? for guys who use WMVM method...

[Frank O]

Ok guys here is the deal. As you know I'm NOT confortable using the WMVM but have gone that route since my first visit using WOVO did NOT work out as planned. I ran an ad & have my hands full currently writing about 5 REALLY nice ladies. 3 WHO are SUPER nice & compatible with me. Now since I was running an ad I assumed they would KNOW I was writing other ladies. I told ALL the ladies this. One was ok with it as she was also writing about 5 other men. She has been very realistic about what can happen AFTER a face to face meeting. Another one didn't say much. ANother said she was bothered because she did not want to lose me. GREAT RESPONSE in her attitude in phone calls & letters! :-) One was VERY jealous!!! It freaked me out. She actually showed anger & resentment in her letter. It caught me off guard. She did admit she respects me for telling her the truth. Do you guys TELL the ladies you are writing others? Or do you keep mum? How do you juggle the ladies? ALL want to meet me at the airport!! Ain't gonna happen but how do you guys handle this? HELP!!

[hockeybrain]

... in response to ? for guys who use WMVM method..., posted by Frank O on Apr 22, 2003

I think you are better off being honest with the girls.  However, you will not be intimate with them until they know they are the only one.

[Frank O]

... in response to Honesty best policy, posted by hockeybrain on Apr 25, 2003

Well, I've been VERY honest with them all. I'm NOT going over them on a sex trip. I'm searching for a wife. I am doing things the best way for me as difficult as it might be. Thanks for responding.

[thesearch]

... in response to ? for guys who use WMVM method..., posted by Frank O on Apr 22, 2003

Frank,

First of all, take notes on how all of these ladies react to the truth. For example, the one who is jealous and actually showed temper about the issue is telling you something about herself. IMHO it is not a favorable thing. Personally, I would give her one demerit for her position.

I agree with Dan about the truth. Yes, if you ran an ad they have to know that there could be others.

About the airport issue. Do not meet any of them at the airport. Do not tell any of them where you are staying at first. Others have done that and found problems of ladies coming around when you are with one at your place. I am assuming that they are all in the same city here.

You should consider contact them all yourself once you get settled in your room and set up a meeting. The problem that other guys have run into is that once these ladies know where you are staying and your telephone number, you can run into traffic problems with them so to speak. One might drop by or call when you are with one in your room.

Yes the WMVM can produce a juggling problem for sure.
Good luck to you Frank. Is this Lugansk that you are going to - if I remember correctly - is that still the plan? Did you use an agency?

[Frank O]

... in response to Re: ? for guys who use WMVM method..., posted by thesearch on Apr 23, 2003

No I'll be in LUgansk very little. The bulk of the time I'm planning to spend in Kiev. I have one lady from Chernigov, one from Radomyshl in the Zhytomyr region & one from a village close to Mena. So those are all within 2 hr distance from Kiev. Thanks for the advice. I'm been upfront with ALL of them. I just can't lie man. Not about something like this.As for meeting them I plan on spending little time in my apt & if so only for sleeping.

[DanM]

... in response to ? for guys who use WMVM method..., posted by Frank O on Apr 22, 2003

You gotta tell the truth. You cannot begin what may be a lifetime commitment by telling such a material lie. Even if you get away with it in the short term, she will eventually find out. Trust is a very fragile thing and its not worth jeopardizing the trust of a woman you will love.

Don't take the easy way out. Be a stand up guy and deal with the consequences like a man. If a girl is not comfortable being one of many, then she has that right. The WMVM approach will give you more girls to meet on a trip, but you have to expect a lower response rate as part of the deal. It just means to you to place more ads and write to more girls. Thats all.

Just my two cents.