affects things.  We'll just have to see how things play out.

[beenthere]

... in response to Re: Lots of truth to what you say. What ..., posted by Ralph on Jun 2, 2003

Ralph,
I agree with you 100%!!!!  The cancellation of DCF's might hurt a little, but I think in the grand sceme of things, it will probably weed out some of the potential failures, due to the fact that couples will have to wait longer, & thus hopefully get to know each other better.
Of course, "quick" marriages can still happen under this ruling, but the lady will have to wait a little longer before she gets her visa.
Only time will tell on how this affects things.  We'll just have to see you thing play out.

[Miguel]

... in response to Re: Nuts, just nuts..., posted by jim c on May 31, 2003

Some good points.  After experimenting around with this for a while, I know that when I get serious enough to seriously consider marriage, I'm going to be spending a lot of time with the woman first by living in the same city.  Also, if two people aren't able to communicate by speaking the same language, it seems ridiculous getting married.

[Keith Smith]

... in response to Re: Nuts, just nuts..., posted by jim c on May 31, 2003

shoot me an e-mail: VCultist@aol.com.

[Calipro]

... in response to Nuts, just nuts..., posted by wizard on May 31, 2003

They are one trip wonders. I have seen it happen. If you get two desperate people together anything can happen.
Most of those guys have no idea what is available to them and maybe its for the best that they never find out.

[wizard]

... in response to Re: Nuts, just nuts..., posted by Calipro on May 31, 2003

I've seen more than my share of the one trip wonders myself... I just shake my head...