Stranger in a not so strange land

[John K]

... in response to I suspect you protest too much..., posted by Griffin redux on Jun 6, 2003

If a man won't stand up for his woman's honor, then he might as well surrender the family jewels, 'cause he ain't a man.  You can think what you want, but when you imply it in a public forum, I am obligated to respond.

As far as "testing the trust" goes, we all have to face it sometime in our lives.  If you don't lay your trust and faith in each other on the line, how do you know if it's really there and not just a pipedream?  I prefer to *know* I can trust my wife, instead of just hoping she will do the right thing when a situation comes along.

When Marina returns, we will be ready to move on to our next step in life, which is to create a stable and loving family.  We are already discussing all the things we have to do and prepare for before we bring a new life in this world.  That discussion wouldn't even be taking place if we both didn't feel secure in what we have.  That security comes from knowing we can trust each other.

My original observation wasn't really on trust, anyway.  It was about my wife's separating from her ethnic identity, and the fact that she finally had a chance to experience what friendship should be like.  You just led me astray with your pithy comments...

[Griffin redux]

... in response to Not protesting, just clearing the air, posted by John K on Jun 6, 2003

so much as a husband trying to rationalize her behavior.

I have not meant to imply that your wife has been less than honorable.  If I left you with that impression I apologize.  My comments have been directed to your reaction to her behavior, not what she may or may not be doing.

This test of the trust between you is incomplete.  When your wife returns tell her you are taking your nubile secretary down to Baja for a long week-end.  Because, after all, you deserve an equal chance to experience what friendship should be like and she will certainly want to *know* that she can trust you as well.  :-)

[John K]

... in response to You don't sound like a man defending his..., posted by Griffin redux on Jun 6, 2003

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[Griffin redux]

... in response to Reread the thread, i.e. Kate n/t, posted by John K on Jun 6, 2003

[This message has been edited by Griffin redux]

Dude, but thanks for sharing.  :-)