... in response to imho, posted by greg2 on Dec 22, 2002I agree completely with your first paragraph, I've been thinking the same thing.
As far as filing a class action suit, I'm not a lawyer, so really I don't know, but I do know it's virtually impossible to successfully sue the United States Government, they are far too powerful. And those cases where someone does successfully sue the Government, get put into case law for future reference.
The reason the INS does not send girls back home is a practical one. First some of these girls do get mistreated, so it's not their fault. So how can the INS tell for certain who is the crazy one, the girl or the guy? Secondly, even if they could figure this out with accuracy, how would they follow the thousands of cases all over the country, what agents are going to do this? From where will new money come to hire such agents?
It's just a very dangerous proposition to travel 8,000 miles, hardly meet someone, and then bring that person all the way over to the USA, (where no matter what she would like to come) and marry this person when in fact you really don't know them at all.
It's like going down to the bar tonight, picking out a nice looking, maybe even hot chic and saying, "hey babe, let's you and me go down to the "drive through marriage" here in Vegas and get married? Then we will live the rest of our lives together and be very happy. And just to make my offer extra appealing, I'm a multi-millionaire, I live in a huge mansion up on the hill where everybody is rich, happy, and successful, a paradise compared to the mobile home park you currently live, and there are all kinds of things to do there and see which you have never seen before.
But when you come, you will miss your home, your family, and even your friends. It will be a strange place for you, and it will take time getting used to, but you will probably learn to like it.
Now then, what are the chances of this relationship working out with this girl whom you just met at a bar, had a few drinks with, maybe even danced a bit together, and then went out and got married?
Now throw in all kinds of things for extra variables.
1. Different language.
2. Completely different culture, way of life, way of thinking.
3. Misunderstanding based upon language barrier.
4. Having to teach everything, from little things to big things.
5. Initial cost is very expensive, to do properly would take at a minimum, 10K to 30K.
6. Wife is far from home, misses family, friends, and social events and activities normally familiar with.
7. Having a long distance relationship for a long time.
8. The possibility of wife putting on a facade only to gain permanent residency in the United States.
It's a miracle this process works for anyone, but it does. If done properly, this can turn out successful, but you need the following.
1. Have your life together first 100%.
2. Make sure you have at least 10K before even starting, and you will need more when she gets here.
3. Do this right, it's going to take a lot of work on your part, meeting many woman, taking time to get to know them, flying out to meet them multiple times, and in my opinion, hiring a private investigator to check the girl out, try to determine who she really is.
In any event, this is a very dangerous affair, let the reader beware, do not take this whole idea lightly, and if you do it, do it right, or be willing to pay the price for that mistake.
David
