... in response to Questions for the married guys, posted by KenC on Jan 7, 2003Ken,
To your number 1 question, usually a couple of times a week, but there is no set rule, whenever she needs too, or wants too, she calls. If not for her and her family haveing the Internet at home, which allows for almost daily communications if wanted, I am sure there would be even more phone calls each week. I think most ladies will want to call (and deservingly so) often upon there first arrival into America (or wherever). From my observation, over time, once the wife get's more settled into the community, develops more friends, she will probably make fewer calls back home.
Answer to question number 2, usually at least once a year, but sometimes twice a year. Again, after she becomes more settled in to her new life style, developes more friends, the need for trips back home so often decreases. But the main thing that effects these ladies in there wanting to make a trip back home is that once they get a job, they just can't take off for two or three weeks as they had been able to do the year or two before. Now, after getting that first, much thought after job, the ladies learn that in many cases they cannot just take off for at least 6 months and when they do, they can only be gone for a week. "One week!! Why it's hardly worth the trip back home for one week" Natalia said. And I told her that is the way it is once you get into the American work-force.
Answer to number 3. I am sure the wife would love to see this happen once a year. From my perspective, I would think once every two or three years.
Good questions Ken and curious to see the response from other guys.