Hmmm

[BrianN]

... in response to Hmmm, posted by Deckard on Feb 6, 2002

unless this FOOL, that is sending this kind of crud is actually intent on going there.  It's a dam good thing that you've got an honest relationship with the agency owner/interpreter, that will tell you this.  It's actually quite easy to have Olga block receipt of emails from this idiot, a click of the mouse on outlook express (which is quite commonly used in russia), to block the sender, will stop the problem from recurring as it stands now.  Additionally, I'd definitely send Luda an email explaining the situation.  Relax....  unless you're just worthless and a bum, you've got absolutely nothing to worry about.  Let her know what is happening.

The truth does work, if your relationship is on the right footing.

If not, then... maybe it's time to change venue.

Talk to you soon.

Brian.

[Stevo]

... in response to Hmmm, posted by Deckard on Feb 6, 2002

If your fiancee is true, then you have nothing to worry about.  Who cares if someone sends her e-mails or wishes to meet her?  She's engaged and presumably will respond to any new suitors saying she's not interested.

But if it turns out she is interested...then you might just have unwittingly saved yourself a lot of future heartache.

Stevo

[Deckard]

... in response to What are you worrying about?..., posted by Stevo on Feb 7, 2002


Stevo,

I'm not at all worried about that, in fact... until you mentioned it, your test did not even come into my mind. Besides, she's already getting suitors all the time, despite wearing a ring. I trust that she will deal with them appropriately. If she doesn't, than she's not meant to be my wife. And if I so much as give her the impression that I doubt her loyalty, she will cry, and then feel deep pain. Then she will strike back at me, as many women do when they are hurt. I know this exactly, because it's happened before.

My reason for making the pictures private is that I'm worried about my future wife's safety. Maybe I do not need to worry. I don't really think anything could come of it.

But then again, I didn't really think anything negative could come from me sharing pictures of my fiance with readers of this board in the first place. I learned.

I recently read that some guy is claiming to be engaged to Meg Ryan, and broke into some family's home, who's last name was Ryan. He claimed he was looking for the actress.

So the point is.... you never know.

What drives someone to "stalk" someone else to such extreme degrees? I don't know.

Is this all needless paranoia on my part?

Maybe.

But you know what? I don't care. As long as I have this concern inside me, am I going to keep taking chances?

He11 no.

She means too much to me.

-Deckard

[thesearch]

... in response to That wasn't it., posted by Deckard on Feb 7, 2002

Follow your gut. Never a need to explain that. Sorry this happened.

However, if I might comment, you do not know for sure that it has anything to do with this forum and your postings. You are assuming. That is fine to do. Also, you can not compare issues of celebreties with us common folk.

Everything is going to be fine. This is just one of those "What is this crap about?" and your speculations.

Thanks again for your wonderful posts.

[tim360z]

... in response to That wasn't it., posted by Deckard on Feb 7, 2002

If you don't give trust...you will not get any.  And if you doubt her,  she will be very upset.  I recently had that problem occur due to a communication problem.  I never saw so much emotionalism and hurt and saddness from someone.  Trust is the #1 ingredient,  so trust her.  And you have spent alot of time with her and her family...so you know her better than anybody.  And 1 other thing.  Most good looking girls there get so many stupid letters from all over the world... Most are not looking for another batch of letters coming in over the transom...they are looking for 1 good guy...a lifespartner.  You have spent months with her and her family and you are so far ahead of the game in her book. Probably the very last thing Luda wants is another letter from some guy she doesn't know saying blah! blah!

[Jeff]

... in response to Trust?, posted by tim360z on Feb 7, 2002

Yeap!! I sgree! Trust, trust, trust!!! Said well!!!
Oksana

[BarryM]

... in response to What are you worrying about?..., posted by Stevo on Feb 7, 2002

You don't understand Stevo. This is not about faithfullness, it's about harrassment. The scumbag that gets her info could start harrassing her. This is a very serious situation. Some psychos will go at great lengths to intimidate an harrass people.

