I have read all of the posts below and thus have the advantage of posting after such.

Let me ask you this question. Could you leave your children if you had a choice? What type of person would not be able to do this as compared to one who could?

The older they are the more able one could do this. So, I agree that their ages are a very important issue here relative to giving advice.

However, even if they are in their teens 16 and lower this is not a time to leave your children - older more understandable. And, I agree you are going to have to factor in one to two trips per year for her to return to visit for a few years. If you can not do that financially, you can not afford this lady the way I look at it.

So, this all seems like a major red flag to me if these kids are not close to age 20.

Given this, you need to re-evaluate everything that has transpired and question once again anything in the past that got your attention as possibly not being right that you just glossed over because there was not just enough of something wrong for you to fixate on it.

Hunches or impressions that we let slip are the things that guys report remembering after they have been scammed or used. They will often tell you that the signs were there but they choose to ignore them. You need to look at the whole picture one more time perhaps.

If these children are young to early teens, I would be very leery of a woman who would leave them. This is a statement about who she is and that type of woman would not be someone that I personally would want to take a chance on.

So, please give all of those that took the time to respond the courtesy of giving a bit more information. If you do proceed, I am sure that many would like to hear how it all turns out as in the final analysis - it is only the experiences of those men here that we can rely on to better understand this venture of seeking a woman from the FSU.

Good luck to you,

Greg

So in the situation with romance. If she had a tough life, then she maybe can see a good life with you, for the first time in her life. And if the children like/used to the grandparents there should be no problems, as long you can find money on the budget to let her visit Ukraine twice a year. (basically, only the airline ticket = 100 USD/month)
Also see it from her view !! To leave country to with you, maybe that financial security to her children, to make sure they will have a good life. Sorry, extra money out of the pocket, but we talking 50-100 USD a month.

.. and you told us, that it was likely that the children would not get a permit to leave / enter your country. I will say, she is being rationel IF my previous statement is right.

But you're right, it will make her adjustment harder and could be a red flag - but only maybe.

Don't tell me... She's the first lady you met and you feel obligated by your honor to give her a better life.

Betcha, if you bring her stateside she'll be returning home on the 89th day or lesser.

I just think its a little early to be making predictions about the success or failure of Chuck's relationship. We don't know the age of the children or any of the circumstances. All I am saying is that it was a strong opinion to have about something we know so little about.

Are there no normal women you could write to?

It strikes me as odd that you say "involved with"
rather than "corresponding with" when such obvious
obstacles to happiness exist.

Pardon me for asking, but how much money have
you sent her so far?