long term success rates

[jimmyjohn]

is there any information available on what percentage of marriages to colombian women work out over the long term? Say a marriage of 5 years or more.

[Gary Bala]

... in response to long term success rates, posted by jimmyjohn on Mar 27, 2005

Our office recently spent some of our time (and believe me we are busy),
to put together some numbers in this regard.

Our study is obviously NOT perfect and the database used is NOT exhaustive,
but at least it might be a starting point for further research and study by others.

To my knowledge, there is not a lot of good research out there on this topic,
so we looked into it based on an internal office study of (some but not all)
visa cases here since 2000.

Here are the rough and tentative findings and database.

http://www.usaimmigrationattorney.com/MarriageLongevityRates.html

The bottom line is that most Latina-American marriages continue,
longevity rates appear to be encouraging and the 90 day fiancee
visa courtship period seems to help many couples make better
marriage decisions.

Good luck to all.

[Patrick]

... in response to long term success rates, posted by jimmyjohn on Mar 27, 2005

I pretty much agree with what Jamie said.  It'll be difficult at best to get any meaningful statistics.  I think you can maximize your chances of success by looking for a good women versus a hot piece of ass and getting to know her well before marriage.

A lot of guys are so focused on looks and sex-appeal that they overlook everything else.  If a man is 50 years old and marries a 25 year-old, IMHO his chances of a lasting marriage are not great.

Forget the bullshit you read at most agency web sites.  The Latin women don't "mature faster" and although marriages between older men and younger women are more common in Latin America than the US, the standard of living is much lower and security is a bigger factor there.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: long term success rates, posted by Patrick on Mar 28, 2005

Patrick,

I think that your comments are right on target.  We all know that it is very common for men to desire and fantasize about young, sexy women. Let's face it; it is a big turn on!  It would seem that with the almost endless supply of these ladies, it makes for a lot of "skirt chasing".  Many of us are not as young as we once were, myself included. If a young, sexy, available latina wants to let us live out our fantasies,(mostly sexual), and in the process, spend money on her; I am sure there will always be women available for that.  But, when it comes the
reality of getting married, and sharing a life; all of a sudden "Fantasy Island" goes away!  I am certainly not the best so-called expert concerning LA and latinas.  Many of you know more than I do about these type issues. But,  I guess the truth is, that I just want a "real" latin lady who will share my life; as ordinary and mundane as that might be.  I am currently trying to go to Cali and meet a lady that I have been corresponding with.  She and I have been talking via emails for several weeks. I am 51, and she is 35. She seems to be very level headed and mature, and certainly sincere. And yes, she is beautiful; at least to me!  So, I will hopefully find out soon, one way or the other.  Take care.

                                OkieMan

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: long term success rates, posted by OkieMan on Mar 28, 2005

Okieman, just because a woman is past the age of 30 doesn't mean she can't be sexy. You kept saying "young, sexy" as though it's not possible to be sexy without being young. Even in her forties, my wife still makes heads turn and she is as sexy as they come.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: long term success rates, posted by utopiacowboy on Mar 29, 2005

Utopiacowboy,
I am sorry that you misunderstood what I was saying.  I totally agree with you.  The lady I am interested in at the moment is 35, going on 36.  If her pictures are any indication, she is gorgeous. I will find out for myself soon.  What I was trying to convey in my earlier email was concerning the school of thought that many guys are trying to go after the really young "hotties", and don't give any consideration to other qualities the ladies might have.  As attractive as the 20 something girls are, I prefer the more mature ones myself.

                           OkieMan

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: long term success rates, posted by OkieMan on Mar 29, 2005

I guess what I am saying is this. I don't think my wife makes up with other qualities what she lacks in "hotness". I have always thought that notwithstanding her age, she was the hottest chick I had ever seen. Hell, she has always passed as a woman 10 to 15 years younger than she actually is. It just may be that your novia is just as "hot" as any twenty-something.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: long term success ra..., posted by utopiacowboy on Mar 29, 2005

Utopiacowboy,
Again, I agree with you. It all comes down to the individual lady.  Naturally, it really helps your wife to know that you think so highly of her.  I admire that.

                                OkieMan

[Patrick]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: long term success rates, posted by utopiacowboy on Mar 29, 2005

That's a good point.  My wife will be turning 35 again soon (for the eighth time). She's still straining men's necks.

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: long term success rates, posted by Patrick on Mar 29, 2005

I know where you're coming from. I have no doubt that you are absolutely correct about her ability to turn men's heads.

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: long term success rates, posted by Patrick on Mar 29, 2005

Patrick,

Read my last email to Utopiacowboy. He misunderstood what I was trying to say as well.  I am sure that your wife is a very attractive lady too.  Best of luck.

                           OkieMan

[david hagar]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: long term success rates, posted by Patrick on Mar 29, 2005

Patrick

Maybe, you need to buy the men some blinders.  You could keep a suppy of Ben Gay on hand for when then strain their neck muscles.  Have a great day

Beattledog

[WS244]

... in response to Re: Re: long term success rates, posted by OkieMan on Mar 28, 2005

Remember Okieman, at your age and the intelligence that should go with it, you have 20 women in Cali that would hook up with you in a minute for all the wrong reasons--so take your time.
ws

[OkieMan]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: long term success rates, posted by WS244 on Mar 28, 2005

Right, so I'll take the right one, and you can have the other 19! ha  No, believe me.  I am doing everything I can to be careful.  Besides, I think that it usually works out that if I am doing what I should be doing, I will have a much better chance to reach my goal.  Just like Patrick said.  It is not too likely that a 25 year old (or younger) is going to make me a good wife.  Now, she might make someone else a great wife; but I am more likely to have success with the 35 year that I'm chasing.  Now, if I could only get Mr. Spock to teach me that Vulcan mind melding trick! ha

                             OkieMan

[Hoda]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: long term success rates, posted by OkieMan on Mar 28, 2005


in this quest of finding & being found by love. Don't believe any hype that the women will be throwing themselves at you. Keep in mind, you are being "checked-out" also. Take your time, there's no rush...

Hoda