Are we a dysfunctional family?

[Howard]

... in response to Are we a dysfunctional family?, posted by shadow on Aug 24, 2002

Lar,

You know my story, but I will reiterate

Let me first address the "Misfit" concept.  Personally, I don't consider myself a misfit. (Unless your talking about clothes off the rack!  LOL )  Maybe I am, we could take a poll  LOL

Socially I do fine.  I'm usually the life of the party and have more people wanting to hang out than I have time for.  Not to be a prick, but I choose my friends very carefully and there never seems to be a shortage of quality people to hang out with.  Dating has only really been a problem for me in the sense that I just haven't found the qualities I am looking for in anyone I dated here.  

I have joked many times that I committed the two cardinal sins of dating:  I am overwieght and poor  But really, it's just a joke.  Sure, either one of those factors has probably cost me a date or two in my day, but it's not like I know anyone, single, that I have ever considered "perfect" for me.  If either of those factors made the difference, then she wasn't perfect, ya know?

I have no anymousity toward American Women.  My distaste is for the lack of morality and character I see present in many Americans in total.  Men AND women.  I don't judge, I just want someone who values the things that I do in the end.

I have met a few PL-ers in person and I certainly would consider them misfits!  I have talked to more on the phone and via email and really only Hamilton triggers any kind of Misfit alarm  LOL  Sorry Dave, HAD to  A few have very strong religious views, but I find most to be about where I am in that area.  

No one that I have had any real relatioinship with from here seems to have an "Asian Fetish" and I certainly don't.  Oh, I know they're around, but they usually don't last here  LOL

The one thing I find to be a common thread among the melting pot of culture, religion, race, nationality, etc... that is PL's regulars is that we are all looking for something better than we have found so far.  NOT to say that that certain something isn't available here in the US, just that we haven't found it until we went abroad.  

If anything, the fact that we all seem to have very particular expectations is what makes us similar.  That's the thing I have noticed most in similarity between the die hards here.  We know what we want and aren't willing to compromise

Dysfunctional?  Maybe  But isn't everyone dysfunctional by someone's standards  LOL

Keep it up Lar... this looks like it could get pretty juicy!  LOL

Keep the Faith!

H

[shadow]

... in response to Dysfunctional... Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm, posted by Howard on Aug 25, 2002

good points.

Larry.

[Dave H]

... in response to Dysfunctional... Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm, posted by Howard on Aug 25, 2002

Hi H,

ROFLMAO!!! Dang, I thought that I could get past your "misfit alarm." :oD Speaking about clothes off the rack...I'm sure that you can relate as to how hard it is to find a "tasteful" (for Hum, lucky dude...never had to eat it) G-string off the rack, that fits like a glove. I'm not over weight, simply vertically challenged. I just can't keep doing my nightly dance routine with my same ol' purple model. I may have to buy a sewing machine and make my own. Perhaps I can call Bobby Trendy, from the Anna Nicole Show, to design me a few. )))

Dave H.

[SteveB]

... in response to You're Right! :oD, posted by Dave H on Aug 25, 2002

Anna Nicole is why God invented Mooooo,,,,Moooo dresses!

steveb

[kevin]

... in response to Are we a dysfunctional family?, posted by shadow on Aug 24, 2002

Justb skimmed and I think I got the grasp of most of your message.  

Well some good touching points were made.  Alot of us guys are the so-called rejects.  We're not beautiful, suave, worldly or macho.  At least in the eyes of the stereotypical AW's.  Most men (the average Joes) are trash anyway.  Well, I really don't care.

I'd like to say that, in the end, my ex-wife threw it in my face thatb I was different.  She even tried to tell me that I was gay and throw it in my face.  What a bunch of BS!  If it weren't for my heterosexuality, that SOB would not be naturalized in this country today!

I have to close!  I have to read an e-mail message.

- Kevin

[Ray]

... in response to Re: Are we a dysfunctional family?, posted by kevin on Aug 25, 2002

Another one? First it's Lori's husband and now Kevin. Any more of this and we'll have to rename this place Planet Queer (ROFLMA!)

[kevin]

... in response to Holy Mackerel!, posted by Ray on Aug 25, 2002


There were three gays sitting in a jacuzzi.  All of the sudden, one of them notices a big wad of white stuff surface.  His reaction:  "Who farted?"

(Sorry if this was too gross for some of you.  I just had to post this.)

- Kevin

[Ray]

... in response to Are we a dysfunctional family?, posted by shadow on Aug 24, 2002

Larry,

I really don’t understand what the heck you are complaining about. A lot of the good people here have bent over backwards to offer help and advice to anyone asking. What irks me is when somebody cries and moans that they didn’t get the answer they wanted when they wanted it, which sounds exactly like what you are doing in your post. I remind you that the help and advice that is offered here is FREE, like in no charge to the requestor.

You asked for input on differences in culture and help or recommendations for newbies. That’s a pretty broad area to cover. We have been discussing these very same topics on this forum for years. Haven’t you been paying attention? That info is still there in the archives for the most part, so why don’t you dig it out? Did you think it was going to be easy to write a book? Do you want us to write it for you? If you are serious about writing this book, then you better get used to the idea of doing many long hours of research.

