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[Humabdos]

... in response to Hi Don2222..Been thinking about You, posted by greg on Aug 30, 2002

Had you have said SOME instead of "MOST"  You would have been a little closer to the truth. I think the truth of the matter is that some of us made the wrong choice (like me the first time) Others where deceived. As you know it's not easy to get out of the Philippines and yes SOME will do or say ANYTHING to get out. Others even the poorest wouldn't even think of using someone like that. Anyone who has been to the Philippines 3 or 4 times and spent more than a week or two has seen a good variety of old, fat, bald, weird, skinny, freeks walking around the mall with a 19 year old sexy hard body filipinas. "lets go shopping honey" he he he "give me money" "o yes and my brothers,sisters, aunt, uncle need some stuff too" "you have gold Visa card"?

Now just because this filipina would take advantage of such a..... ummm... SUCKER can you blame her? Well maybe, maybe not.  Maybe the guy had nothing better to do with the money he saved all his life.

If People would pick someone a little closer to their own age and body type there would be much fewer problems.

Then you have the normal guys like Don2222 who seemed to have made the right choice but things just don't work out
mostly because of the age diffrence and the baby issue or what ever.(seems to happen a lot) :-(  

HUMMM WOULD THIS PERSON BE ATRACTED TO ME IF SHE WHERE HERE IN THE USA ALREADY?

jUST MY .O3

Humabdos

[Mars]

... in response to Greg, posted by Humabdos on Sep 1, 2002

..and truthful too.....

Cool man!

[greg]

... in response to Greg, posted by Humabdos on Sep 1, 2002

I'm happy that you found the Love of your Life. God Bless

[Ray]

... in response to Hi Don2222..Been thinking about You, posted by greg on Aug 30, 2002

Greg, a few comments about some things you said in your post.

Your advice that guys should take their time and not rush into marriage is good thinking. But then you lost it.

First, you missed the whole point because that’s NOT what Don said. Actually, he said “Many Filipinas are so eager to leave the Philippines that they will agree to just about anything”. There may or may not be “some” truth to his statement, but when you say that “MOST Pinays would do or say anything to get to America for a better life”, you’re dead wrong. That’s nothing but an ignorant negative stereotype and I find it very insulting. I don’t know how many Filipinas that you have known in your lifetime to make you an expert on the subject, but from my experience I can guarantee that you are full of it. Why don’t you just say that the few Pinays that you have known were all liars if that’s the case, but don’t even try to lump a whole race of women into that category. If you or anyone else really believes that most Filipinas are a bunch of lying green card sharks, then why don’t you go look in another part of the world???

You also imply that the guys who chose a good one just got lucky. More insults Greg! Give us some credit for using our minds and our common sense when we picked a good woman and quit with this crap that we just got lucky. Maybe you weren’t lucky Greg, or maybe you just don’t know how to chose the right woman, I don’t know. But I’m getting a little tired of these insulting remarks of yours.

Just my $.02,

Ray

[Dave H]

... in response to Wait just a minute!, posted by Ray on Aug 31, 2002

Hey Ray,

From my "personal experience," my wife and her sister would have done just about "anything" to stay in the Philippines. In fact, I believe that my sister-in-law and her husband will be living back in the Philippines within the next year or so. Why did they both come here then? To be with the men they love. If I was not raising my children, I would most likely be living in the PI right now. My wife knew she would have to live in the US when she decided to marry me. If she didn't love me, it would have been very easy to just say no to my proposal. They lived simple lives in the Philippines and don't want anything more if they return...no big houses, cars, servants, jewelry... They lead very simple lives here.

Dave H.

[Stephen]

... in response to I agree!, posted by Dave H on Aug 31, 2002

Where would you live in the Phils.  Surely not Butuan City!!!

Tess and I like Cagayan de Oro.  We've talked about living there in the future.  But not Butuan.  Just nothing there.  I didn't care for it at all.

Stephen

[Nathan]

... in response to Hey Dave.., posted by Stephen on Aug 31, 2002

Hi-

  I might very well end up back in Cagayan De Oro myself...it is a good medium size city and most of it is pretty safe, with good services and shopping....

Nathan

[Dave H]

... in response to Hey Dave.., posted by Stephen on Aug 31, 2002

Hey Stephen,

We have a house in Butuan. You're right, there's not much there, but a lot of family. I like to travel through the barangays, down the river, into the countryside and bundok. We're also looking to buy a place on the beach in Bohol one of these days or perhaps a farm. CDO would be very nice.

Dave H.

[Dave H]

... in response to Most Filipinas want children....mine doe..., posted by donb2222 on Aug 29, 2002

Don,

I hope that things turn out well for each of you. Best wishes.

Dave H.

[Jeff S]

... in response to Most Filipinas want children....mine doe..., posted by donb2222 on Aug 29, 2002

Don:
Great to hear from you but sorry to hear the news. I sincerely hope this works out for the best for both of you.

-- Jeff

[Humabdos]

... in response to Most Filipinas want children....mine doe..., posted by donb2222 on Aug 29, 2002

I am very sorry to hear that Don. I don't know what to say :-(   I went through the immaturity and age diffrence with my ex-wife (spoiled brat)  She was nineteen I was 38. She didn't really want kids (at least not with me) that would had messed up her plan ($$$ and a Greencard)

I've been there not long ago so I do understand what your going through even though your divorce is under much diffrent circumstances than mine.

My mahal Sallie is 33 and much more mature (maybe she can straiten me out) Theres a big diffrence in maturity between 20 and 30 year old filipinas! of AW's for that matter.

I hope some of these new guys will wake up and smell the espresso!
If your 300lbs and 50 or older DON'T marry a little girl,
why not find someone in her 30's or 40's maybe a little over weight also?   Just my $.03

Humabdos

[shadow]

... in response to :-(, posted by Humabdos on Aug 30, 2002

For what it's worth, Don's not 50, nor 300 lbs.

I definately do agree with the point you were trying to make, though. You're absolutely right, there is a big difference in 10 years.

Larry.

[Humabdos]

... in response to Re: :-(, posted by shadow on Aug 30, 2002

I was referring to Capt. Dave not Don. I was thinking what a great looking couple they where in the PL site.

Hum

[Stephen]

... in response to Most Filipinas want children....mine doe..., posted by donb2222 on Aug 29, 2002

asdf

[Tim]

... in response to Most Filipinas want children....mine doe..., posted by donb2222 on Aug 29, 2002

Don, I'm very sorry to hear your news. We can't begin to understand all the details of your breakup, but I'm sure you are doing what you think is right. Perhaps later after things settle down you can share some of your thoughts with us.

As you may remember, the matter of children (me not wanting any) was a big issue in my search for a wife. Wendy and I talked about it alot during our courtship. In retrospect, I think I was wise to choose someone older (like me), who was past the prime years of childbearing. This lead me to believe her when she said "I don't want kids".

Our 2-year anniversary is coming up in 3 weeks and she is still of the same mindset. Thank Goodness.

Regards, Tim