... in response to Are we a dysfunctional family?, posted by shadow on Aug 24, 2002

Those of us interested in Japanese women tend to be intelligent, handsome, successful, suave, well built, and incredibly well hung - Right Bob S. and Windmill Boy?

.. And, of course it comes naturally to us, we don't have to practice. I know it's a burden, but one we just have to bear...

Jeff S.

... in response to I don't know about those interested in F..., posted by Jeff S on Aug 26, 2002

The more I try to learn Kanji, the more like an illiterate child I feel.
As for well hung, well, maybe compared to what they are used to.  But let's just not go there... ( {Thank Gawd for the "White God" gaijin factor.}

BTW, why do those Japanese and Russian babes look so hot?  It really is all the walking.  In the past two and a half months I've been here sans car, I've lost about 15-20 lbs.  My XL shirts are starting to hang loose on me.  It's great!

... in response to Re: I don't know about those interested ..., posted by Windmill Boy on Aug 27, 2002

But hey, that doesn't kick you out of the club. I got one of those, too from sampling many chef's best work!

-- Jeff S.

... in response to But Jeff..., posted by Dave H on Aug 26, 2002

You have to tell us which half..

- Jeff S

... in response to Are we a dysfunctional family?, posted by shadow on Aug 24, 2002

Misfits? Hmmmm. Didn't answer that one earlier. I don't think so. I am a fairly tall, in very good shape, retired military man (Special Operations). I am a mixed blood Caucasian and Native American. I didn't have any trouble finding dates in the US. I was married for 19 years. Women find me attractive (which annoys Vicky no end ;-)), and I am independent finacially.

I am intelligent and have regular features. I went to the Philippines for a wife from choice, not desperation. After being abandoned to finish raising two girls on my own, and almost being "caught" by two gold-diggers, I had had it with American women my age. I am not down on AWs in general, as my grown daughters are AW and quite nice, really. But those in acceptable age groups for me are pretty much picked over, usually two or three times. If I could have found a woman like Mrs. Mayor I would have married her on the spot, but women like her are few and far between in America. So I cast my net abroad. I looked at many military marriages with foreign-born wives and found the highest percentage of happy men were married to Filipinas. So I eventually wound up with my Vicky, to my everlasting luck, and have been quite happy since.

But neither Vicky or myself are "misfits". I am not poor and she is wealthy for a Filipina. She is close to my age, we both belong to Mensa, are both college educated, and she is quite beautiful. I did not buy her family anything, they don't need me to. Her family has more money than I do. I am a successful (so far) breeder of cattle (not meat cattle, breeding cattle).

I have seen many of the sorts of marriages you and others describe. I don't consider the men to be misfits in general. Some are overweight, so what? America is overweight. Nothing new here. The ability of Filipinas to look past someone's perceived physical shortcomings is a blessing, not an abberration. Men who are good as gold on the inside (buying motorcycles and homes, for instance) often have a heck of a time getting to even meet many American women when they have "defects". An exception is Mrs. Mayor who is a tall Texas blonde, a former beauty queen, who is deeply in love with her hubby who is shorter than she is and of average looks. Loves him like few even rich and handsome American men are ever loved.

If a Filipina is happy with her overweight or plain American husband, I am happy for her. And let no one else judge them. My former son-in-law (may he rest in peace) was not a handsome man but he was an exceptionally good man, and my daughter saw him for what he was. He was lucky (and so was she). But there are fewer and fewer like my girls or Mrs. Mayor left in America, I fear. And many Filipinas will choose a man many years their senior from cold logic. An older man is more stable, less likely to betray her, more financially secure, wiser, more experienced and better able to head a family. Why should she not trade her beauty and youth for stability and long-term happiness? Having children is for the young, you cannot avoid that biological fact. But older men make better fathers, usually. This fact has been perverted in our society. Up until modern America and western Europe, it was not uncommon for a man to wait to marry until he was able to securely provide for a family. Had a home and a job and money in the bank. Most marriages two generations ago had the wife at least ten years younger than the husband. He was in his late 20's up to early 30's, and she was 16-22. Both my granmothers were a decade younger than my grandfathers and they had solid gold marriages.

Don

... in response to Re: Are we a dysfunctional family?, posted by The Walker on Aug 26, 2002

Very well stated. I and the several men I know personally
who are married to Filipinas are hardly freaks, geeks or otherwise- we just did not like our options in the USA and we were broad minded enough to know we could look elsewhere.
I think the stats on this show that most men who marry overseas have above avergae income and education. This is hardly an enterprise for the timid or the flat broke.
  That said, in the Philippines I did see some visiting men who I thought were sloven jerks as well as others who were just regular decent guys.

my $.02 worth...

Nathan

... in response to Re: Are we a dysfunctional family?, posted by Humabdos on Aug 26, 2002

be a skinny black one or a white fuzzy one??  

You don't know what he could do with those lips!  

Will be over some day not too distant, will let you know.

Larry.