Tests all work - Now for a question.

[Jimbo]

... in response to Just curious Jimbo, posted by Jeff S on Jan 17, 2005

But sometimes the criteria has to be arbitrary, just to get the process going.  I ended up looking at a lot of those 5'2" and under woman anyway because once my snail mail letters went out, I had plenty of time to look again.

Re: OCW - I had no preference for an OCW, but afer I learned more about them and met a bunch of them I was impressed.  Most of Sally's friends are OCWs.  She views them as less provincial but basically still good, simple, optimistic, family-oriented ladies.  When you're a lady living in Hong Kong you're going to know what a Fendi handbag is, no matter what your nationality.  As long as that's not a priority in her life (or she prefers the $10 knock-offs, which she does, and that means she knows the value of a buck), it's no big deal to me.  The OCWs that I met were sending a lot of their earnings home to their family.

I know this:  OCWs are willing to take big risks in order to better their lives.

Jim

[Jeff S]

... in response to Yes, it did, posted by Jimbo on Jan 17, 2005

... that OCWs are more likely to be looking for someone to support their family back home than home grown girls?

Lucky guy if your wife prefers the knock offs. I can't get away with that myself. It had better be the genuine article in my house.

- Jeff

[Jimbo]

... in response to Would you think then..., posted by Jeff S on Jan 17, 2005

But these women don't want to be prevented from doing it either.  They will most likely expect to work part-time to be able to keep some support going.  It's not much, a couple of hundred every few months is plenty unless the plans are big, like a new house.

I let Sally handle those decisions.  She knows when they're asking too often or asking for too much.  She determines the amount and I don't have to deal with it.

The big thing about these women is that they accept the risks involved in order to achieve success.  I know a lady who did this:  she quit her job in Manila, sold everything she owned, paid P30,000 to an agency to get her an interview in Singapore (that agency could have been a scam operation), met the agency guy at the airport so he could bribe an immigration official to get her out (work visas were not legal for Singapore at the time), arrived in Singapore with P5 in her pocket and an empty stomach, and waited for the first interview.  She's got 2 weeks to get accepted by an employer or else she goes back.

A rich Singporean Chinese lady comes in, says "I'll take you to my house.  If my daughter likes you, you're hired.  If not, I'll bring you back here.  Wait a minute, stand up... you are taller than me... are you a Filipina?"  As it turned out, the daughter liked her, and that job lasted 5 years.

This brave lady was just a typical Filipina; a church-going Catholic who never let a guy get past first base.  I have great respect for a lady like that - with dreams, persistence, values, and spirit.

Jim

[Bear]

... in response to I must not have made myself clear., posted by Jeff S on Jan 16, 2005

Like I said.  

I gnored the ads route and chatted with the ones who responded to my picture, info and bio with their own picture, info and bio.  Although I saw many in the ads that I thought were cute I didn't feel that that route warrented the effort.  I felt that those girls had an "agenda", would be more likely to lie and deceive and that the cutest girls probably already had several responses to their ads.  I believed that the girls I talked with in the mIRC chat channels were more innocent in their intentions (at least I did at that time)- many, if not most, were not even looking for a spouse.  I think my beliefs proved themselves out because I was able to find girls who had sincere intent quickly.

How did I pick between them?  I really didn't.  I just chatted with them and let them know of my intentions to come to the R.P. and find a wife.  The ones who didn't answer the questions I sent or asked for money I put less efforts into writing them and more into the others.  I remember one who dropped me because I refused to join her Iglesia ni kristo church.  Another got upset because I aked her what she'd do if I got in a grumpy mood and she respnded in the opposite of what I wanted.  Another was less than virtuous and tried to send me a virus attached to an e-mail because I called her on it.

If I had choose between the ads on the chinabride and cherry blossom websites I think looks would have been the innitial reason to write, then it would have gone about the same as it did through the chat channels.  Of course, I would have written those who specifically indicated certain traits they didn't like or did like ones I had.

The Bear Family

[Howard]

... in response to Tests all work - Now for a question., posted by Jeff S on Jan 15, 2005


For me it was simple.  Meet my wife sometime and you will see why

When Gerlie and I met, I was determined to prove to myself that this was not the route for me.  I had been through a handful of long but fruitless relationships, but a close friend--My adopted Sister  Dan's Wife Ched--urged me to try once again.

