[This message has been edited by don2222]
I was talking with 5 other ex-pats yesterday, and the subject of date-rape came up. All of us had heard from many, many non-virgin Filipinas that the virginity was lost due to a previous Filipino boyfriend that forced her to have sex. Also, all of had heard from many single mothers that they became pregnant due to a single incident of forced sex by a previous boyfriend.
These are not bar girls, but women that we have met in the malls and restaurants,or penpals or neighbors, etc.
Rape is a horrible thing, but I just can't believe that it is so very common here, actually all of us commented that we really do not believe the stories that we hear here.
Of course, it does happen to some women, but you will hear this same, exact story from a very large percentage of the non-virgins here.
You will still meet some older Filipinas that are still virgins, but it seems fewer and fewer Filipinas are waiting until their wedding day. I am guessing that since the Filipino culture still places a lot of importance on virgin brides that a lot of Filipinas have decided to lie about their past. Virginity is not a quality that I seek in a woman , and most of the ex-pats here feel the same way. But it is sad that so many women here have perhaps decided to lie about something that is really bad (rape) and should be taken seriously. It seems that some would rather play the victim than be honest about their past. Maybe it is just part of saving face....
Don
