"Young girls in Cali" Part 3

[Chris F]

So she asked me if I was going to tell her to stop.  "No, I said"  Why? she asked. Because ...this is something you have been doing for the past six years.. I told her..."Family, medical specialist, ex boyfriends have all had no success with this...why would you stop doing this with a guy you have only been with for seven days?"  "Im glad" she said..."your the first person who is ok with this...I really like that"   I said...."let me make this clear...I am not ok with this...but I will not tell you to stop...because I know it will not do any good at this point in time."

I have to share with you that I had tis problem with an ex girlfriend from the United States who also had this problem, but for her it occurred about three times a week. For years I tried to get her to stop...with no success. Olga's problem was a lot more severe..... once to twice daily.  Telling her "No" at his point in time in the first week of a  relationship is a waste of time and will ruin our time together  in San Andres. Yes...this is a BIG ISSUE!!!!  But not one this early in the game that I could really do anything about.

That morning we woke up  and she turned on the TV....she really wanted to watch morning cartoons...So I laid there with her thinking....isn't this inmature?....nope...this is some of the reality of dating 21 year old girls!!!!!   You really start feeling the age difference with situations like this. You really start to wonder why you did not listen to your own advice and stick with woman at least 25 and older when your 40. Rap music videos were also a favorite of hers as well.

Olga also suffers from Kidney problems and sometimes has pains in her side. I purchased some medication she wanted at the pharmacy for her and she felt a lot better.

So that afternoon we went to the beach. This is where I experinced first hand what her Grandmother was talking about.  She was in a nasty mood...She snapped at me for stupid things. She smiled a lot less and just was not the sweet girl that I thought she was. I did realize later on that some of these mood swings were directly related to her Bulimia. People who sufffer from this tend to have very nasty mood swings due to the chemical inbalance in their system of the body being "Hungry" I never experinced it with my ex. Olga had hidden this for the first 10 days..but she could hide it no longer. We had two days left on San Andres then I had two days left in Cali.  I was starting to have reservations about continuing this situation. I was starting to care for this girl quite a bit. I could have worked with her on the bulimia issue...but the mood swings?.....they were nasty......I did not feel that was something I could deal with long term but was really trying.

That night she was a lot more sweet and back to her old self. She asked if we could go for pizza. "Sure...I said  We order a large chicken and mushroom. She asks me to put five large sizes on her plate.

"After I eat this...do you mind if I go throw it up?"  she asked.

To be continued......

[AfroMan]

... in response to "Young girls in Cali" Part 3, posted by Chris F on Jul 27, 2003

I hope you do the right thing and move on. This woman has a serious mental situation to say the least. Run as fast as you can. P.S. did you kiss this women? yuck!!!

[Red Clay]

... in response to "Young girls in Cali" Part 3, posted by Chris F on Jul 27, 2003

Doesn't matter how she looks, if she grosses me out, she's gone.

[Brazilophile]

... in response to "Young girls in Cali" Part 3, posted by Chris F on Jul 27, 2003

You know, this stuff is scaring me now!  Here in the US, there was one of the TLC girls burning down Andre Rison's home, Halle Berry with her serial man problems (they all cheat on her) and committing a hit-and-run, Angelina Jolie with her issues including tongue kissing her biological brother, that actress who shopped lifted $6,000 worth of scarves and shoes, and many Playboy playmates with eating disorders like those twins from the early 90's.  In trips to Cali and Cartagena I met several very pretty women.  One turned out to be an alcoholic.  Another was a gold-digging liar who later had a child by a married Colombian. (She is still on an agency's website!) Another was incapable of trusting men.  Why does it seem that the sexiest best looking women have the most messed up heads?  It is enough to make me settle for only average looking women. (Though an average Latina in LA is still above average by US standards.)

[jim c]

... in response to "Young girls in Cali" Part 3, posted by Chris F on Jul 27, 2003

I LOVE IT !!!!

Great post! I am grinning from ear to ear. This is a great illustration of the point that Latinas are complex human beings. Just because they are a little mysterious, speaking a different language with different belief systems does not make them a different species. Yes there is mental illness in Colombia. Lots of stress can make the need for fantasys and life changes so important.
   I posted once about meeting so many women with what they call gastrities and how these were older educated women, with children, who all spoke english and in the past had lots of money. The correlations are obvious.
   I once went out with a girl who looked twenty but in reality was thirty eight. She was adorable. During a sunday family get together at granma's, we were sitting around talking, when her mother told her to stop singing it was impolite. I had not noticed that while I was speaking to her aunt, she was sitting there in never never land, singing to herself like a bored ten year old child. The level of maturity and stability can be something easily overlooked when we are having our fantasys and making hers come true.

  Is it posssible the level of maturity touted by the agencies is only a fantasy and we are often dealing with young cinderellas with one foot in reality and the other on a banana peel.
Well chris you see it for what it is, enjoy it, but don't swollow the hook.

pescador in cayo hueso

jim c

[Turner]

... in response to Re: "Young girls in Cali" Part..., posted by jim c on Jul 27, 2003

good points

[Ricardo]

... in response to Re: "Young girls in Cali" Part..., posted by jim c on Jul 27, 2003

Jim C, I like this line,,,, jajaja!!

[pablo]

... in response to "Young girls in Cali" Part 3, posted by Chris F on Jul 27, 2003


we all want to hear how this all turns out.

[Calipro]

... in response to "Young girls in Cali" Part 3, posted by Chris F on Jul 27, 2003

Your girl friend finally did something that would have pissed even myself off. She asked if she could throw up at the dinner table. That is just plain rude!

You know plenty of people watch cartoons in the morning and listen to rap music. You don't have to like either one. But if they really bother you, maybe it isn't that she is to young but that you are toooooooooooo old.

[pablo]

... in response to Re: "Young girls in Cali" Part..., posted by Calipro on Jul 27, 2003


Is this an admission you like cartoon rap Calipro? ;-)

[Calipro]

... in response to Re: Re: "Young girls in Cali" ..., posted by pablo on Jul 27, 2003

I think you are on to something. If they came out with rappin cartoons, I think it would be a big hit.