This is a first for me here.  I actually know both subjects in the latest discussion  I'm very glad that Luther decided to come here!  I knew that you guys would treat him right

I know this will come as a shock to none of you , but my advice has been pretty much the same.  I know that Auntie Nene (Jovie) is a very good woman, I feel very strongly that her intentions are honorable and that she is quite smitten with our Luther

While I do know her a bit better than Luther, I certainly feel the same way about Luther.  I think the connection they have is very real and the kind that could stand the test of time.

Like many of us here, I understand the joy associated with finding, FINALLY, the person you feel you want to spend the rest of your days loving.  I remember how anxious I was when I first met Gerlie  How I "Knew" right away.

Unfortunately we all know my story.  I rushed in once before and regretted it.  That and circumstances beyond our control, prevented me from doing anything quickly.  Do I regret that?  Nope.  Sure I would have liked to have already had our first child together.  I know She will be my sould mate forever.... but we gained a confidence in each other's commitment that can only come from time spent getting to know each other.  A certain degree of comfort comes from really, I mean REALLY, knowing your partner well.  

I never had doubts in Gerlie, only in the fact that she really could accept me and my obvious flaws  Hehhehehehehe  My doubts were always about me, but they were crushed by her patience and acceptance.  I think we would have just as great a relationship if we had hooked up right away, but I'm not sure that we would appreciate what we have as much.  There is something to be said for waiting for what you desire.  Perseverence builds character

Obviously, I have been busy getting things for the wedding together and hanging with my honey  I knew if I sent Luther to here he would get good advice more quickly than I can deliver it right now

Keep the Faith!

God Bless all of you

H is for DELIRIOUSLY HAPPY

... in response to H is for DELIRIOUSLY HAPPY?, posted by Dave H on Oct 2, 2004

Posse Commander

You're initials will always bring a smile to my face  Life sure is good, isn't it?

Hey... do you know where I can get a Purple G-String in Howard-Size???  The wedding night, you know

HAHhahahahahahahaaaaa

Keep the faith

Maybe you should come to the mitten for Thanksgiving, but a week early so you can come to the wedding

See ya bro

H

... in response to I knew you guys would come through , posted by Howard on Oct 2, 2004

Hi DH,

Since you personally know both Luther and Jovie, I guess you’re in the best position to offer them advice on slowing down. Generally, I almost always agree that going slow is smartest and helps increase the odds of a successful marriage considerably.

However (comma): I hear a guy who apparently wants children and says that his fiancée desperately wants to have children and my heart goes out to them. Let’s face the facts. The woman’s age is critical. A woman at age 42 is normally not nearly as fertile as a woman under 30. I was reading recently that something like 87% of women are infertile at age 45.

If Luther and his lady are really serious about marriage and feel ready to make the commitment, and if they truly want to have their own children, then I would make an exception and recommend that they seriously consider taking the risk with a shorter courtship.

That’s why I suggested to Luther that they both get tested for fertility. They should be able to complete the necessary tests within a month or two. If for example her ovaries aren’t putting out quality eggs and her GYN finds that she is likely infertile, then the need to rush things is gone. But if they are both tested and found to be still able to conceive, then they have a whole different basis for making the decision to speed things up or not. If they do decide to move faster, then Luther should be making preparations to jump on a plane real soon to at least make a ‘scouting’ trip. She should at least have the opportunity to find out if he smells bad before she makes her decision (LOL).

Even if they can’t make their own babies, there is always adoption, egg donor IVF, and some other options to consider. But from Luther’s description of his financial situation, the price of some of those options may be out of their reach.

Howard, have you quit smoking yet? I’m only nagging you about it so your wife won’t have to. See what a nice guy I am? :-)

Ray

... in response to Re: I agree...But,, posted by Howard on Oct 4, 2004

Yep, you quit smoking between cigerettes....

Jon

... in response to Re: I knew you guys would come through ;..., posted by don2222 on Oct 2, 2004

Don,

While I am having too much fun to be on the internet as much as I used to... I will keep you guys informed  We're all pretty much family here

Keep the Faith!

H

... in response to Re: I knew you guys would come through ;..., posted by Windmill Boy on Oct 2, 2004

Windy,

You know I am rooting for you too old friend

Yeah 90 Days is kind of a pain for a traditional wedding, but there are plenty of things you can do in advance.  I knew the church and hall ahead of time and just picked the date once I knew when Gerlie was set to arrive.  Of course we changed it a few times, but with only positive results

Luther is a very enthusiastic and likable guy.  I think he will be a very good husband to my Aunt  Jovie is much the same and I look forward to seeing her married and happy.  She's a very sweet lady who deserves it

Hopefully soon enough you will be telling us about your wedding  I have you and Kat in my prayers

Keep the Faith Brutha

H