Day 3: The Search Continues
Having had a wonderful time with Oksana last night, I was really excited at the prospects of meeting some more women who I had not met on my first trip. There were 5 dates scheduled, and each one of them I was looking forward to for different reasons. I knew that it was possible that I may match with one of these girls, so I had to concentrate on them and try not to think about Oksana, although we were going to see each other again tonight.
My first meeting was at 12:00, so I was able to sleep in and try to get adjusted to the new time zone. I had jet lag and was waiting to "hit the wall," and I knew that my taking a nap yesterday did not help me to get over this jet lag. I got cleaned up, took a shower (only cold water today...a sign of things to come) and walked to the office for my 1st date.
My 1st date Olga was a 32 year old Physical Fitness Instructor and Masseuse who I had written to a few times while in the States. Unlike my first trip when I focused almost exclusively on the young hotties, I was really trying to see some women closer to my age (I'm 32) that might make good wives. Olga showed up at the office and we proceeded to have lunch at Fortuna. She was a very interesting and intelligent woman, as well as very sexy. She worked out and did aerobics and it really showed. I was physically attracted to her and I immediately started asking her the tough questions about marriage, family, children and whether she was ready for the paperwork if we were to match. She was seriously motivated in the progran and knew that her options in Tver might be limited (her words, not mine). I liked Olga and told her that I wanted to see her again, because I thought that perhaps we could learn more about each other on our next date.
Helen liked Olga and thought that she was serious about the program, and noticed that her body labguage and what she was telling me said to her that she liked me and wanted to see me again. I was feeling good about myself and I then wanted to get ready for my next date at 2:00.
Ksenia was one of the other new girls that I was really interested in. She was young (22) extremely beautiful, completing her degree at the Medical Academy, and was also a nurse. I did not wrote her because when I decided that she was someone I wanted to meet, it was a little over 10 days until I arrived in Tver. I waited in the office for her but she called at 1:45 to say that she would not be able to come until the 21st (13 days from now) because she was extremely busy with exams. I immediately told Helen not tro reschedule because I figured if she could not take 1 hour from her day to come meet me, she was probably not all that interested in me anyway. I was not planning on having any 1st dates on the 21st (15 days into my trip), therefore I had a few hours before my 5:00 date would show. Helen and I went to the market so I could do some food shopping and also bring my freshly washed clothes back to my flat.
I got back to the office at 4:00 for my next date with Irene, a wonderful woman who was genuinely nice and was so great to exchange letters with. She was extremely intelligent and also nice-looking (not overly beautiful but nice). We had had many interesting letters, and I even brought her a book that I had told her about that was my favorite book. Because she was fluent in English and German, I was able to get her the English language version of the book. In case you were wondering, it was Thomas Wolfe's You Can't Go Home Again. Irene was really cool and we talked for almost 2 hours about our lives, hopes for the future, the tough subjects about family, marriage and kids, as well as just some talk about stupid subjects. I definitely wanted to see her again so we scheduled another meeting. Here I was, already having met 2 more wonderful women that I wanted to see again. So far so good.
My 6:00 date was Natalia, a 28 year old teacher who was nice looking in her photos and seemed to be very interesting from her profile. I was not sure what to expect, as we had not written to each other, but when she arrived in the office, my jaw almost dropped. This woman was absolutely stunning. I mean, I had heard about how some women look better in person, but this woman was almost perfect. Her profile mentioned that she was really into running, swimming and gymnastics. Believe me, she had the body to prove it. She was 28 but had the figure of an 18 year old. Some women would kill for her legs and figure. Anyway, to say that I was happy was one of the biggest understatements. We went to have some tea and talk, and to go with her amazing appearance, she was very sweet, intelligent, and all aroound one of the crown jewels of what Lifetime Partners is all about. I told her that I wanted to see her again asap, as I was smitten and wanted to see if we had more than just great chemistry.
Natasha and I waited for Oksana, as we were going to go to a movie then have a late dinner. We were going to see "The Big Race," a French movie that looked interesting. Oksana arrived on time, and we immediately were happy to see each other again. I was happy because I wanted to be with her, and I think she was happy to see me as well after such a great dinner last night. Oksana looked beautiful as always, and we went to the movie theater.
I could bore you with the details of the movie, but I think all I need to say is that it was a French movie. My mother is French, I like some things about France, but movies are definitely not one of their better exports. I was just ahppy to be with Oksana and I really didn't care where I was, as long as I was with her. After the movie, we stopped at Up & Down to have some dinner before taking Oksana home. She had exams starting so I was determined not to keep her out too late.
I walked Oksana to her door again, and agin went to kiss her on the lips. Guess what. She again turned her cheek so I only kissed her on the cheek. This was strange I thought. It i snot like our 1st or 2nd date, but rather our 11th and 12th. I believed by now she should feel comfortable with kissing me, so I was not sure what to make of this. I chalked up to her cautious nature, but I did not want to start making excuses for her behavior either.
I asked Natasha about this and she thought that maybe Oksana was just not ocmfortable with kissing me in public yet, since she knew that I was seeing other girls. I understood what Natasha was saying, however, I think that affection is a sign of one's attraction and desire for the other person. If she has this problem with kissing, I wondered, would she have more problems when we became intimate?
I went to bed, wrote for a few hours and then went ot bed not knowing exactly what to think about Oksana and her behavior. I really liked this girl but I was beginning to wonder if she was just dating me to go out and have fun, and was not all that serious about me. I would give her more time to see if this becomes a bigger issue later.
Thomas
