El red de las Mexicanas

[utopiacowboy]

To any of you guys who are bringing a Latin fiance or wife to the US and live in an area whose Latin population is predominantly Mexican. Encourage your wife to network with the Mexicanas. Those women really stick together and look out for one another, whether it's child care or food or employment. She may see herself as different and yes she is but they do share a language and a similar culture. They knew my wife was looking for a job and thanks to this network she landed one today. Viven las Mexicanas!

[mudd]

... in response to El red de las Mexicanas, posted by utopiacowboy on Oct 1, 2005

That also can back fire. I have seen some Mexicans (locals who live here) try to steal or steer a girl away from an American boyfriend or husband, and push her towards a Mexican living here. If the see a problem in the marriage or relationship, (or if they just don’t like weddos,  "white boys") they start whispering in her ear, "leave him, dump him, I know lost of Mexican guys who will marry you here"

It depends on the Mexicans in question, the ones with some education that speak English  or try too, and try to get ahead in life, are the ones you want as friends.

[beenthere]

... in response to Re: El red de las Mexicanas, posted by mudd on Oct 1, 2005

I don't know about you mudd, but THAT would be the day that a little mexican guy steals a woman from me!!  jajaja

[Red Clay]

... in response to Re: El red de las Mexicanas, posted by mudd on Oct 1, 2005

Took the words right out of my mouth, although if a lady is of good character, she probably wouldn't be swayed by meddling Mexicanos.

I am somewhat surprised at the opinion of some that you can impress your SA lady by citing examples of Mexican culture/food/music that you are familiar with. A few posters farther down the page suggested that might be a good idea. My wife and none of the Peruvians that I know want to be very associated with, or compared to, anything Mexican. Their opinion seems to be further reinforced when they spend some time here in the US and observe the behavior/appearance/language and the absense of any attempt to learn english of many of the illegals here. (I'm actually stating it more diplomatically than they do)

That said, we have several Mexican friends/couples that we socialize with, and yes we occasionally take advantage of their network of contacts.

Happy for you and your wife, UC!

[Beattledog]

... in response to Re: Re: El red de las Mexicanas, posted by Red Clay on Oct 2, 2005

Mexicians are entirely diffeent from Colombians

Beattledog

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: El red de las Mexicanas, posted by Beattledog on Oct 2, 2005

Many Colombians have an antipathy to Mexicans which I think can be short-sighted on their part. It's fine if you live somewhere with a large population of Colombians but if you don't and you can't speak English? What then? The network of Mexicanas in our town is a very useful web of contacts.

[Michael B]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: El red de las Mexicanas, posted by Beattledog on Oct 2, 2005

You beat me to it. I was just about to say "Mexicans are NOT Colombians" .....they aint wrong, they're just different....kind of hard to explain. Now, from the way that I think UC was meaning it, yes a possie of friends with the same language (allthough they do have different accents and use different words, ala "A Mexican would never SAY that, but would understand it if a person from a different Spanish speaking country said it to him, and vice-versa") can be quite usefull to help our wives "make the adjustment". My wife has quite a few Mexican friends and insists on shopping in grocery stores that cater to Mexicans.....my X-wife (from Costa Rica) won't have anything to do with them if she can avoid it (except of course, her sister's husband--go figure).

[Calipro]

... in response to Re: Re: Re: El red de las Mexicanas, posted by Beattledog on Oct 2, 2005

My ex-caleña wife would have nothing to do with mexicans what so ever.

I tried to encourage her to make friends with mexicans because we have such a large mexican population here in Phoenix plus I have mexican friends. The more she got to know them the more she didn{t like them.

[utopiacowboy]

... in response to Re: El red de las Mexicanas, posted by mudd on Oct 1, 2005

I could see that happening if the relationship was not good or if the guy couldn't speak Spanish. In my case, I don't have to worry about either of those things.