... in response to 19 & a 50+ year old, posted by bryan on Mar 17, 2003[This message has been edited by outwest77]
Personally i would not pursue a woman that age, but, then again my gf is 20 yrs my junior and there are many who think thats a horrible thing, even though she is 26.
There are many many many 20 age difference relationships between pinays and foreigners, then you also see 25 and 30 year ones.
Many of my friends family etc object to american guys going over to meet any foreign woman, especially the ones who object are the women, they think "hey whats wrong with us"?
You also see this attitude in the filipinos who think any pinay who goes with a foreigner is a gold digging money hungry traitor........same thing.....whats wrong with our men?
You see it in the black community when Black women are upset at Black men who date white women, Whats wrong with us? they say.....
The thing that all of them fail to realize is that love is hard to find in any country, and when you qualify it by statements which demand, stay with your own race, stay with your own age group, or stay in your own country, what the heck do you need to go to a foreign country for? or the age group that society deems appropriate, Then you start getting into a sticky situation. What is worse?, a man who is lonely , bored , sitting in the usa putting up with all the bs of the dating scene here, or a guy who pursues a girl who is an age which society deems inappropriate?.
Most of the people in the USA wont condone or approve of a guy in the US going to the phils and getting married , no matter what the girls age is, so YOU CANT PLEASE EVERYONE SO WHY TRY. If you listen to your friends and family, nobody would ever go to the phils in the first place.......After all its inhabited by murderous muslim terrorists, kidnappers, Right?
Nobody asked your permission to court their girlfriend, and to each his or her own. If the relationship fails, its his problem not yours. If his gf is of legal age, and he treats her well, they are both consenting adults, its none of your business.
Attitudes like yours are one of the reasons guys who go to the phils have to put up with bs from all sides, you are part of the problem.