Different terminology

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Different terminology, posted by Kiltboy1 on Sep 11, 2005

I thought my wife was relatively typical. Typical or not, believe me, I appreciate her.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Different terminology, posted by Kiltboy1 on Sep 11, 2005

Kiltboy 1,

I don't mean to pry, but if your profile is up to date, you are married to a latina, correct?  If so, are you saying that your wife does not take care of you like that?
I don't want to bring up anything that might be painful for you-- but you sort of opened the door for that one.  I can tell you that when I was married to each of my 2 american wives; in the beginning they acted like that.  Two totally different women, but each in their own ways were sweet, loving and attentive.  But, unfortunately, they both changed.  So,  now I am not wanting to just settle for anything, and I certainly don't want to repeat my past mistakes.  But, I really, really miss that closeness and affection.  Maybe someday I will be fortunate to find the right latina.  I certainly hope so.  I wish you well.

                          OkieMan

[Kiltboy1]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Different terminolog..., posted by OkieMan on Sep 11, 2005

we are still together., but she could care less about doing things for me, it is about what i can do for her. But her aside, i still have not met many colombian women that have the attitude and beliefs that Cowboy's wife does. Do not be fooled by thinking that because they are latin, that they want to take care of you. Just not the way it is really .

I know they are out there just like Cowboy found, but they are not a lot of them  , so maybe we need to rethink our expectations on what a wife should be doing. Now, cowboy's wife is older, has a lot of experience, so maybe she learned along the way and is capable of putting her man first as opposed to a younger woman that will put herself, her family , before her husband, which is more of what i have experienced.

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Different termin..., posted by Kiltboy1 on Sep 12, 2005

My first wife was not a bad person but it really was all about her. If it had been up to her, we never would have gotten divorced and I understand why not - she got a lot more out of it than I ever did. I put a lot into a relationship but I expect the other person to make a similar effort in return. Even though we've got 7 kids between us, my wife and I always put each other first.

[WS244]

... in response to Re: Re: Different terminology, posted by OkieMan on Sep 11, 2005

It is the physical that attracts, not communication, otherwise thousands of servicemen would not have married non english speaking women and survived around the world since WW2, and this is no different today.  While speaking the same lanuage may be good for discussions with ones spouse of the 5th to the 10 millionth power as the intellectually minded do, i just wanted a good woman who wanted to be a wife, besides the bright side is one does not have heated agruments.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Different terminology, posted by WS244 on Sep 11, 2005

WS244,

You make some valid points.  But, still there must be a lot of love and honesty and compatibility for those relationships to work.  When you boil it all down, there must be two people who care enough for each other to make it work.  Again, easier said than done, but whether you speak the same language or not; you must speak the "language of love" to each other.  That may or may not be verbal.  Personally, I vote for a good, old fashioned
"Vulcan mind meld"! ha ha  Where is Mr. Spock when you need him? ha

                              OkieMan