As I sit here eating a bowl of oatmeal...

[Lori]

... in response to Re: As I sit here eating a bowl of oatme..., posted by Georgina on Mar 16, 2001

I wish the men would stop generalizing women period. What has been said about the pinays and the american women sometimes makes me see RED.

[Dave H]

... in response to As I sit here eating pineapple and cotta..., posted by Lori on Mar 16, 2001

I am sitting here eating pineapple and cottage cheese too. LOL Maybe I will put myself in your shoes for a moment ))"Hmmm...I bet Dave H. looks terrific in his purple G-string, eating pineapple and cottage cheese...grrrr" Lori please! Sometimes I feel like I'm just a sex object on this board.

Dave H.

[Lori]

... in response to Now Lori..., posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2001

ok...ok...sometimes I see purple!!
You better stop it Dave, or your wifes gonna think I have the hots for you....btw--it was only ONE dream and I'm still trying to figure out if it was a nightmere.....lol...you are just too d a m n funny dude!!!
I have been sitting here laughing for about ten minutes before I could reply.
Lori "purple dreams" Mck.

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Now David..., posted by Lori on Mar 16, 2001

I dream of the s/he formally known as Prince. Yuck!!! And then he turns around and shakes that skinny little ass like he did on TV. Talk about a nightmare!

See Lori...it could be worse. Now that I mentioned this, I hope it doesn't happen to you.

I'm counting the days until your trip for you. )

Dave H.

[Lori]

... in response to Every time I dream of purple..., posted by Dave H on Mar 17, 2001

Thanks Dave...I am getting a little excited about my trip. Everything is in order now. Tickets, Visa,blah..blah..
I have saved up my goal of $2000 for spending money. And believe me, it was not easy. I had to cut my cable to basic. Get rid of my "extra's" on my phone line. I don't even use "VIVA" paper towels anymore. So, I have made some sacrifices for this trip. I haven'nt even went to get my hair done since october. I know these are simple sacrifices. And when you find someone so important to you in your life, these simple things mean nothing to you anymore. I think my older daughter hates me coz, we do not go shopping like we used to. We now go to the "dollar" theater on sundays and go to the museum on the free day.
It's so funny how my life has changed since I met Thai. The things I used to think were important are not important to me anymore.
The main thing is, I have not dated once since Thai came into my life. Not even before he asked me to marry him. I get mad when my "Ate" Adel tries to fix me up with someone.
This year I have spent alone, solely concentrating on this INS thing, and on Thai. Studying his culture, and bonding with his family here in America.
I hate to admitt it, but I think this is the first time in my life I have made any sacrifice for a relationship other than with my girls. It feel darn good, let me tell you!!! Of course I'll never let Thai know what I did to be able to be with him. Not about the second job, and certainly not about my "Viva " paper towels.
It is amazing to me how we have bonded through our letters. How I can feel so close to someone who I have never seen. For your info, I have a hard time trusting people. I have been burned alot, by men, and by former friends. I have come to think it is because maybe I am just too giving. I like to see people happy, and it kills me to see anyone suffer.
But anyway I am ranting now....Yes, my time is coming!!!!!!

I deserve it, and have earned it. I think for the first time in my life, I have a sense of peace. Wish me luck!!
Lori

[Carrisse]

... in response to Re: As I sit here eating a bowl of oatme..., posted by Georgina on Mar 16, 2001

Thanks Georgina...I wish you well.

[humabdos]

... in response to As I sit here eating a bowl of oatmeal....., posted by Carrisse on Mar 16, 2001

Hey we do have something in common I love oatmeal!!  If your husband lets you cook tuyo inside the house he must truely love you! lol
Carrisse do you beleive that there  are no filipina's coming here just to get a green card? come on girl ! Why is it there are more fraudulent cases coming from the Philippines than any other contry.   I for one never said all filipina's are gold diggers! The reson I keep bring this up is because I dont want these new guys many who have never even been to the philippines to get suckered in by a card shark.
If you have been here 7 years why are you walking on eggshells? I find this very strange!  Are you that unhappy here?  Why stay?
You don't like Affirmative Action? Women and minorities have fought for  50 years to pass that one.  How do you think the Kano who was borned and raised here feels when he gets passed up for a good job for some mexican woman?

