... in response to Do NOT do this...., posted by Deckard on Feb 1, 2002I can only post what "my" experiences have been...
Right from the beginning I laid down the fact that "I" was the one financing things and that especially here in the states,"I" certainly know better how to manage things logically and get the most for our abilities...
I equally think it is necessary for her to learn how to manage a different economy and lifestyle and I get her involved with as much as possible,like writting checks etc...She understands now $$$ and how it goes out but doesn't really yet understand how it comes in...Only that I work many hours and try not to spend $$$ on things we don't need.She is actually beginning to use cupons and look in sales flyers for things we need and plan to buy...
My famous saying to her is that we are not "Presidente" but we are not poor either...
I remember her buying a $115.00 pair of gold shoes back in Kyrgyzstan (still sitting in the closet) for her engagement party before I left Kyrgyzstan.My words,"that's a lot of money for a pair of (gold-???)shoes"...her words,"I'm only getting engaged and having an engagement party once"...
Well...I make it a point till today to keep those funky-looking(UNUSED) $115.00 pair of "GOLD" shoes quite visible in the bedroom closet...Get it