What latinas want or don't want? (Long Post)

[jediknight]

... in response to What latinas want or don't want? (Long P..., posted by OkieMan on Apr 3, 2005

[This message has been edited by jediknight]

it's very simple, treat her with respect and be a gentleman. they KNOW we are checking them out, they've known this since they were 15 years old...that guys are looking at their bodies, what they hate are men drooling over them like animals that don't have any control, they already have this in colombia, be different. a gentleman will look but will make sure she doesn't notice, he will be subtle about it, he will glance and not stare. we all look, but after you've checked out her body, concentrate on her, look into her eyes and listen to what she has to say. on a first or second or third date, there is no balance between being a gentleman and a wolf, be a gentleman only, the wolf part come later when you become much closer or a couple, then you can lossen up and show her how much she turns you on.
do you want to meet a shy girl or an agressive one? do you want to meet someone who will talk about themselves and find out what you're all about or would you rather have someone checking out your ass, crotch and talk about sex on the first date? do you want to meet a girl that is interested in your assests instead of your views on life, relationships, the future etc? do you want to meet a girl that will focus on the size of your wallet rather than the size of your heart? if you're in doubt just ask yourself how you would want to be treated. unless you're just looking for sex, a woman with a killer face and body is worthless to me if she isn't honest, faithful, intelligent and interested in me as a person and not a paycheck. don't get caught up in her physical beauty, it's important but concentrate on the person.
JK

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: What latinas want or don't want? (Lo..., posted by jediknight on Apr 3, 2005

Great post filled with common sense advice. Of course common sense isn't always common....

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: What latinas want or don't want? (Lo..., posted by jediknight on Apr 3, 2005

Jediknight,

You speak very wisely.  I actually believe the same way.  I guess sometimes even an old goat like me can be a little stupid.  Having said that,I just wanted to get some other opinions.  But, you have confirmed what I know is true.  I can assure you that I want the kind of lady who is truly interested in me.  I am not looking for some "trophy".  I guess I just needed a reminder.  Because of the cultural differences, I think that it is easy for many of us to lose our perspective.  The ladies seem to be sending out certain signals?   Maybe some are.  Who knows? At any rate, I must do what I know is right, and that is the important thing. Anyhow, thanks for your insight.

                         OkieMan

[WS244]

... in response to What latinas want or don't want? (Long P..., posted by OkieMan on Apr 3, 2005

Rule number one
with your latina do not look at another woman, otherwise you will be put to the sword.
Rule number two
If you do not like the way she dresses, take her to the store and buy her better clothes.
Rule number three
Boys look up girls dresses and down their blouses, men already know where their going
Rule number four
be a gentleman, not a "wuss", latin women like a man, not a mama's boy.
Rule number five
There are 10 of them for everyone of us, so take your time.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: What latinas want or don't want? (Lo..., posted by WS244 on Apr 3, 2005

WS244,

Your ideas were interesting. I will be a gentleman, but no wuss, so no worry there.  I am just trying to strike a balance and enjoy the ride too.  Thanks.

                           OkieMan

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to What latinas want or don't want? (Long P..., posted by OkieMan on Apr 3, 2005

First of all, it depends on the woman. Having said that, they like male attention and certainly dress to display themselves for our enjoyment. With my wife, while we were chatting on the web cam before we met, we discussed in great detail what our expectations were when we met, even going so far as to discuss birth control methods. On the other hand, my wife told me later that if she hadn't liked me so much in person, she had been prepared to dump me in the airport. Of course I did have a Plan B which I never needed.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: What latinas want or don't want? (Lo..., posted by utopiacowboy on Apr 3, 2005

Utopiacowboy,

Thanks for the insight.  It really helps me to compare notes with you guys who are married. I know that some other guys are in long term relationships and they can help too. Since your wife shared with you her thoughts, it allows me to get a little better idea of the way the ladies' think. Oh by the way, my dad used to sing a song that came out many years ago. The lyrics are something like - "I was looking back to see if you were looking back at me..."  That says alot.

                              OkieMan

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: What latinas want or don't want?..., posted by OkieMan on Apr 3, 2005

One of the things that always appealed to me about my wife is how straightforward and sensible she is. She doesn't play games and she always says what is on her mind. So with her I could always be upfront about everything and just discuss it openly. Of course she is also a lot of fun and doesn't mind it when I do crazy things like lie on the kitchen floor looking up her dress.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: What latinas want or don't w..., posted by utopiacowboy on Apr 4, 2005

Utopiacowboy,

Thank you for your comments.  I do admire the way you have expressed your love and admiration for your wife.  Of course, I understand that when you started your correspondence and first meeting with her; there must have been many concerns for you both.  I too am looking for a lady who will be straightforward and open with her thoughts and feelings.  But, I also know that there has to be some trust built up between the man and the woman first.  As I go through this process, I hope that I can learn and grow each day, so that one day I will end up with a fine lady too.  Who knows, maybe I will be lucky enough to one day be on my own kitchen floor looking up my own wife's skirt! ha  If that happens, I hope that she will be as happy and understanding as your wife.  Thanks again for your thoughts.

                         OkieMan

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: What latinas want or don..., posted by OkieMan on Apr 4, 2005

It's a helluva view, Okieman! I hope you get to enjoy it too!