Like another poster said, if you ask more specific questions then you might get a better response. But don’t expect us to drop everything and do your research for you. I really don’t mind helping people out, but I’m not going to write your book for you Larry. Sorry…

Just my $.02,

Ray

[shadow]

... in response to Bull Krapp!, posted by Ray on Aug 24, 2002

Were I to ask more specific questions, I would already know the answers. For instance, "Do Filipinos point with their lips?" or "Is it common for Filipinos to be two hours late and blame it on traffic?"

More what I was looking for was suggestions for newbies from intelligent individuals that maybe I didn't think of or had slipped my mind. Also, for slight differences in cultures that others had noticed, that maybe I had not.

As you are obviously aware, writing a book is not easy, and I have been spending long hours doing so. I hardly think that a 10 word positive response from you or anyone else could qualify as "writing" a 150,000 word book for me.

That I had to insult you to get any response at all says much about how "helpful" you are.

That being said, I don't feel your $.02 was worth 2 centavos.

Larry.

[Ray]

... in response to Re: Bull Krapp! Chapter two, posted by shadow on Aug 29, 2002

Let’s see now. First you cry because nobody would help you. So, when another a guy asks for help with a book, your reply is: “So you think you want help? Hah!”

Now, was that an example of a “helpful” response Larry? You crack me up dude!

Ray

[shadow]

... in response to "Helpful" Larry, posted by Ray on Aug 29, 2002

a little further you would have noticed I invited Oz to e-mail me, so we could discuss things further where every word we write isn't censored and/or misinterpreted by idiots.  

It is obvious that if Oz really needed help he wouldn't get it from you.

Wish I could explain it so you could understand it.

Larry.

[Ray]

... in response to If you would have read..., posted by shadow on Aug 30, 2002

I NEVER help anybody. Screw them all! Let them help themselves.

Now don't go crying that you are being censored on this forum because that's just plain nonsense and you know it. Misinterpreted? Possibly so, but who's fault is that? Don't you think that it's just "possible" that the "idiot" is a little closer to home than you think? Communications is a two-way street you know.

No, I guess I'll never understand what the heck you are talking about no matter how many times you explain it. We must be from different worlds... :-)

Now have a nice day Larry,

Ray

[shadow]

... in response to Bull Krapp!, posted by Ray on Aug 24, 2002

Gosh Ray, did I touch a sore spot? Or possibly I stumbled across one of your personal inadequacies. If you are that touchy, perhaps you should not be allowed around anything sharper than a banana.  

What I was "complaining" about, as you put it, was Oz asked for help to write a book. I understood he was not as educated in this field as many of us, but several people jumped on the bandwagon and offered their assistance, even though I got not one positive response to the same question just days before.

[Ray]

... in response to Re: Bull Krapp!  Chapter one., posted by shadow on Aug 29, 2002

Oh, now I get it. So you weren't so much concerned that we aren’t a very helpful lot, but that another guy got more help that you did? Sheesh! Talk about inadequacies!

Like I said, you got what you paid for, so quit crying about it :-)

Ray

[The Walker]

... in response to Are we a dysfunctional family?, posted by shadow on Aug 24, 2002


Sorry, have been busy with the homestead and family and haven't been here for a few days. Vicky made a post about food and told me about your earlier post.

As for general cultural differences, best to ask as they come to mind. Bear in mind this is mostly a Filipina female/American male board, with notable exceptions. You will have to seek out those interested in Vietnamese, Chinese (to include Taiwanese), Korean, Thai and other Asian mates as they are relatively few, but usually very enlightening. You could go to Tim's Chinese/American board and read the posts there as well. Tim and his wife Wendy are quite intelligent and entertaining (as well as a handsome couple). Mrs. Duong and her Vietnamese husband make life interesting here, as do Tim and Wendy. But this board is biased towards Filipinas by sheer weight of numbers.

So ask away. As in all free conversation, you may get no answers or not what you expected. Free country. Some of us visit occasionally, others more often. Some times the board gets little or no action for many days then a flurry of posts. Ya never know.

I prefer to answer direct questions rather than a diaspora about generic "cultural differences". Most of them are fading from my day-to-day memory unless jogged by a direct question, except for the few that occasionally pop up from time to time even today.

For instance, Vicky usually walks behind me in a pressing crowd, to let me part the waves, as it were, with a finger in my beltloop to let me know she's not lost back there. This caused us a little trouble from a pair of "womyn" not too long ago who thought she was following orders to walk behind me as a sign of submission. When there is no crowd, I prefer to have her at my side where I can not only enjoy her company, but also make sure of her safety, besides, she smells really good and I like to have an arm around her whenever I can. When the walkways are busy but not crowded to the point of a crush, I prefer her to walk a step ahead of me so I can keep an eye out for her. For one thing it again assures her safety, and the view from behind is as nice as the one from the front or side, especially when she's in jeans. ;-) Anyone who tries to grab her purse is then in my direct line of sight. Heh, heh, heh.

Another one that comes to mind because it is constantly drilled into me is that Filipinas seem to prefer to walk arm-in-arm or hand-in-hand with their husbands. And Vicky and I are not newlyweds anymore. I don't know if it a warning sign to other females that this man is taken, or simply affection. I am inclined to believe both as Vicky and other Filipinas flash their wedding sets like police strobes, especially when other, unattached, women are around.

But still best to ask on a case-by-case basis.

Don