I just wanted to make a few more comments about my recent trip to Cali.  After that, I will ask a question or two.  I had a very nice time with my calena.  She is even more beautiful than the photos I had seen of her while I was emailing her.  She is also very sweet natured, and considerate.  I met many people that are close to her.  Her son, and her roommate.  I met one of her sisters and her husband and children.  We had several days together, doing site seeing, having some enjoyable meals with wonderful Colombian food, etc. For you more experienced travellers, this is nothing new to you. If some of you have not been there, I would encourage you to travel to Colombia and see it for yourself.  So, at the very least, I had a nice vacation.  But, I was not there to just pass the time of day.  I had been corresponding with this lady for 5 months before I travelled.  We already had quite abit of background information on each other, so we were already acquainted with each other, in that way.  But, naturally, it is never the same as actually meeting in person.  By most everything that I can measure, she was and is exceptional.  Now, here is my biggest challenge.  I am now back home, and trying to get on with my work and everyday life.  I have already emailed her a couple of times, but no response yet.  She and I had agreed that we wanted to stay in touch.  I flew back to Tulsa on Thursday evening.  This is now Monday night, and still no emails from her.  I realize that she does not have her own computer, etc.  But, I will be waiting and watching to see if she will soon email me, or not.  At this point, I can only hope that she was truly sincere, and not "hanking my chain".  I would have figured that the girls in latina land would be wanting to do what they could to maintain the man's interest.  My attitude is if she is sincere, she will write to me, etc.  If not, then I guess I will have to write her off.  But, I don't want to jump to conclusions just yet.  Do any of you have any experiences that you could share(both good and bad)?  I am trying to figure out over time if she is really interested in me, or was she just spending time with me to have some fun?  To me, this is where actions definitely speak louder than words!  What do you guys think?

                                       OkieMan

What was the nature of your conversations with her like?  You wrote that you used translators etc.  Did this affect the types of things you discussed with her?  It has been noted on this forum that when the man can speak Spanish well, it opens up the topics of conversation to include intimate things.  If the two of you didn't get to talk about private or intimate topics because of the presence of a translator, then the development of chemistry and the kindling of fire might be delayed or even extinguished.  That may lead to a decline in correspondence between you two.

Did her son like you?  For women with children, it is important that the children like the man as well.  Several men here have said that her children come before us.  The boy might have veto power over your relationhsip with his mother.

Did you like her son?   If she perceived that you were not overjoyed about becoming a father to her son, then she might have reservations about a serious relationship with you.

Did you like her family / did they like you?  Everytime I went to visit my noiva in Brazil, I was introduced to another friend or family member.  She listens to what they had to say about me.  How much weight she puts on their opinions is a secret; I only know that they have a good impression of me.  Did she give you any feedback about the kind of impression you made on them?  What did you think about how they lived?  There is sensitivity in LA about the disparity in wealth between Americans and them.  Might you have inadvertently recoiled at the state of their bathroom facilities?

I apologize for the negative focus of this post.  She may have only gotten sick with a cold and can't go out.  Still, these questions have important answers that you should try to learn through talking with her.

                                  OkieMan

Thanks for your comments.  Yes, my calena does work long hours.  I am trying to work out a deal to call her tonight.  Hopefully, one way or the other, she and I can sort this out. At this point, I just need some reassurances that she is sincere about our relationship.  I know that sounds like the line the women always use, but I am just a sweet, sensitive guy! ha  I couldn't resist that! ha.  But, seriously, I do care for her.  Right now, I am keeping my fingers crossed.

                        OkieMan

Good to hear that you had a great time with your lady friend.  I had to read a part of your trip report twice as I thought you said you met "her" husband instead of her sister's husband.  It's no wonder she hasn't written. :-)

Hey, all kidding aside, don't let not getting an email by now bother you.  You never can tell about emails nor should you gauge her feelings towards you about how soon she writes back.  Give her a call like another poster suggested and tell her how much you miss her, etc.

I recently went through this with a lady I was writing.  Nice initial emails at first then nada.  Two weeks went by then her emails resumed.  I could have made a big deal out of it and read between the lines.  No need though, as she was simply very busy with work, etc.

Another surprise with a different lady was when I saw her in Messenger when I logged in.  It took me a little while to figure out that it was someone impersonating her at an internet cafe.  She apparently left the cafe without logging out of Messenger to give some Bobo the opportunity to have a little fun at my expense.  I thought at first, "Man this Latina sure changed, found an attitude with a mouth", before I called this idiot on his charade.  

Be patient and tranquilo and I'm sure you will be getting some nice emails coming your way.

It sure is the pits being back after a great time with a Latina, isn't it?  Start saving for that return flight!

Cheers.