I don't like all the negitive things on tv about the PI, the only good stuff about the PI is on the travel channel never on the news.
Some of you filipinas don't realize how hard it is to bring a filipina here when all there friends warn them of gold diggers and tell you of the stories of GI Joe getting married whlie at Clark air force bace and how this seemingly sweet filipina girl destroys his life with her gold digging ways only to dump him after getting her green card.
How many shelters for abused filipinas are there in the Philippines? Seems filipino men are very hard on their wive's to me. Take another look at a filipino movie slap slap bang bang. Why can't filipinas find a good man in the philipines? Seems there are plenty of men there? Whats up with that?                                              Take what's good and leave the things that are bad? hmmmm? I don't know about that one!
Your right trust your instinct its not easy but it can and does work!  I have so many happy married friends who are married to filipina! Including my brother married now for over seven years I love my little nice! she is so cute!
Where I live here in oregon it seems there are very very few gold diggers its almost unheard of. That is till my exwife hit town! lol   I like you Carrisse! I don't hold a grudge !  Lets be friends too :-)   Humabdos

[Carrisse]

... in response to Re: As I sit here eating a bowl of oatme..., posted by humabdos on Mar 16, 2001

Humabdos, when are you going to learn to slow down.  And go easy on the exclamation point.  I'm getting a big headache just by reading your post.

Did I say I'm not happy here?  Being married to a wonderful man makes it more than worthwhile.  I just wish that Americans are not so politically-correct, then we can all have fun and laugh at ourselves.

I'm not saying that I don't like Affirmative Action, I'm just trying to make you guys see that it is not what its cracked up to be.  My hubby and in-laws were on the receiving end of this action--as I have so it is a two-edged sword.

You are right, I have no right complaining about my government's inaction.  I do have a right to whine though.

You actually think that we cannot find a good man back home that's why we married foreigners?  My Dad was a good man, so was my grandpa.  My brothers are all happily married to fellow Pinays.  What you are not understanding is that most of us marry for love.  Sure, there are gold diggers and green card sharks among us just as there are bad drivers among the good ones on the road.  You just have to be careful.

[humabdos]

... in response to Maaaaaannnn...., posted by Carrisse on Mar 16, 2001

Sorry about my!!!! But I 'm just a poor dumb Pandi! oops I did it again!   PS are you a good driver?

[humabdos]

... in response to Maaaaaannnn...., posted by Carrisse on Mar 16, 2001

Will I be blasted if I post about bad drivers too? LOL! Smile!  ;-)

[MAY]

... in response to As I sit here eating a bowl of oatmeal....., posted by Carrisse on Mar 16, 2001

I love it.......*s*.....it makes me more proud to be in the league of Filipinas like you.

No words would have phrased it as beautifully as you did.  Tho' I may not be an authority in the subject of inter-racial marriage or even marriage for that matter,  I have known other filipinas who have gone through what you have experienced.

Thank YOU!!!   =)

[MAY]

... in response to Re: As I sit here eating a bowl of oatme..., posted by MAY on Mar 16, 2001

Missed out one very important fact.....and that is how we, as a culture embrace each other as family.

And just like a family,  you're starting your day while i have just ended mine and am off to bed (back here in the Philippines)......night and day.....ying and yang.....YET  the ties that bind us together as fellow filipinas have once again been proven....and maybe, just maybe, others also will realize that no matter what nationalites we all come from, at the end of the day,  what matters most is that we all agree and make this world a better place.

Til tomorrow.....*s*....hey, this is getting to be a habit....*s*

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Re: As I sit here eating a bowl of o..., posted by MAY on Mar 16, 2001

Hi MAY,

I am a bit confused about your statement; "as a culture we embrace each other as family." Don't take me wrong, I love the Filipino people and felt very welcome there. But it seems that outside of the immediate family, that love and togetherness as a people, is only on the surface. The biggest complaint that I hear from Filipinas is about the "crab mentality" and how Filipinos don't stick together to help each other and their country. What is your opinion?

Dave H.

[rgg]

... in response to Question..., posted by Dave H on Mar 16, 2001

Hi Dave,

Indeed some Filipinos are guilty of crab mentality, where one person tries to put down or destroy another's reputation simply because the other person is successful or better off than he is.  This has led to disunity among Pinoys residing in other countries.  This has replaced the "bayanihan spirit" practised by our elders, where help is given outright to one's neighbors without expecting anything in return.  In this competitive world such as ours, its a rat race and everyone wants to succeed at all costs.       rgg

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Question..., posted by rgg on Mar 17, 2001

Hi rgg,

This unhappiness with the attitudes of other Filipinas has been expressed to me by overseas workers and Filipinas now living in the US. It seems, once outside the Philippines, it is survival of the fittest. Let us hope that the "bayanihan spirit" will grow stronger in the Philippines and spread to other countries.

I noticed that the Filipinos are much closer as a community in the Philippines. They appear very happy and friendly. Not to say that there are not problems or competition. My observations were only for several weeks, during my one visit to your country. In the US, I have some Filipinos in my church that don't associate or say hello to each other. At first my assumption was that they were perhaps from other Asian countries.

Thank you for your answer.

Dave H.