... in response to English speaking Columbian Women, posted by grant5432 on Jun 21, 2003Hi, I'm in Bogota right now, will be here for another 5 days or so and have been meeting and dating Colombianas in their mid 30s to early 40s for a little over 2 weeks. I've met something like 32 women, about 8 or 9 of them spoke some English, more then "how are you or My name is..." Three of the 9 spoke good to excellent English and I went out with one of the women 4 times within the first few days I was here. The fact that she spoke very good English might have influenced my decision to date her.
I've used translators at some, but not all of the first meetings, and never for a second meeting date, or for any date after that. What I did is a few months of audio tapes in the car and at night before I left the States, (I was listening to Spanish about 8 hours a day, I concentrated on three tenses past, present and future, tried to learn about 100 or so importanr verbs and had written for me and committed to memory chunks of Spanish about me, my bacground, my values, what I was looking for a woman.
I am not fluent, but if a woman is patient, I can make myself understood. Just about every woman I've met has been appreciative that I took the time and effort to learn some Spanish, they have slowed down for me, and I learn new words or phrases every day.
Most of all, what I've tried to do is not be "macho". You can use the lack of fluent Spanish to your advantage. I don't pretend to be anything that I am. What I've tried to convey is: "This is who I am, I'm looking for wife, a life partner who I can love and help, and who will love and help me. Right now, I need help right now with the language, with understanding the culture, etc. Would you like to help me?
Of course, during the initial conversation, I make sincere and very specifc compliments about the beauty of the women, what they are wearing, etc. And if there is one thing I would advise anyone to do is to be comfortable making specific compliments about women's eyes, their hair, their figures (again, tasteful!), clothes, jewelry. And make them because you sincerely enjoy her beauty, not because its some cheap technique. .
If you go to Colombia, you will see absolutely stunning, beautiful women. Get on the plane!
Suerte!
Dominguin