THE LIST OF PREMARRIAGE QUESTIONS/TOPICS

[Anastassia]

Hello dear guys and ladies,

No sooner had I mentioned this than lots of men became curious about this list. I am actually very glad about it. It agitated many minds on other boards and lists too. :-) And it definitely helped my Lance figure out that i am the one even before coming to me! Some things are really details and can be laughable but still i think they are pretty important.

These topics are from "Finding The Love of Your Life" by Neil Clark Warren.

Take a look.
Anastassia

Notarized and Certified Russian/English Translations
Moscow Diploma with Honors; Cambridge
http://www.translation.wasem.net

Helpful Marriage Similarities

1. socio-economic background of family
2. Intelligence
3. formal Education
4. verbal skills
5. expected roles for both persons within the marriage
6. views about power distribution within the family
7. desired number of children
8. when a family should be started
9. child-rearing views
10. political philosophy
11. views about smoking, alcohol and drugs
12. amount of involvement with in-laws
13. sense of humor
14. punctuality
15. dependability
16. desire for verbal intimacy and ability to be intimate
17. the role of conflict and how to resolve it
18. the way to handle anger
19. how friendships with the opposite sex should be handled
20. expected amount of privacy and rules for its use
21. level of ambition
22. life goals
23. attitudes about weight
24. faith and spiritual beliefs and preferences
25. amount of church involvement
26. family spiritual involvement
27. hobbies and interests
28. type of music enjoyed
29. energy level for physical activities
30. sexual drive and sexual interests
31. amount of income to be spent and saved
32. how money should be allocated - clothes, vacations, etc.
33. amount of money to be given away and to whom
34. degree of risks to be taken with investments
35. attitudes about cleanliness - house, clothes, body, etc.
36. ways of handling sickness
37. health standards - when to see a doctor
38. interpersonal and social skills
39. amount of and type of social involvement preferred
40. geographical area in which to live
41. size and style of house
42. type of furniture and decorations
43. amount and type of travel preferred
44. how to spend vacations
45. how to celebrate major holidays
46. how much time to spend together
47. when to go to sleep and get up
48. temperature of home during the day and night
49. activity during meals - talking, watching TV, etc.
50. television programs preferred

[Oatmeal]

... in response to THE LIST OF PREMARRIAGE QUESTIONS/TOPICS, posted by Anastassia on May 22, 2002

I know I may be a bit lazy but how old were you and Lance when you met.  It seems to me that you are both young and very close in age.  

The same might also be said for me and my wife.  I was 32 and she was 19.  Still like a 12 year age gap but it doesn't draw attention in public like other marriages.

Just curious.  BTW, I was in Moscow before and I really love that city.  I crave any photos from this city and I am dying to go back and also to visit St. Pete too.  My wife is from Odessa but she said she has never been to Moscow or St. Pete so I want to take her there someday.

[Anastassia]

... in response to Nice photos of you and Lance., posted by Oatmeal on May 23, 2002

Hello 'Oatmeal' :-)

Thank you so much for your compliments, I actually saw both of you too and was frankly speaking pleasantly surprised to see such a cute and young couple at last!!! Your strength is just amazing and your wife is a very attractive lady :-) This is great and i am glad for both of you.
I am 26 and Lance is 29 at the moment, we met and got married almost 3 years ago.

As to pictures of Moscow there is a cool website http://www.friends-partners.org/oldfriends/asebrant/life/ml.html

The author of this website posts stories and pictures about Moscow and Moscovites once in 2 months, it is such a pleasant reading, everything is depicted truly, i visit this website very often, it is especially good if your lady feels homesickness or nastalgia or something like that. :-)

I have been to Odessa once, we with my friend Sveta once went there and stayed in a student camp right near the Black sea. I bet your wife knows what i am talking about , i have lots of pics of Odessa and all the places. And we have such a great impression about the whole city and people.
I haven't been to St. Petersburg, Lance wants to go there some day too.

Best regards,

Anastassia
www.translation.wasem.net

[JR]

... in response to THE LIST OF PREMARRIAGE QUESTIONS/TOPICS, posted by Anastassia on May 22, 2002

Nice list. I think it would be hard to discuss alot of this before two people meet, though. Also hard when you meet. )

[Oatmeal]

... in response to THE LIST OF PREMARRIAGE QUESTIONS/TOPICS, posted by Anastassia on May 22, 2002

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