Child support to the Philippines

[Mars]

... in response to Hey Greg, posted by Ray on Nov 20, 2001

Sheesh!!!!

[Mars]

... in response to Read the above., posted by Mars on Nov 20, 2001

No problem....go ahead.

[Ray]

... in response to Read the above., posted by Mars on Nov 20, 2001

I read everything here. Where have you been reading?

I was asking Greg some questions about his personal predicament. I don't understand what your problem is Mars.

Ray

[panther]

... in response to Re: Re: Child support to the Philippines, posted by greg on Nov 20, 2001

I agree with what you are saying.  I saw how the money was managed there.  The daughter would be the center of attention at first and then she would be annoying when she cried and needed special attention. You sure are lucky to have your son here but I don't understand why the mother would permit this.  Thanks for your advice.

[Mars]

... in response to Re: Child support to the Philippines, posted by Stephen on Nov 19, 2001

SOmeone who finally knows what he is talking about!!!!!!

LISTEN TO THIS GUY PANTHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Mars]

... in response to Child support to the Philippines, posted by panther on Nov 19, 2001

....and let her fight you for them. She does not have the resources to fight you for them. Even free aid to her will run out or her appointed attorney will see how nuts she is and withdraw. If you let that kid go...you will be sorry for the rest of your days. I am glad I took the chance and kept mine. Of course, it all depends on how much you want the kid.

[NW Jim]

... in response to Child support to the Philippines, posted by panther on Nov 19, 2001

Panther,
I see further down you state you have consulted with a lawyer, I hope it was one specializing in family law. Too many lawyers know little about this area of the law.

Generally child support is based on the income of the parties, not the cost of living unless you're real rich. The courts may have only a limited amount of leeway regarding the amount. Remember, they don't want her (as the "uninformed foreigner") to accept a bad deal. There are things to bargain for: who gets the tax exemption for the child, you may also be able to get a credit for the travel expenses for you or the child to travel between countries each year. Even if an order is entered, she could refuse to enforce it; but watch out if she changes her mind later.

On the other hand a separation w/o divorce at this time might also have some advantages. It would allow her time to come to her senses. It would certainly allow an informal child support arrangement. Either way when you send money, make sure the payment clearly indicates "Child Support" just in case the matter winds in court.

Letting her and the child go, may be the smart thing in this situation for lots of reasons, as painful as it is.

[Mars]

... in response to Re: Child support to the Philippines, posted by NW Jim on Nov 19, 2001

Keep the kid....dump the wench.

[NoNamePinay]

... in response to Again....., posted by Mars on Nov 19, 2001


yeah right,
you call the woman wench, the one who had sacrificed herself to give birth for this baby? Is this baby would be here if not for her mother too???
We do NOT know what really the both sides of this story, all we hear is his side.
I feel so sorry for the baby though I hope they will sit and talk to resolve the problems just for the sake of their baby.

I am a mother too and really hate to see the kid to be separated from a mother or a father.

[Mars]

... in response to Re: yeah right wench..., posted by NoNamePinay on Nov 20, 2001

Wench - Girl or Young woman. Buy a dictionary.

[NoNamePinay]

... in response to Re: Re: yeah right wench..., posted by Mars on Nov 20, 2001


1. a young woman
2. a female servant

I have three different dictionaries and all in new edition.

[Mars]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: wench is.........., posted by NoNamePinay on Nov 20, 2001

First entry usually applies NoName.

[Dave H]

... in response to Choose #1, posted by Mars on Nov 20, 2001

Mars,

When is the last time you called your daughter a "wench"?

Dave H.

[Mars]

... in response to You're losing it..., posted by Dave H on Nov 20, 2001

She isn't a young girl anymore. Hey Dude......let it rest. I'm entitled to my opinion and I'm not a bad guy. Ask Howard.

[Dave H]

... in response to Hahaha...., posted by Mars on Nov 20, 2001

Mars,

I know you're not a bad guy. We have both been through similar experiences. I was just venting! My ex returned to a normal life, after she got through her problems. Unfortunately, the guilt of several bad years keeps her away from our kids. I have had to deal with their feelings of abandonment and rejection.

Peace,

Dave H.