Hey Ray.. Do you think...

[Jeff S]

.. this guy is for real:

http://www.planet-love.com/wwwboard/russian/messages/88330.html
http://www.planet-love.com/wwwboard/russian/messages/88379.html

- Jeff

[stefang]

... in response to Hey Ray.. Do you think..., posted by Jeff S on Apr 25, 2003

Hi Jeff this sounds like the new age American male. I know a lot of guys who think only of themselves and no one else. Apparantly this guy thought of getting sex from his wife but when he didn't have enough money for himself let alone a wife and child he decided to get rid of the family. I guess to him a foreign family is just another investment and since it costs him money he needs to get rid of it.

[Ray]

... in response to Hey Ray.. Do you think..., posted by Jeff S on Apr 25, 2003

...he probably is for real. Just another reason for all those ladies overseas to be extremely careful who they choose for a mate. It sounds like she needs a lawyer.

Scarry!

Ray

[Mita]

... in response to I think..., posted by Ray on Apr 25, 2003

It really is scary as you say, Ray.  Doesn't being married mean staying together for richer or poorer?  
If my husband ever told me he had to ship me back to the Philippines because he couldn't afford me anymore, I'd tell him he has to be ship us both back.

[Jeff S]

... in response to I think..., posted by Ray on Apr 25, 2003

You're absolutely right. I had to read and re-read those posts over and over again, because I couldn't believe what I was reading.

- Jeff

[Pordzhik]

... in response to Hey Ray.. Do you think..., posted by Jeff S on Apr 25, 2003

It's a scenario that could be real, so it's worth some thought.....

[Jeff S]

... in response to Don't really matter, posted by Pordzhik on Apr 25, 2003

A guy brings a woman and her daughter halfway around the world, marrys her and starts a new life together. Then he runs into a bt of financial trouble, so he's thinking of trying to get the INS to deport his wife and daughter, to save him some bucks?

The only thing worth thinking about is the definition of "chutzpah." The generally accepted definition is: killing your mother and father, then asking the court for mercy because you're an orphan. Maybe this scenario can knock that definition off the #1 spot.

- Jeff

[Dave H]

... in response to Worth some thought?, posted by Jeff S on Apr 25, 2003

Hey Jeff,

I loved that definition! ROFLMAOCUMLTNTPIMP!!!

I think you and Ray may have been a little hard on the dude. He could have sent them out to work the streets in the middle of winter to pay back their debt. 8oO TNTPIMP (Trying Not To Piss In My Pants).

Dave H.

[Ray]

... in response to I dunno..., posted by Dave H on Apr 25, 2003

I dunno too...

I'm sure there is a lot more to this guy's story than we see in his posts (I hope), but from what he said, it sure does look like he is trying to dump them. Just because things get a little tough, that's no reason to forget your marriage vows and throw your loved ones out on the street. It just sounds so shallow...

Ray

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: You dunno..., posted by Ray on Apr 25, 2003

Hey Ray,

Just my attempt at a little humor. (Had to live in a sewer pipe to relate). ))) What he posted as a possible solution didn't look good! From reading his post, he seemed to start out with his cards all in order, when everything began to fall apart. I am sure he is in a tough situation and I wouldn't wish that upon anyone! He must be struggling for answers at this point and maybe just considering possibilities. I hope he is able to communicate with his wife about his troubles. If she is a good woman, she will stand by him. He seems to have doubts...

Dave H.

[Pordzhik]

... in response to True..., posted by Dave H on Apr 25, 2003

he suspects she's been looking for a richer man.

[Jeff S]

... in response to From an earlier post, posted by Pordzhik on Apr 26, 2003

He may suspect that, but I suspect she's looking for a more sincere, comitted man, and he just interprets it that way.

Yes, I know there are women who follow the cash - they're usually called crack whores, not too many middle aged women with daughters with college scholarships.

Don't get me wrong, I do sympathize with his predicament, but not much with his attitude in trying to get himself out of it. The measure of a person's character is what they do when the chips are down, not when everything is going well.

In all fairness, I'm sure there's plenty more to the story than the few paragraphs he's presented to us. But what he elected to tell seems to reveal far more about his character than hers.

- Jeff

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: From an earlier post, posted by Jeff S on Apr 26, 2003

Hi Jeff,

My wife and kids will always eat first! It's about character. I hope there is much more to the story than was presented!

Dave H.

[Pordzhik]

... in response to Re: From an earlier post, posted by Jeff S on Apr 26, 2003

"The measure of a person's character is what they do when the chips are down"

If it ain't worth fighting for, it ain't worth having.

You'd wonder why he fetched this woman over in the first place?