Filipinas

[Rota20]

Hey all,

I'm a new guy on this board and was looking for some advice on how to get started on pursuing marriage to a Filipina.  I'd like to know about other guys' experiences traveling to the Philippines and with different women there.  What are the best places in the PI to travel to find a good woman?   How is the best way to go about courting these women?  I appreciate any help you guys can give me.  Thanks

[Jimbo]

... in response to Filipinas, posted by Rota20 on Aug 6, 2002

That's our man Ray's line but he didn't use it this time so I got it :-)

Lot's of good advice here.  I'll just add:  be sure to look for the good AND the bad when perusing the archives.

Jim

[Bear]

... in response to Filipinas, posted by Rota20 on Aug 6, 2002

1st of all remember there are no stereotypes.  Women of the Philippines are no diffrent than women anywhere else in the world with the exception that they have different influences currently in their lives.  Most tend to be more frugal, religious and loyal than American women because of the affect of poverty and the strong position of the Catholic Church and the family.  They become americanized so fast it makes your head spin - so finding the right one is crucial.  Women there seem to be in a larger % to the men but statistics say its not true.  Still when I was in Davao it was the 3rd day before I saw more than 2 men together and everywhere you went you could see 10s of women together.

2nd be very aware that (IMHO) although you can easily find a wonderful wife to will love you and care for you, you can find gold diggers and greencard sharks.  Finding the women who isn't 'looking for you' is the key.  Those that are looking tend to have alterior motives, but not always.  You will find that looks and age aren't very high on mosts list of characteristic in picking a husband.

3rd - ask questions and know that they will try very hard to answer how they think you want to hear.  If you can't ask questions, hard ones, then don't even get started.  I have seen too many guys on this board crash and burn because they just assume that the girl they were courting wanted what they wanted.  The wrong girl will lie, withhold info, and manipulate the answers.  The right girl might be afraid that if she answers you will think less of her or she really has no opinion and doesn't think its important enuff to respond too.  Communication is CRITICAL.  If you don't know you d*mn well better ask or suffer the consciquences knowing you failed and 'its your fault'.  Ask more than once and try to trip them up by asking in a manner that hides you opinion.

4th - watch out for that girl who puts her family there first.  They will milk you dry.  Any girl that ASKS for money most likely should be avoided completely.  Good girls will obey their parents and take from you to give them.  They think we are all rich because our money buys alot there.  Remember many are motivated by the poverty (40%) there country is mired in.

5th - If you live in one of the larger cities you can find communities of Filipinos.  I live in Houston and have now found 3 areas where they tend to congregate and I know there is at least one more (the nurses at the medical center hear have to be living someonewhere!).  Introductions are many times safer and influences of peers are strong in their lives.  I brought a friend to a dance last week and told a few of the Filipinas there he wished he could find a single Filipina and watched while they took over his life.  They all have someone to introduce to him.

Bear and Honey

[Humabdos]

... in response to Re: Filipinas, posted by Bear on Aug 7, 2002

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[BrianN]

... in response to Re: Filipinas, posted by Bear on Aug 7, 2002

[Dave H]

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[Dave H]

... in response to Filipinas, posted by Rota20 on Aug 6, 2002

Hi Rota20,

We have debated the best way to meet and pursue marriage to Asian women and Filipinas a few times before on this board. LOL I think that the best methods are ones that you are comfortable using. Some guys met their ladies while visiting the Philippines, some through introductions by friends or acquaintances, others with pen pal clubs, and still others through online chat. Some of us used one method, while others combined several. There are also those who met in the US. Hospitals and the Catholic Churches are havens for Filipinas.

Read up and learn as much as you can about the country and culture. Be open to women from other countries and cultures. The others have offered good advice. Keep asking questions.

The best place to find a good Filipina is the place where you ultimately find your one and only. There are good and bad everywhere. Be honest and humble. Most Filipnas don't like boastful or arrogant men. Those that do, might be more interested in your wallet.

Take your time and don't be in a hurry. Spend as much time as you possible can getting to know your lady before you marry. Good Luck!

Dave H.

[Ray]

... in response to Filipinas, posted by Rota20 on Aug 6, 2002

Welcom to PLanet Love!

How much do you know about the Philippines and Filipino culture? Have you ever been there? There is no one place in the Philippines that has a corner on good women.

Before you even begin searching for a Filipino wife, I strongly suggest that you study up on the culture first. There is a wealth of information on the Web and like someone else suggested, right here in our archives, where you will find answers to your questions and a lot more. It will be time well spent. Also, talk to Filipinos in your local community. Find a Filipino restaurant and give the food a try (it’s great!).

Finding a good Filipina wife can be very rewarding, but I must warn you that it isn’t going to be easy. You will be frustrated with the government red tape and will probably pull all of your hair out and jump off of a few bridges before you’re done :-). Also, it can get very expensive. Figure on at least $10,000 and several trips to the Philippines for starters.

Travel within the Philippines is cheap and a lot of fun. If you have a vacation coming, it would be a great place to go, especially if you are the adventurous type. Who knows, you might even find a special someone while you’re there.

I highly recommend this book as a good source of information on Filipino culture (amazon,com has it in stock):

“Culture Shock! Philippines”, by Roces

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ISBN%3D1558680896/103-7983471-7516667

Feel free to ask any questions you may have.

Ray

[joemc]

... in response to Filipinas, posted by Rota20 on Aug 6, 2002

Hi Rota20,
       Welcome to the board, Greg just gave you some
  good advise. But anywhere in the Philippines you would
  find a good woman.      
                           Goodluck,  joemc

[greg]

... in response to Filipinas, posted by Rota20 on Aug 6, 2002

Read the Archives(wealth of Information).