... in response to Re: Re: well duh..., posted by Felinessa on Jun 24, 2005Reasoning objectively and weight her opinion equally against mine. If we had come to a stand off for a decision.
It would ultimately be MY decision as the head of the household to make the choice. This is what men are suppose to do in families, make decisions.
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Where I'm coming from is alot of women just don't know when to shutup and they start annoying their partner to point where the man is like being over ruled or underminded.
Do you not agree, that sometimes when you argue with your boyfriend. That it is for petty reasons and your trying to win him over just so you can claim a victory.
What your also doing is leaving a imprint in his mind.
"Do I really want to marry this girl who keeps challenging me?"
I doubt, if he will admit this to you. But, it will be in the back of his mind and he will start looking around for another suitable lady who doesn't challenge his well being.
I look at a family as one cohesive work of art. In small towns dotted all over the country sides there are men and women who have stayed married together for 40-50-60 years in length. What is their secret ?
I think in most cases you will find the man was the bread winner and made all the important decisions and the wife back up her husband. I would be willing to bet the vast majority of the reasons Americans have such high divorce rates it's because of they're both trying to assert their place in the home as the leader of the family. And, they no doubt argue about petty things... Which essential drives a wedge inbetween the man and his wife.
We could probably say it's money that divides families, but if the man would have taken the approach to living thrifty and living within their means finanically. The other spouse would not have had to take a job and thus gaining independence. My point is - what's more important making more money and paying on debt or living within your means and having your wife raise your kids.