I couldn't wait for the two of them to go back to the Philippines and introduce me to her cousins and friends, 18 months seemed like such a long time to put my life on hold, so I decided to go it alone.

I looked around to find a reputable site that had chat and was email based.  I chose Cherry Blossoms.  My story was similar to Luther's.  Everyone that I wrote that promised a prompt reply, didn't keep their end of the bargin strengthening my gut feeling.

I turned to the chat room and met plenty of available, willing young ladies, but no one that I connected with on the level I had hoped to.  Just as I was about to give up hope, hope found me.

Gerlie stood head and shoulders above anyone else I met at Cherry Blossoms.  Heck, anyone I've ever met ANYWHERE!  It's not that she was the best available, she was the perfect Yin to my Yang.  With Gerlie it is all about her personality and sense of humor.  The fact that she is beautiful is just a pleasent bonus.  She makes me laugh, but most importantly she makes me feel safe and loved.  I never realized how important the last two items were to me until I met her, now I can't imagine living without them!

Over the years, we have developed a friendship that has become the most important thing in my life!  We have become a family, the two of us and that stability has made all the difference for me as we plan our future.  Before Gerlie, I had only hoped to find companionship.  In her, I have found a peace that has made me redifine my concept of love.

I feel truly blessed that she puts up with me

Keep the Faith!

H

[Carr]

... in response to Tests all work - Now for a question., posted by Jeff S on Jan 15, 2005

I'm testing as well.  Actually just checking up on how you guys are doing.  You are all doing well, that I can see.

[Bear]

... in response to Re: Tests all work - Now for a question., posted by Carr on Jan 16, 2005

Hi Carr,

Hope you Chris and sone had a great Christmas and a happy New Year.  

Whats new in your life?

The Bear Family

[Carr]

... in response to Re: Re: Tests all work - Now for a quest..., posted by Bear on Jan 16, 2005

New job, new house and 15lbs lighter.  Chris won the State championship for downhill racing, Colby will be 8 next month.

How many cubs do you have now?

[Jay]

... in response to Re: Tests all work - Now for a question., posted by Carr on Jan 16, 2005

Hi Carr :-)

[Bear]

... in response to Re: Tests all work - Now for a question., posted by Carr on Jan 16, 2005

Just one cub - Honey miscarried last month.  Still trying though.  Shes got most of her paper work done now and her AOS interview set for March.  Works part time for extra money at a large florist as an accountant.  Hoping we have our house on the 1st of April.  Honey failed the driving test twice now and refuses to even think about trying again.  As for me, I is promoted to a full fledge engamaneer now - my probationary period is over in 2 weeks so I am hoping for a big raise and bonus - should get it coz I's getting good grades on my submittals.  With the exception of losing my hair and the aches and pains that come with age - life is great.  

The Bear Family

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: Re: Tests all work - Now for a quest..., posted by Bear on Jan 16, 2005

Well, keep trying - practice makes perfect. That works for both driving and baby making BTW.

Congrats on the promotion. Pretty soon, you'll be able to drive a train in both forward AND reverse. (When people ask me what engineers do that's usually my response - drive a train.)

- Jeff

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: Tests all work - Now for a question., posted by Carr on Jan 16, 2005

Good to hear from you Carr. Well, after finally recovering from our Seattle weather, our good moods are finally returning. Looking for pointers on how to keep smiling with week after week of gray skies.

- Jeff

[Carr]

... in response to Re: Re: Tests all work - Now for a quest..., posted by Jeff S on Jan 16, 2005

How to keep smiling?  How about lots and lots of kisses and loving--this will keep your blood boiling for more and keep you warm all over.  Beats a warm cup of cocoa, heck you don't even have to be clothed haha.

[Jeff S]

... in response to Re: Tests all work - Now for a question., posted by Carr on Jan 16, 2005

Now that's the spirit!

- Jeff

[Stephen]

... in response to Tests all work - Now for a question., posted by Jeff S on Jan 15, 2005

I wrote to about 50 women at the same time.  About 30 responded back.  About 10 of those continued to be interested in me.

So you pray about it.  Then you pick the one that looks the best in tight jeans and the one that looks the best in a short skirt.  

Tess was the "tight jeans" winner.  A gal that looks good in tight jeans can't lie!

Stephen