Well said

[RW]

... in response to With Due Respect - Why Are You Constantl..., posted by Dan on Apr 4, 2002

why you have to tell people what they should post here or what not?

That's what it makes interesting - difference of opinions and topics for discussions.

SMILES

Russian Wife

[Dan]

... in response to With Due Respect back to you -, posted by RW on Apr 4, 2002

And you will see that I explained myself. I am not here to tell people what they can, or cannot, post. Still, I am entitled to my opinion - right? And I expressed it. Hopefully, without being inflammatory or confrontational.

I also said that I think Natalya is sincere - but I'd like (MY opinion again) to see her sharing with us HER opinion - not simply parrotting something from another board.

And just for good measure - I will again qualify this all as simply *my* take on things. Others are free (of course) to disregard, disagree, condemn, malign, or anything else they wish --smile--.

- Dan

[thesearch]

... in response to Read it Again RW . . ., posted by Dan on Apr 4, 2002

In that sense, I would like to hear her own opinions about issues, not just what someone else wrote. Maybe she is hesitant to do this for some reason.

[Natalya]

... in response to With Due Respect - Why Are You Constantl..., posted by Dan on Apr 4, 2002

Simple. Because I thought it would be interesting for people on this board. I guess you have problem with this. If anybody here is not happy with me posting stuff from another sites please let me know and I'll stop doing it.

[Stan]

... in response to Re: With Due Respect - Why Are You Const..., posted by Natalya on Apr 4, 2002

It's no problem for me,,,,, I usualy see it before it is posted here. My wife reads alot on the web at those sights for FSU woman here in the states. Some of those stories are unbelievable!!!  
Steve

[Dan]

... in response to Re: With Due Respect - Why Are You Const..., posted by Natalya on Apr 4, 2002

If I wanted to read stuff posted on another board - I'd go to that other board to read it.

I do not mind if someone posts something from another board as a direct response to a question posted here, but it seems a bit strange to be posting message 'starters' here that originated elsewhere.

Just my view. Others, as always, are free to disagree/condemn/malign/whatever --smile--.

- Dan

[Rags]

... in response to Speaking ONLY For Myself . . ., posted by Dan on Apr 4, 2002

So far I have not seen anything that really contributes to our dicussions here and there does seem to be a negativity connected to what has been "posted" by this person.

While I can and will choose to ignor further post of this type, it still seems to be a waste of space on this board and in the archives.

We can all choose to read other discussion boards if we want. Perhaps if someone wants to contribute nuggets of wisdom from other sources, they can post the URL and let us decide whether we want to go there. It would save some space here and should we decide to reply to these posts, it should be there.

[thesearch]

... in response to Speaking ONLY For Myself . . ., posted by Dan on Apr 4, 2002

To me the rules are no rules. If you were going to make rules of your preference about what should be posted and not, I am wondering what they would be. I say this because in my thinking, it is no different if a post originates from one's own mind, what they read somewhere regardless of whether it is from another forum etc. .

Many posts here are about material other than what originated out of the person's head. So, personally, I do not see the difference.

Also, since she is a Russian lady, obviously she is might be primarily at a forum for women - so she is going to come across material there that she thinks might be interesting to men here.

Of course not evey post regardless who posted it is going to be of interest to everyone.

[Dan]

... in response to I am not with you on this one, posted by thesearch on Apr 4, 2002

I simply asked the question - and expressed my opinion.

If others feel differently - so be it. I didn't offer to assault anyone if they disagreed - right?

- Dan

[wsbill]

... in response to That's OK With Me . . ., posted by Dan on Apr 4, 2002

certainly not original and are being posted in a fashioned way that is like "guys are idiots and control freeks".

1st story, the guy didn't listens to his wife and just wanted to watch a football game.

2nd story, they guy isn't filing the paperwork.

This reeks of a setup.  Ok, I'll shut up and watch the story line unfold.  LOL...

[Quasimoto]

... in response to Re: With Due Respect - Why Are You Const..., posted by Natalya on Apr 4, 2002

Natalya,

Dan and his wife Olga are very successful. They are a great couple who are enjoying life together. Dan is a positive person who is one of the most experiences members on this board. I think sometimes the posts touch his nerve, because he and some others like to see more positive posts. I think if you could post some positive things from other sites it would be no problem. It would seem that you supported this process more.

Myself, I am more of a pessimist/optimist blend. I believe both sides happen often. I prefer that only the good happens, but my background says different, and my eyes are always looking around for some victim or abuse. So they do not trouble me. However, I wish there were many more positive stories posted.

However, most successful men who marry find themselves too happy to take the time to visit us here. I will be the same. Some of the men like Dan, are more giving than I will be. But without the most experienced men here like Dan, KenC, Jack, and others, the new guys would be somewhat helpless. But their experiences are mostly positive in their present situations, so that is how they see life and this board. Sometimes I read these posts and try to read between the lines of your life! I wonder if you are happy, or have had your own struggles here in the US? It is not my business, but if you see skid marks that a car has made in the road, you know that an attorney was not crossing the street

Steve

[thesearch]

... in response to Re: Re: With Due Respect - Why Are You C..., posted by Quasimoto on Apr 4, 2002

For example, the three part story. Some people need to read this. I will say that I highly doubt that the majority of males here could not benefit from that story unless they are the "I know it all type"

If all posts are about sugar and  spice then - well we again are going back to the La La Land Forum................

[Natalya]

... in response to Re: Re: With Due Respect - Why Are You C..., posted by Quasimoto on Apr 4, 2002

Steve, thanks for reply.I like stories or information that I can learn something from.I believe that all success stories are different and unique in some way and mistakes people made that cause them marriage are pretty much the same. So naturally I prefer to learn on other people mistakes and use that knowledge to make my marriage even better. But again it is my point of view.

Anyway I apologize if my posts offended anybody or just was way too negative. I think I'll stop posting stuff from another sites for now and will be participating in bord disscisions if I have something positive to say

[Ken W]

... in response to Re: With Due Respect - Why Are You Const..., posted by Natalya on Apr 4, 2002

..that it is customary to give credit to the original author or publication that you copied the post from. Do this, and it lends a bit more weight to the post.

Keep writing please - it gets dreadfully dull with 3 posts per day all about visa applications and stuff. I'm sooooo past that!..

By the way, don't be so shy about telling a little about yourself.

-Ken Williams

[thesearch]

... in response to Re: With Due Respect - Why Are You Const..., posted by Natalya on Apr 4, 2002

Natalya,

I like Dan, but do not let his one opinion get you to change --------keep posting as you have and simply observe the overall responses.