What is it that they provide that more career-oriented women can't?
Do you find that the appeal lasts? Does it get less charming after a few years?  

In a strange way, I can sort of identify with that.  My boyfriend goes to community college; he's not like the guys I study and work with - degree upon degree, reading knowledge of classical languages, walking encyclopaedias.  There are times when I wish I could connect with him the way I connect with my friends, that he could understand my work, etc.  But then he's also the sweetest guy I've ever dated; he treats me better than anyone ever has, is always afraid he'll lose me although I do my best to reassure him that I'm not walking out any soon, etc, etc.  I know that unlike the government guys/lawyers/doctors, he doesn't think of me as disposable entertainment, and it's a nice feeling.  Sure, I get frustrated sometimes when he doesn't get something, but I remember that he makes me feel good and safe and loved.  Is it something like this that you're looking for?  

I also admit that I like the lack of competition ... we both know who has the better career prospects and who'll make more money ... and we are both cool with that: me with footing most of the bills and he with the situation.

On the other hand, some guys are not confident in themselves and feel attracted to women who they believe cannot challenge them.  They are usually fooling themselves.

Craig

I think what I'm looking for is a obeidant wife, probably will never find one.  Oh, well.

Now, I'm not saying a obedient wife has to be weak and feel helpless.  But, in a mans home there needs to be this balance, other wise it will be unhealthy.

Look at why so many American men are so unhappy in marriage.  There is a lack of compatability in the hierachy in their home.  Most men in North America are clueless about family structure, which is why there is the high divorce rates.  (too much arguing and back talking).

In the homes which the wives are not obedient.  They are more so self centered about their career which actually drives a wedge in between a mans home life.  Most men, would like a stay at home wife to take care of his family.

If a mans desires his wife to work and aids to the financial growth.  Well, that is of their choosing.  But, who will tend to the children?  A nanny or some lowly paid individual, where by there children will be devoid of love from the motherly parent.

This isn't something new.  But, Americans put material things/finanical well being ahead of their natural bonding and that's perverse and unhealthy.

I think the difference, though, lies in the fact that this woman is completely dependent on you.  You brought her here, you supported her, so yah, in that case, she can't act like a princess.  But still, that doesn't mean you shouldn't respect her.  Telling her to shut up in public, even if it was just around your friends and relatives, is demeaning.  The comment that your cousin's girlfriend made is kind of scary too - telling your wife to shut up once is one thing, but ALL THE TIME, like she implied, verges on something more dangerous.  I'm not saying you are like that, and maybe she was being annoying, but she does come from a culture which doesn't condone that.  Telling your wife to shut up wouldn't be acceptable here either, but again, Canada is much like North-eastern US.

Now you got a scammer, so it's a different story, but I think that, generally speaking, one of the reasons why some marriages don't work is false advertizing.  FSU women are advertized as submissive and domestic.  American men are supposed to be equalitarian.  If she is independent and he is autocratic, both are bound to be very disappointed.

Beattledog