Update

[Looking4Wife]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Update, posted by pablo on Sep 13, 2005

I agree with Pablo, which is exactly what I stated above before the 4th cita.

The waitress "waited" things out to decide whether to give the number or not.  If she wasn't interested, then there would be no signs of jealousy.  Obviously she is/was interested, but didn't like the 4th cita results, or simply grew tired of the chica parade taking place right before her ojos.

[beenthere]

... in response to I agree, wholeheartedly, posted by Looking4Wife on Sep 14, 2005

she is/never was interested...trust me on this...

[Looking4Wife]

... in response to Re: I agree, wholeheartedly, posted by beenthere on Sep 14, 2005

Then why all the jealousy and/or sudden harsh treatment?

Why not just be ambivalent?

[beenthere]

... in response to Educate me..., posted by Looking4Wife on Sep 14, 2005

[This message has been edited by beenthere]

Who said she was jealous???  She would have given him his number from the get-go if she was really interested, that's how most latin women are.  They don't play games...if there is an attraction on their part, they will make it known that they want to be with you.  Now, having said that, he might have been able to salvage this (maybe) if he would have taken my advice and not met the next girl there, and come back later saying he cancelled the date because he wanted to be with her (the waitress)...If the waitress had even a little interest in the guy, this would have helped...but I really doubt there was any great genuine interest on her part.  I think the waitress viewed him as a player, and for that, never REALLY was interested...In her mind there are enough "mujeriegos" in Colombia...why complicate things with a gringo "mujeriego" flaunting women in front of her??

Now, maybe her apparent "jealousy and harsh treatment" was more of saying..."you say you are different than Colombian men and are sincere in looking for a wife, but you've just slobbered over 4 women in front of me, and then have the balls to ask me for my phone number??  bite my ass..."

Gringos going to Colombia make a huge error when thinking that all Colombian women are just dying to meet a gringo, have a relationship, and get married, when it's just not the case...

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Educate me..., posted by beenthere on Sep 14, 2005

Beenthere,

Pardon me for getting into this conversation.  You are probably right, but I noticed that your profile gives no info; so could you share a little about your experience with latinas, and maybe your background?  It just helps the rest of us to get a better prospective about someone giving out advice.  I have never been in a situation that resembles what the other poster described, so I have no clue.  But, I am curious.

                           OkieMan

[beenthere]

... in response to Re: Re: Educate me..., posted by OkieMan on Sep 14, 2005

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Have made over 40 trips to Colombia since 1994 (the majority since 1998), was married to a Caleña (my mistake), fluent in spanish, have many Colombian friends (both female & male), still maintain contact with many women I've met over the years in Colombia.  Being fluent in spanish is the key to getting to know these women and how they think, how they feel about gringos, their goals, etc...

[Looking4Wife]

... in response to Re: Educate me..., posted by beenthere on Sep 14, 2005

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