Gold-diggers?

[Bear]

... in response to Re: Gold-diggers?, posted by Timee on Mar 17, 2001

I have heard maybe 10 guys in 20+ years that have bad stories about Filipinas.  I have heard 1000 a year have bad stories about American women.

I think you create and live your own worst nightmare.  To say all the Filipinas are like those around Subic and Angeles is very short-sighted.  And not all Americans did selfishly while there.  Nor do I think those girls expected differently from what they received although maybe some hoped for differently.  Just like I do not think that the girls going to Japan expect any differently.  

I know numerous Fil-Am families here in the US and not one, let me repeat, not one has any marrital problems.  I have heard of more problems on this board in two years than of the hundreds of Asian-American families I known in my 40+ years.  Honestly I had only heard of 2 before I started on this board  One was the Americans fault (they never divorced) and in the other the Japanesse girl publically apoligized.

To generalize all Filipinas because of someones inablity to find the right one is unbelieveable.  To have one use you as you have used them and then to say they are bad is to say all Americans men are bad too.  There are good and bad in every place but not all bad or all good in one place either.

Bear

[curt]

... in response to Nay sayers., posted by Bear on Mar 17, 2001

nt

[Bear]

... in response to I think thee stretches the truth!   nt, posted by curt on Mar 17, 2001

nt

[humabdos]

... in response to Gold-diggers?, posted by Bear on Mar 17, 2001

Bear Please don't take this the wrong way.  You & your mahal will need the help of God.  I saw your pics over on Mag-anak your right your  Mahal is a 10+!
I sure hope she can fight off all the kano's who will be hitting on her evey day.   She looks quite young.

I will pray for you.  Humabdos

[Honey]

... in response to Re: Gold-diggers?, posted by humabdos on Mar 17, 2001

hey! I think you need good glasses. people here do not think I'm beautiful. actually, my husband is just too handsome for me. I even get jealous most of the time when girls here would say he's handsome but I can do nothing about that 'coz he is really gwapo. I do not think there will be guys who will be hitting on me everyday but if ever there will be I would beat them up myself before Bear comes to the rescue. :-)

God bless us all!

Bear's Honey

[kevin]

... in response to Re: Re: Gold-diggers?, posted by Honey on Mar 18, 2001

And that's what matters.  Your world is Bear's world, and vice versa.

With all this stuff I hear about "1 to 10" scales, this bothers me in persuit of love.  That kind of talk reduces love down to a kind of commodity.  What really matters is that you'r a "10" in each other's eyes.  I don't like the kind of woman who has the attitude that she think she's God's gift to men.

When I love a woman, she's always "the most beautiful woman in the world".  In my eyes anyway.  The challenge is to find someone who will feel the same about me and live by her claim.  I have hope that I will realize true love someday.

I really admire both you and Bear alot.  May you have a beautiful life together.

- Kevin

[Bear]

... in response to Re: Gold-diggers?, posted by humabdos on Mar 17, 2001

nt

[humabdos]

... in response to And how do u expect me to take that?......., posted by Bear on Mar 17, 2001

How can I say this tactfuly?  I don't think I can. Bear I know your a nice guy and I have enjoyed reading your stories and trip reports. Hmmm well here goes don't get mad ok?  I am not much with words like you but ... and I do not mean this in a hurtful way at all.   An old guy with a large belly with a 10 like your wife... it can be a problem I have seen it happen. I have also seen it work out fine I hope and pray you guys are as happy as a Bear in honney!

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: And how do u expect me to take that?..., posted by humabdos on Mar 17, 2001

Humabdos,

Don't hate us because we are beautiful. Right Bear? You should see me in my purple G-string, with my belly hanging over the waist band. ;o)) I am sad that I missed Bike Week at Daytona this year. Guys like us are gods there. ;o))

Someone has to fulfill these women's fantasies.

Dave H.

[kevin]

... in response to Sexy Bodies..., posted by Dave H on Mar 18, 2001

A guy like you doesn't even need an engine on his bike for propulsion.  LOL

- Kevin

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Sexy Bodies..., posted by kevin on Mar 18, 2001

N/T

[Bear]

... in response to Re: And how do u expect me to take that?..., posted by humabdos on Mar 17, 2001

It is often said but not understood.  You get what you look for.

Bear

[Bear]

... in response to Your experiences are very limited then, posted by Bear on Mar 17, 2001

me two years ago when I was over 300 lbs then.  Honey has already gotten mad at me for losing too much weight.  Don't tell her but I am down to 210 now and will probably be 175 before she gets here.  She actually thinks that I am too "gwapo" and she can't compete.  And I have told her to expect a lot of guys to make passes at her here.  She says we can kick their asses together (smile).

Bear

[humabdos]

... in response to You should have seen....., posted by Bear on Mar 17, 2001

Good job Bear!  How did you get her to put up with your beard? Is that why she calls you bear?   She is a good reson to stay fit right?  Have you heard of that oatmeal tuyo and rice diet?

[Bear]

... in response to Re: You should have seen....., posted by humabdos on Mar 17, 2001

I let her feel two days of growth on my face and then my goatee.   Then asked her to choose.  I have since offered to shave and she said no.  Still she didn't allow me to grow a full beard either.

Besides on the weight it was done for health not for her.  I had a heart attack and was unknowingly diabetic (the curse of my "ex").  She has been wonderful in watching what I eat and helping me control my diet.  She actually likes that belly?  Don't ask me why?  I do not think that American standards apply when it comes to why they pick their mates.  They are not inundated with "sex" and "image" as we are here.  She picked me for my dreams and intentions and where she fit in them, not my looks.  Although we know she is a 10+ she doesn't have that opinon of herself and thinks I am "too handsome for her" because several of her friends have told her so.

She calls me "Bear" because of a nickname I got when I worked offshore in the 80's.  When I asked her what she wanted me to call her she said "Honey" so I said thats good because I'm a Bear.  Since then she calls herself BearHoney short for Bear's Honey and me Bear.  I hadn't used "Bear" for 20 years but its okay with me if it makes her happy.

I think another point is that I have let her know from the beginning that she's my only goal and purpose and I intend to do what it takes to make her happy within the means Heavenly Father has allowed me.  She is not a greedy or selfish person and is very frugal with what I give her.  She has only asked for funds for her books and fees at college - nothing else.  I have even had to make her buy a mattress (gosh that was a hard bed she has).  It is expected of me to help her parents have a nicer home to live in and her siblings go to college or allow her to work for those things.  I found while I was in Davao that a really nice 3 bedroom home is only about $10K and her tuition is about $200 3x year.  Honestly I asked every girl I wrote what would be expected of me.  Everyone had a similar expectation.

She has seen I will let no one mess with her either.  I took her college to the mat for abusing her and charging her "extra fees" for marrying me.  She recently received an apology and a re-imbursement for the extra fees I had to pay on our vacation/honeymoon.  I loved sending those letters to the Catholic Diocese in Davao. They are a supporter of her college.  I claimed physical abuse and forced labor on Sundays then letting them know I'd envolve the Catholic Diocese here in Houston making it an international incident.  They settled in 2 weeks.

Bear