ending my engagement...final part

[BubbaGump]

... in response to Re: I don't think anyone can be 100% sur..., posted by wsbill on Jan 29, 2002

It cracks me up every time I think about it.  Such a great analogy Bill.  

"We're like pearl divers, we can only hold our breaths for so long (two weeks normally), in hopes of finding that real gem."

[thesearch]

... in response to Re: I don't think anyone can be 100% sur..., posted by wsbill on Jan 29, 2002

I especially liked this

"Unlike Dan who has lived there for a long period of time, he has found a real diamond in the rough. We're like pearl divers, we can only hold our breaths for so long (two weeks normally), in hopes of finding that real gem."

[Richard]

... in response to Re: I don't think anyone can be 100% sur..., posted by wsbill on Jan 29, 2002

You're right about not being able to be 100% sure: I was overstating my case to make a point.  You do seem to be sure enough about this.

[Dan]

... in response to Re: Gee, isn't that why the INS gives yo..., posted by wsbill on Jan 29, 2002

Bill,

The 90-day period for the K-1 is for couples that are already committed to marriage and are simply in need of some time (90 days) to make arrangements.

If you present yourself and your lady to the INS as if you are planning to use the 90-day window to MAKE a decision, they will probably make it difficult for her to gain access to the country.

I am not saying people don't use this 90-day period for exactly the purpose you described - only that it was never intended for that purpose by the INS - so be cautious how you describe it to your lady and especially how you respond to INS questioning.

- Dan

[Mike]

... in response to Nope, Nada, Nyet . . ., posted by Dan on Jan 29, 2002

I suspect there is a VERY high percentage rate of men that bring girls here just to see if it is going to work or not before making the plung.
Mike

[wsbill]

... in response to Nope, Nada, Nyet . . ., posted by Dan on Jan 29, 2002

Well, ya learn something new everyday on this message board.

Who sez my post are a frivious waste of space.

Thanks Dan, for clarifying that.

http://www.geocities.com/wsbill

[BarryM]

... in response to ending my engagement...final part, posted by SteveD on Jan 29, 2002

Well, Steve, after the feelings fade away, you're going to be really pissed at how she treated you. I personally think you're being too nice and giving her way too much credit. You did react in the correct way though, by just letting her go and letting the whole mess go.

At least you know the next time around the type of personality traits to avoid and perhaps the traits to look for. There is something you can give her credit for, and that is that she felt guilty about stringing you along for so long. Her behavior was a loud indication of her true feelings.

Good luck on the next go round.

-blm

[John K]

... in response to ending my engagement...final part, posted by SteveD on Jan 29, 2002

Sounds like you both knew that it wasn't working out.  Calling off the engagement has freed the both of you up to find more compatible mates.  I wish you both better luck next time.