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[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Bear...., posted by Bear on Sep 4, 2002

Hey Bear,

My heart goes out to him. It's a shame he can't see the truth. His starving for affection is going to cost him a broken heart and an empty wallet. From what I've read, he has been warned by many, for a long time.

Dave H.

[kevin]

... in response to Too bad...., posted by Dave H on Sep 4, 2002

I think his heart already is broken.  It's just still stunned and numb to accept the truth.  But he'd better see the light fast or he'll be miserable for the rest of his life.  This girl is masterminding the destruction of any hope the guy might have for a brighter future.

- Kevin

[Dave H]

... in response to Bear...., posted by Stephen on Sep 4, 2002

Hey Stephen,

Some of those guys on M-A really know how to support a lady in a luxurious manner! If I ever move to the Philippines, I'm going to pretend I'm a Filipina and get a few as pen pals. I'll live like a King! )))

Dave H.

[Bear]

... in response to A Good Philippines Business..., posted by Dave H on Sep 4, 2002

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[Jay]

... in response to A Good Philippines Business..., posted by Dave H on Sep 4, 2002

Hey Dave,

Some guys just don't get it. Bill and Walt's women could have been the nicest women in the world. However, by sending them thse huge amount's of money, they are possibly ruining them. That's like hitting a small lotto in the Philippines. 750.00 dollars a month?? I could have lived REAL nice on that when I was livin' in the RP in the 90's! That includes all the money I would have spent drinkin' in bar's everyday. What do they spend it on??

Jay

[Stephen]

... in response to Re: A Good Philippines Business..., posted by Jay on Sep 4, 2002

I totally agree.

I don't know what she would be doing with that kind of money.

I filed the fiancee visa docs in June, 2000.  Tess got here in November, 2000.  Tess was employed at a salary of about $190 per month.  In those 6 months I gave her $700 to get ready and get here.  In addition I sent another $300 so she could go home when her brother died unexpectedly.  But she never complained.  

Since Tess got here I've never worried about her spending money.  She's very tight-fisted with the money.  By the way, she had a piece of paper detailing how she had spend every cent of money I'd sent to her.

But if you have trouble with the lady spending money when she's in the Phils.....you're gonna be over your head when she get to America and starts spending.

I'm glad I don't have that kind of problem.

Stephen

[kevin]

... in response to ABSOLUTELY....yes...., posted by Stephen on Sep 4, 2002

After Tess and you were married, I think you'd mentioned going to a bankruptcy trial involving a Filipina-American (maybe Tess mentioned this), and Tess acted as an interpreter for the client.  It's my opinion that a good percentage of Filipinos in America drive themselves and others into dire financial straits (spouses, other gullible lenders)just trying to keep ahead of the Jones' and impress the other kaibigan.

- Kevin

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: ABSOLUTELY....yes...., posted by kevin on Sep 4, 2002

Hey Kev,

Gold Digger Rule #1 - See what kind of cell phone she owns. Is she says she owns or wants a Nokia 7650...dump her and run away...FAST!!! )

Marife didn't own or want a cell phone...still doesn't. When we're together, we actually talk to each other and not a third party. Come to think of it, she doesn't ask for anything or buy much either. When she does buy something, it's usually for me or someone else. )

Dave H.

[kevin]

... in response to Simple..., posted by Dave H on Sep 4, 2002


when you're married and you actually spend less on non-essentials, as you've said, it really means your in a healthy relationship.  I must admit lately I've been blowing alot, perhaps partly because I recently finished school and there's alot of simple things (but it adds up) that I want and partly because I'm bored.  It's a form of personal fulfillment for the time being.  Hey, I like my independence.  I'm not about to give it up for somebody who wants her own independence at my expense.  Shall I marry someday, it's got to be for a greater good; my personal fulfillment and that of a special woman.

- Kevin

[Dave H]

... in response to I think . . ., posted by kevin on Sep 4, 2002

Hey Kev,

Now's a good time to spoil yourself a little. Don't rush it! Keep it casual. Being lonely and single is better than being in a bad marriage...any day! I was single most of my life. I was happy most of the time and I can't ever remember stealing, cheating on or lying to myself. ) Of course being in a great marriage takes the prize. Patience!

Dave H.

[kevin]

... in response to Think about this..., posted by Dave H on Sep 5, 2002


contrary to what studies say, I think it is more healthy for a man to be single than to be stuck in a dead-end bad marriage.  A couple of months ago, I ran into a guy at Wal-Mart who remembered me from church.  We got into a conversation. I felt so bad for him, he was dreading going home because his wife would attack him in one way or another (a real shrew personality).  He told me he sees a divorce coming, but he still wants to hold on to his marriage.  Well, I think he's crazy not to try to get it overwith as soon as possible, given that he admitted his wife kicked him in the groin a couple of weeks earlier.  He then told me that he couldn't dare to defend himself because if he did, it would constitute domestic violence against a woman.  I'd rather be dead than be in a situation like that.  Things didn't even get that bad with my ex-wife (perhaps we weren't married long enough).

- Kevin

[Dave H]

... in response to You're absolutely right . . ., posted by kevin on Sep 5, 2002

Some people measure a successful marriage in years. Not me! I have a retirement community nearbye. I can't help but feel pity for many old men that I see in the stores with their wives. (I know it goes both ways, but seems to go this way more) Many probably have 50 years or more tied to the old ball and chain. The whole time they are getting nagged, ridiculed and yelled at. They respond with a meek "Yes Dear!" I wouldn't want to be them!!! BTDT! It's very refreshing to see an older couple who hold hands and are sweet to each other...probably newlyweds. LOL

Dave H.

[Dave H]

... in response to Simple..., posted by Dave H on Sep 4, 2002

Gold Digger Rule #2 - If she uses the words "BUY" and "ME" in the same sentence...Stop! Drop! and Role away QUICKLY! )

Dave H.

[Jay]

... in response to Rule #2, posted by Dave H on Sep 4, 2002

Hi Dave,

Actually "buy me" can be good. As in, "Buy me a drink, sailor?" or "Buy me for the evening?". Hehehehe

Jay

[Dave H]

... in response to Re: Rule #2, posted by Jay on Sep 4, 2002

N/T