Day 6: A Number of Firsts
Today was going to be a wonderful day because I was going to see both Valeria and Oksana, my two top choices so far, as well as Irene who I was beginning to think might be a strong possibility. I was going to see Valeria because I wanted to gauge her interest in me after dinner the other night and see how she would act when we were together. I wanted to play billiards with her, as this would be an informal and fun way to spend time together without the pressure of a dinner date. Besides, I had plans with Oksana to go to the Ballet and see Don Quixote. I thought much last night while in bed and decided that I needed no additional dates to be set up with new girls. I had a good list of possibilities, and I truly believed that my process and approach was working well. I was not as distracted by all the beauties I was seeing, and I hoped that I would be making a decision in the next few days that would lead to much happiness.
Valeria arrived at the office and we went to Kalinin to play some pool and just have fun. I remembered fondly our last couple of times at this pub, as Valeria and I would play pool for kisses, which I really liked. I was hoping that we would be doing the same, so I just relaxed and had fun with her. Valeria was a total blast to be with, and we have a very strong physical attraction that I simply was not sure about with Oksana. We played several games of pool and I won most of them. We were just having fun and I think that this was the perfect opportunity to look at Valeria in a less-serious light. She and I would have a lot of fun together if we matched, and I think that if I had asked her right then and there to match, she probably would have said "yes."
After a few hours, Helen and I said goodbye to Valeria but we scheduled a date for dinner tomorrow night without Helen or another interpreter. I believed that now was the time to start spending quality time alone with Valeria to see how we communicated without the help of an interpreter, as well as get comfortable with each other in more intimate settings. I decided that the Hotel Osnabruck would be perfect, so I told Valeria that tomorrow night we would be "without a net" for our date. I was both excited and nervous, as Valeria understood some English, but was by no means real good at it yet. This would be a good test to see how we were on our own and what sort of language difficulties we might experience.
I believe that at some point all clients need to wean themselves off their interpreters and start trying to communicate with a girl they are interested in to see how they interact together and how they communicate. I think this was extremely important, and Helen agreed that it was time in my relationship with Valeria to start progressing toward removing Helen from the equation. Interpreters are great but then again, a guy needs to start figuring things out on his own. I tend to be very independent-minded and this was just another example of me trying to work the program correctly.
After spending much of the afternoon with Valeria, I had a 5:00 date with Irene, but unforunately she had become sick so she had to reschedule, thereby leaving me with a few hours before the ballet with Oksana and Natasha. I was really excited to be taking Oksana to her first ballet, and I knew that she would enjoy it very much, as the company from Kazakhstan that was visiting Tver was supposed to be pretty good. I went home, cleaned up and put on a tie, and went to the ballet with Oksana and Natasha when she arrived at the office at 6:30.
The ballet was fabulous and Oksana had such a wonderful time that it almost was like she was a little girl again seeing something for the first time and being amazed. Seeing her so happy made me so happy. I thought the performance was okay, but I was not about to critique the performance for Natasha and Oksana because I know that they were having a good time, and that was all that mattered to me. The ballet lasted about 2 1/2 hours, then we went to Pushkin's Fairy Tale restaurant, a theme restaurant that Oksana had never been to before. This night was turning into an evening of firsts, and I was so happy that she liked the restaurant as well, although there were some drunk ladies doing karaoke and dancing which was annoying. Overall, we had a wonderful night together, and I was really beginning to think that I had found the woman who would be the right woman for me. Our personalities were similar, we were physically attracted to each other, and at least on my end, I had strong chemistry with her. I was not going to match with her quite yet, but it was pretty much down to 3 girls now: Zhanna, Oksana and Valeria. I took Oksana home, and again, no kiss on the lips. This was frustrating and I was beginning to wonder if I was totally misreading all the signs or what. I think that Natasha saw this as well and told me just to relax and have a good time, and not worry about this right now, but just be happy that I found a wonderful girl who is really interested in me.
I went home around 12:00 and wrote for a while, as well as thought about what I was going to do now that I pretty much was down to 3 girls. How was I going to decide which was best for me? I needed to really think what was most important to me and what I needed to have in my future wife. I could only choose 1, but I wished that I could combine the sexual chemistry I had with Zhanna, the fun and outgoing personality of Valeria and the sweet, reserved, absolutely wonderful nature of Oksana into one girl. I would have to start really thinking about this and make a decision when I felt the time was ready.
Tomorrow I was going to see Zhanna again for an afternoon lunch, as well as see Oksana again and Olga, though I may cancel my date with her. Then I had my dinner with Valeria without an interpreter. It would be a busy day but I hoped that I might gain some clarity on my situation.
