what are the chances?

[RW]

Guys, I need an honest opinion. What are the chances for a 50-year old lady to find a guy in USA? She does not speak much English, but willing to learn. She IS good looking, has a great sense of humor and is a good companion. Are there guys looking at this age group or is it all about girls in their 20s (may be 30s)?

would appreciate your responses. Trying to decide whether it worthwhile to put an ad or not.

Thank you,

[RW]

... in response to what are the chances?, posted by RW on Jun 7, 2003

thank you for all the responses. I certainly will try, hopefully something will work out for her.

[ChrisNJ]

... in response to what are the chances?, posted by RW on Jun 7, 2003

All good responses.  I think it's quite possible if:
1.  She is willing to accept a man 10 years older.
2.  She is open minded and flexible.  She really should begin English lessons asap.
3.  She is slim and shapely and she does not look like a refugee from Tractor Factory Number 5.  
4.  She gets a lucky break.

I'm sure there are mature men out there who are seeking the companionship of a mature woman as opposed to 24 year old arm candy.  I have browsed profiles of older women and found that many are very good looking.  Give it a try.  

Here's an idea.  Go on free personals . ru.  Search for the older ones.  Then write to them and ask what kind of responses they've gotten.  It doesn't cost anything..Right?

[NW Jim]

... in response to Re: what are the chances?, posted by ChrisNJ on Jun 8, 2003

Out of curiousity, I went to eastmeetwest.com (this is not a plug) as they show how many times an address has been sold. Ran a search for ladies in age 50-55 range from Russia, with a weight limit of 150lbs.  Found 34 ladies, they sold addresses for 19 of these ladies (55%). Most addresses were sold only one or two times, but one 51 year old lady had her address sold 27 times.  

What appeared to elicit responses? A good photo, younger looking face, blonde shoulder length hair.

[RickM]

... in response to what are the chances?, posted by RW on Jun 7, 2003

nt

[Griffin redux]

... in response to what are the chances?, posted by RW on Jun 7, 2003

What you describe is a marketing problem.  She would be attractive to many US males her age or older, but how does she reach them?

[tim360z]

... in response to what are the chances?, posted by RW on Jun 7, 2003

that is pretty much it RW.  It does not take a multitude of clamoring guys...only one.  You know what I mean...only one.  Tell her to throw the dice,  it can't hurt.  Sure its a gamble.  Honestly,  there are plenty of older guys who need a good woman to brighten-up their lonely dull drab  lives.  Beleive it.  Years ago,  when my Russian Grandfather died,  within a year(mourning period) about 50 men proposed marriage to my Russian Grandmother....she was 60. She politely thanked them and said no thank you.

[wilmc]

... in response to what are the chances?, posted by RW on Jun 7, 2003

The "baby boom" is the "pig going thru the demographic python" so I would imagine that the over 50s will be a growing proportion of the MOB seekers.  In addition, in my experience, once "the nest empties of children" the chance for divorce increases, adding an additional supply of newly "singled" men seeking quality MOB.
A limitation of demand for older MOB may be the "foolish" desire of many older men to seek much younger brides.  The desire to recapture that lost youth.

I for one have tremendous appreciation for, over 40, Russian ladies.  I have been lucky, that all I have met were beautiful, smart, charming and in fantastic shape.
Far superior to 90% of the AW in that age group that I have had the misfortune to date.  The Russians also seemed a lot more mentally stable than the AW of that age group.  Admittedly, my sample is small and my observations may be biased.

Bottom line, I am interested in older FSU ladies.

   

[vagn]

... in response to what are the chances?, posted by RW on Jun 7, 2003

=== Guys,
=== I need an honest opinion. What are the chances for a 50-year old
=== lady to find a guy in USA?

I think you can divide the guys looking into three broad groups.
1. Those with a grown family already, looking for a companion.
2. Those looking to start a family (meaning have kids.)
3. Those looking to satisfy their egos in some strange way.

She doesn't have a chance with the last two groups, but
the first group -- why not?

=== She does not speak much English, but willing to learn.

That is a big hurdle -- when the motivation is companionship,
lack of language skills is a huge setback.  What are they
going to do, sit around all day and look at each other?

=== She IS good looking, has a great sense of humor and is a good
=== companion.

She should try for it.  What languages does she speak?
Maybe she'll find someone she can already communicate with.

=== Are there guys looking at this age group or is it all about
=== girls in their 20s (may be 30s)?

See 1, 2 and 3 above.  Remember, guys never stop looking.

=== Would appreciate your responses. Trying
=== to decide whether it's worthwhile to place an ad or not.

It's a small investment.  Why not try it?  But be realistic about
the potential results.  She should NOT stop living a normal life
on the expectation that something will develop.  It might, and
it might not.  Nobody can predict the future.

=== Thank you,

Good luck.

[tbirdjoy]

... in response to what are the chances?, posted by RW on Jun 7, 2003

In all honesty that's a tough one.  I know a guy how is 58 and he was married to a RW who was about 25 years younger than him.  He's looking again but doesn't really want anyone older than early forties.  Also men know it is much more difficult for a woman of 40 plus to adjust to a new country and culture.  But it really all comes down to personal preferences and your friend will never know until she puts herself "out there" and see's what responses she gets.  It never hurts to try.  Good luck to her.

Mark

[John K]

... in response to what are the chances?, posted by RW on Jun 7, 2003

Most men are looking for younger wives.  That means that she should be ready to consider men in their 60's, at least.  Is she willing to look at someone that old?

I have a similar problem with my mother in law.  She wants to meet someone near her own age of 40, but 40 year old men tend to look for 25 to 30 year old women.  While it is possible, it's going to take some time before your friend finds someone she wants.

Also, she may find trouble adapting to US life.  My wife is young and still has difficulty adjusting.  Your friend is over twice her age.  Does she still have the mental flexibility to make such a radical lifestyle adjustment?  While life in the US is similar to what she sees on TV, it is also very different.  Most of us don't live like they do on "Santa Barbara" (a popular show in Ukraine for years, BTW).