Understanding the agency and culture

[Goliath]

To all who have been through the agency "thing".

This goes along the same lines as Felix's post. I've heard that some women will not show up for "dates". Now, I've also heard that this is because they don't want to tell the man "No" so they just don't show. Seems a possible cultural tendency.

I'm going through an agency and have thought about writing letters. It's been suggested that I just meet some women "cold" when I get there. I'm making it a vacation nonetheless, whether I meet someone or not.

I'm looking for suggestions on whether or not to make an issue of writing letters before I arrive. I'll be there 3 weeks. My concern is -  what if I meet "the one" on my last week there? Then I've only got a week to get to know her. Writing letters after meeting and phone calls upon my return would be the next step. But, I can't afford to travel back and forth several times a year.

Any help is appreciated. Including yours TR.
Thanks and Happy Holidays

[Jeff S]

... in response to Understanding the agency and culture, posted by Goliath on Dec 24, 2002


One guy on the Russian board used what he called a "Rambo" approach where he wrote to a bunch of women in a city he already had plans and reservations to visit. He began his letters with, "I'm planning to be in your city on (date) and would like to meet you ..." The thing is that the vast majority of letter writers never get off their duffs and actually visit the ladies - and most of the women know this. So knowing you are really planning to be in their city should elicit a much better response.

I'm sure you'll have a great time in Guadalahara. I spend at least a week per year there on business & pleasure. The people are warm and friendly and the food, night life, and social scene is outstanding.

Most of all, relax, be yourself and enjoy. Most of the Mexicans I know warm-up instantly to sincere people but conversely they're also are quick to pick up on insincerity.

Merry Christmas.

-- Jeff S.

[Hoda]

... in response to Understanding the agency and culture, posted by Goliath on Dec 24, 2002


Both methods that you have posted, have proven successful. Some guys have even combined the two in their trips. Good idea of yours to consider going as a vacation whether or not you meet the "One". With that mindset, you'll be taking the pressure off yourself from making a hasty decision. Three weeks? You're very lucky, considering that most guys get only 2 weeks. Don't feel that you have to be successful on this trip. If you meet a few ladies that you're interested in & vice versa. Continue the contact until you're able to return.

Traveling back and forth several times a year is a major concern for most guys. Unfortunately, money is a factor in going down there. Not what you have to spend on the ladies, just what you have to allocate in getting down there. If we were European, we get 4 to 5 weeks vacation a year. While you down there...RELAX!!! Believe me, once you've found the "One". You'll be surprised at how you'll find/make the time/money to visit.

Peace...

[Red Clay]

... in response to Stay with it..., posted by Hoda on Dec 24, 2002

Agree with Hoda, I bet you can find a way to fly there several times a year when you meet a special one. Think about it, how could you get to know her better only going once a year? Even the guys who can go several times a year have problems dealing with the waiting/anxiety, etc.

  Another factor-never a good idea to rush a relationship into a commitment, but the MOB process is subject to the "snooze you lose" theory. Don't let your special lady think you are not really interested because you can't make it down to see her.

[TexasRob]

... in response to Understanding the agency and culture, posted by Goliath on Dec 24, 2002

I think you will do great there.  It is easy to see that you are sincere in why you are going.  The girls will pick up on this also.  Initially they are a little suspicious of a gringo looking for romance.  Too many guys travel down with the intentions of having a real long two day relationship.  I would suggest to let the girls there set the pace.  I wouldn't try to be icecold either, just don't do anything that sends the wrong signal.

I have never personally heard a guy talk about driving to Mexico to seduce some good girl for quick sex, but talking to the girls there they are very suspicious of us.  Something else don't be surprised if you take a 30 year old out to eat and another family member goes along.  :-)    That took me some getting used too.  If the mother of the family likes you then it is all down hill from there.

[Goliath]

... in response to Re: Understanding the agency and culture, posted by TexasRob on Dec 24, 2002

TR,
That was part of my time concern. I can't imagine a woman taking me to meet her parents in 3 weeks.

I would prefer that a family member came along. Show's moral character (or the desire for a free meal:)

Any tips for Mex would be appreciated.
Thanks

[TexasRob]

... in response to Re: Re: Understanding the agency and cul..., posted by Goliath on Dec 24, 2002

What city are you staying in?  In about 90 minutes I will be attending a Christmas dinner at a Mexican couples home.  There will be about 20 people there with me being the only gringo.  I can ask for specifics from them.

[TexasRob]

... in response to Re: Re: Understanding the agency and cul..., posted by Goliath on Dec 24, 2002

In opinion the people down in Mexico takes a person at face value more than other places.  Right now my intentions are to live in Mexico when I retire some day.  When you go just be yourself.  Be open and honest about why you are there and what your values are.  

It is funny what some people find important.  I dated a girl in Mazatlan for a while.  I was down there often to see her.  Her dad is a dentist there and he introduced me as "Rob my daughters boyfriend that does not drink".  He introduced me to everyone he knew and it was always the same.

You will come back here a different person.  Everytime I return from Mexico I have to take another look at what I consider important in life.  Every country has good and bad things about it.  The worst thing I have seen in Mexico is the racism.  They talk about gringos being racist to them but you wait till you see how they talk about the indians there.  On two occasions I have had a Mexican remove the money I put into an indian girls cup and give it back to me, saying no no no.  You will make friends and memories that will last a lifetime.  When you go to a girls home you will notice that one by one the entire neighborhood will stop in to check you out.  It is actually funny the way that happens.

[Goliath]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Understanding the agency and..., posted by TexasRob on Dec 24, 2002

Guadalajara

[pack]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: Re: Understanding the agency..., posted by Goliath on Dec 24, 2002

never been there...but just a few minutes ago got home from a christmas eve gathering/party i was talking with a few guys about cali. one guy told me he travels to guadalajara and he says the women are beautiful there.