-blm

[BarryM]

... in response to Hmmm, posted by Deckard on Feb 6, 2002

against this board. It may very well be John Drew, but there are several candidates that are out to cause us trouble. This all started around the first or second week of January when John Drew started his attacks on Brama and Jack, so he is a prime suspect. Olenka-Club is probably a target now because Jack gave a good recomendation for them.

Now you know why I don't post an email here. Now you know why I don't want to send identifying information to anyone on here. The only one here who has my email is Jack, and I worry about an email virus sucking out his address book on his PC. That could happen to anyone here, especially those who are not PC savvy. There are evil scumbags out there who are specifically targeting members of this board for harrassment and they are looking for any way to cause problems. I would advise Luda of the situation ASAP.

Patrick should have banned John Drew(Paul S) the first day he started harrassing the board. This is getting to be a serious situation. Virus attacks are a federal crime. Jack needs to report John Drew to the cops since he has JD's info.

-blm

[MarkInTx]

... in response to It is a hate campaign..., posted by BarryM on Feb 7, 2002


TO draw so much ire from the real loasers...

Too many success stories?

[Dan]

... in response to Guess we're doing something right, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 7, 2002

Mark,

I am struck by a couple of reactions to your post.

First is - "success" may be defined in numerous ways. I, for one, thoroughly enjoy LP and I admire his analytical process to this pursuit. He has, indeed, become a bit jaded, but with good reason in his particular set of circumstances. I consider LP to be a "success" regardless of whether the outcome of his pursuit includes marriage to a RW or not.

Along those same lines, I know of only a few people that post on this board that have crossed the 2 year mark of marriage. It is a remarkably shallow pool of statistics to extrapolate 'long-term' success from. I think most are merely sharing early experiences that offer hope, but not conclusive evidence.

On the other hand, I clearly agree with you that the information on this board offers more substantially-useful information so as to avoid the various pitfalls than any other venue one may find. The information here is timely and seasoned with loads of first-hand experience.

To that extent, I agree that we are seeing "success" as a result of participation on the board.

In sum, I guess one needs to be clear about what it is that constitutes "success" for them. In my case, it is a long-term loving relationship filled with warmth, mutual respect, and partnership (I'm easy to please --smile--). I am off to a good start - but that is all it is to date. "Success"? not yet - but I am hopeful. For others, "success" may mean something much different.

Just food for thought.

- Dan

[MarkInTx]

... in response to "Success" ?!?, posted by Dan on Feb 7, 2002

I know what you mean...

Once, I tried to teach my dog to catch frisbees. (I later learned the way I went about it was all wrong...but...)

I took him out. Had him sit. Then threw the frisbee to him.

He sat there and watched the frisbee. All of the way in. Unitl it clunked him between the eyes.

I couldn't believe it.

I backed up and repeated it again. Same result.

Third time... he ducked.

That is all I "taught" him. But it worked for him. He was no longer being clunked in the head.

Come to think of it... I think there are remarkable parallels between that and LP...

[LP]

... in response to Frisbees and Dogs, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 8, 2002

...I don't see them. Care to elaborate?

[hockeybrain]

... in response to Frisbees and Dogs, posted by MarkInTx on Feb 8, 2002

What did you do to get him to catch the frisbee?

[MarkInTx]

... in response to Re: Frisbees and Dogs, posted by hockeybrain on Feb 8, 2002

asd

[Rags]

... in response to Hmmm, posted by Deckard on Feb 6, 2002

Thanks for posting your pictures. I really enjoyed seeing some of the sights in Crimea again but it looks like this Board has drawn the attention of some real scumbags intent on inflicting serious damage. We just thought that the weekend troll attacks were annoying.

It looks like it is time to get real anonymous and delete all our e-mails from anyone that we do not know. A real sad state of affairs but I guess we had it good for a long time and just didn't appreciate it.