El Fin de JunFan

[Cali vet]

... in response to Re: Re: English lessons & Calivet, posted by robbysanjuan on Jun 29, 2002

Robby don't waste your time and credability being a sycophant for an off the wall megalomanaiac. No chic? You haven't been paying attention.

[robbysanjuan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: English lessons & Calive..., posted by Cali vet on Jun 29, 2002

That description is of yourself freak. Get your viagra refilled and get a life old man. Yeah those young hot Calenas really want you man. That is disgusting, your crusty, almost 60 year old butt chasing young chics down there. Do you do it with a shirt made of US dolar bills? You attack everyone here and act like you know it all. Go back to Jurrasic Park

[Cali vet]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: English lessons & Ca..., posted by robbysanjuan on Jun 29, 2002

.

[CaliBound]

... in response to Re: Re: El Fin de JunFan, posted by JunFan on Jun 28, 2002

What A Lousy Attitude ... Forget about Latinas or AW. Your next mate should be an 800 pound gorilla! I am glad that your ex-wife is safe back in Colombia. I would love to hear her story.

Ciao, JunFan
You Will not be missed!

[colman]

... in response to Sayonara, Jun Fan The Victim, posted by CaliBound on Jun 28, 2002

n/t

[Aaron]

... in response to Re: Re: El Fin de JunFan, posted by JunFan on Jun 28, 2002

....CHILD, making physical threats (as you have done often in the past on this board).

Cali-Vet followed your initial post with constructive input that could help you see things differently, being totally civil.

I met Cali-Vet during my last trip, and it was a pleasure for me.

And even if you could "knock-his block off," you still look like a fool.

If you don't like what I say, jump off a cliff.

Aaron

[Ted]

... in response to Re: Re: El Fin de JunFan, posted by JunFan on Jun 28, 2002

From reading this post I wonder why he got divorced?

[burbuja2]

... in response to El Fin de JunFan, posted by JunFan on Jun 28, 2002

Although I don't contribute much to the board, I read it just about every day.  I wanted to thank you very much for your insights.  I remember the post after your divorce and it certainly had a profound affect on my thinking.  In fact, I retrieved it from the archive just a few days ago for review.  I, for one, appreciate very much your contributions and would hope that you surface every now and again.

[JunFan]

... in response to Re: El Fin de JunFan, posted by burbuja2 on Jun 28, 2002

Thanks bud.  I appreciate it.

I don't mean to come across as too angry.  I just don't have much patience for people who ridicule from behind a keyboard, like half the bozos in this room

What do I know?  I'm just a college educated, 250k+ per year wage earner, 33, in shape, blah blah blah...that thought he had thought this through to the point of cover all his bases.  What do I know?  I have come full circle.  I have done the whole deal, start to finish.  I've done what all this guys are trying to speculate about.  Did I make mistakes? He!!  yes I did.  Did I learn enough to make it work next time?  Maybe.  The point is with what I know now, I wouldn't even risk it again.  That's the important point.

There are a few out there who will realize I actually know what I'm talking about. But frankly, I dont care.  The dream will be there, and therefore so will the dreamers.

and so it is...

[Patrick]

... in response to El Fin de JunFan, posted by JunFan on Jun 28, 2002

JunFan,

Can you tell everybody a little about the splits you're seeing?  I'm probably most interested in what the ladies are doing.  I think your ex went back to Colombia if I remember correctly, but what about the other three?  Are any of them trying to stay here in the US after the split?

[JunFan]

... in response to Re: El Fin de JunFan, posted by Patrick on Jun 28, 2002

I'm the lucky one as far as I can tell.  My woman went back to Colombia.  I was very generous with her.  She used the money I gave her to buy an apartment in BQ as an income property.  So, at least she has something to show for it.  If you are a gringo who is married and having problems...a word to the wise, do whatever it takes to get her on a plane if the sh%#t ever hits the fan.  

One of the couples, the woman realized the marriage is over, but is too ashamed to go back I think.  She wants to stay here and 'work'...ha.  So, he's got a problem in terms of her not wanting to get on a plane.  It's probably gonna take a wad of cash and a plane ticket to get rid of her...if he's lucky.

Another one, the woman brought her two kids here and now that looks she was a green card shark.  She is doing everything she can to make the guys life miserable.  I have not heard how the divorce was finalized.  Nice chunk of change on attorney's I'm sure.  

And finally, one of them was kinda a two-way decision, with the woman wanting to stay here for 3 mos so she can make some money before returning.  The gringo is buddies with some INS people and is gonna get her deported for tax evasion.  She was very deceiving...returning back to Cali to visit her family.  She returned with divorce papers, and apparently had bought an apartment in Cali with the gringos money.  She's a typical 24 year old Cali party chick...not marriage material.

None of them entertain the idea of ever doing it again.

Just the facts gentlemen.

Mike

[Onephd]

... in response to JunFan here, posted by JunFan on Jun 28, 2002


Do you know if any of the men used a prenup?  Always been curious about that especially from those men who have significant assests...

tjp

[JunFan]

... in response to use a prenup?, posted by Onephd on Jun 29, 2002

I had my $$ in a LLP.  The other guys did not have any protection for their asetts.  But as far as I can tell, none of them had any real significant asetts to protect.

For someone who DOES have some serious $, this process is viciously risky.  And I would submit, not worth it.

Hey, I spent $50k on that woman over 14 mos.  About $10k of it was 1/2 of the cash I had saved (in spite of how expensive these women can be), which was 'community property'.  About $2500 in legal, $1200 for last minute ticket for plane ride, etc. But I am free now.  And lovin' it.

[Onephd]

... in response to Prenup, posted by JunFan on Jun 29, 2002

,,,, whew... that was a huge investment.. ha ha.. I have seen different amounts that some guys say they spend.. wow.. sorry to hear that it didn't work out.. I keep everything you and others say close heart.. luckily I have a good friend (also my legal counsel ha ha) who makes sure I am not jumping the gun and makes sure I consider all angles, outcomes, possibilities..   The only bad thing is I am not at "that" level economically but will be soon.. the catch with me is, I'll would most likely have a wife before then.. so basically all that I will have will be community property. (ouch)

The major question is I guess is do these women seek out financial retribution if the marriage doesn't work? in a vindictive way?

I personally believe that the women is entitled to something since in many cases she will give up a job and such.  I think a cash settlement(correlated with the length of marriage, ie.) is ok to help her get back on her feet in her home country. I don't know.. hate to even think of stuff like this but I have to..

I would like to date a lady for a year and then do a K-1 visa to give her and I a chance to adjust to the difficultities that lie ahead.   I know from talking to several women that most of them do not think about the transition.  I was surprised at my Brazilian friend today whe she said that she knew it was be difficult being so far from her family and such.  No other woman I have chatted with has even acknowledged this.. (thats a scary thought).

Thanks for all your honesty and candidness.  Best of luck in the future.

[JunFan]

... in response to final question, posted by Onephd on Jun 29, 2002

"The major question is I guess is do these women seek out financial retribution if the marriage doesn't work? in a vindictive way?"

This is not necesarily a Latina thing here.  Pssssssst, women get pissed when you divorce them.  What they really do is want to kick you in the balls, but they can't legally do that....so they hit you in the next best place, the wallet.