2.5 years of study left...

[BobEsponja]

Hi Guys,

Quick question - I'm in contact with some girls in Peru by email, chat etc, I've met some nice ones and would like to visit there in a few months. Trouble is, one girl I really get on well with is 19 and still has about 2.5 years left of University. (I'm 31 BTW, speak Spanish well, but in any case 12 years gap is nothing to be concerned about). My question is that I would hope to have someone here well before 2.5 years if all goes well, so should I allow myself to get serious with her? She attends perhaps the best University in Peru, (so she tells me) and is doing 2 careers at the same time, so obviously it would be great for her to finish her studies.

Gracias,

BobEsponja

[Onephd]

... in response to 2.5 years of study left..., posted by BobEsponja on Jun 24, 2005

Hey, if things work out. you might want to let her finish up school.  its true that her degree won't permit her to work her, but depending on her degree, it might be better for her as she can attend Grad school and be in an even better position to work and hold a down a better job.  The reason is most universities will accept a student into their grad program with a degree from another country. However as you know it will be almost impossible for her to work a professional job with just a foreign degree.

[wizard]

... in response to 2.5 years of study left..., posted by BobEsponja on Jun 24, 2005

Well, I think you're getting a little ahead of yourself at this point of the game... Don't plan your future quite yet... Especially with someone you've never met in person...

For arguments sake, say you travel to Peru, meet her, hit it off, make several more trips to cement the relationship, get engaged, THEN plan for your future together and her education...

BTW, she'd be better off spending those 2.5 years in an American university working toward a degree... For the most part, a foreign university degree in just about any profession doesn't mean shit here... She'll have to start over once she arrives here anyway...

[BobEsponja]

... in response to Re: 2.5 years of study left..., posted by wizard on Jun 25, 2005

Thanks wizard & guys, yeah I agree I'm getting far too ahead of myself, I'll pull things back a notch and concentrate on getting to know her first before worrying about education and stuff. Sometimes the mind works overtime...
BobEsponja

[Heat]

... in response to Re: 2.5 years of study left..., posted by wizard on Jun 25, 2005

very good advice.

[Jamie]

... in response to 2.5 years of study left..., posted by BobEsponja on Jun 24, 2005

It seems like you answered you own question you would like to have someone "well before 2.5 years" and if that is not an option for her to take you should meet someone else.

Only you can determine if this time frame is acceptable.

Did you ask her if she was open to changing her plans?

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[Jake]

... in response to 2.5 years of study left..., posted by BobEsponja on Jun 24, 2005

got to meet the lady in person  to decide that kind of call .go down when Matchsystem  is having a tour . If that does not work you have other plans ... Maybe even take her to the party ..I did that once had even more fun .....

[surfscum]

... in response to 2.5 years of study left..., posted by BobEsponja on Jun 24, 2005

If you haven't met her yet, but are wondering about whether to get serious about her, the only answer is go meet her.  Nothing makes up for time spent together.  You definitely need to go there and get to know the country, too as that will be an influence in your relationship.  Plus, you can meet other women on your visit.  Just GO!  Now's the tourist season, the weather is good, in the mountains anyway. Line up a bunch of dates and you'll have a great time, te lo prometo.

And yes, I'm biased since I'm married to a Limena. ;-)

[JimmySTLOUIS]

... in response to 2.5 years of study left..., posted by BobEsponja on Jun 24, 2005

To me its pretty clear.
If she wants to finish the University then you are looking at waiting 2.5 years for her. If you are not in too deep then find out whats what now.

My wife says that if you love her than you have to wait or
she will have to quit school.

Also the age thing is nothing if you are prepared to go through all the work

TE AMO PERU!!!!

jim

[BobEsponja]

... in response to Re: 2.5 years of study left..., posted by JimmySTLOUIS on Jun 24, 2005

Thanks for the advice guys...yep, it's early days and like you say you just gotta get over there and meet face to face, cara a cara! Trouble is with my work I won't have time until later in the year, maybe Nov-early Dec. But I figure that gives us several months to check each other out thru Messenger, email, phone calls etc. I'm also communicating with at least 3 others nice girls in the 20-27 range.

BTW, I've been involved in sending and receiving quite a lot of emails, and cause I read, write & speak Spanish pretty good I find this is a good way to break the ice. But aside from meeting in person I swear that phone calls are the best way to get to know your girl.

Some times I've corresponded with a girl for a couple of emails, then maybe a bit on MSN or Yahoo messenger, then get her number give her a call and - hey we've got nothing to talk about or it feels uncomfortable or whatever. On the other hand perhaps a girl who didn't look so hot in her photo you find that on the phone you just click and chat for hours.  This happen to other guys?

And for the long distance calls I use Skype (free download) and call from my laptop using headphones/mic. Works well.

BobEsponja

[papi]

... in response to 2.5 years of study left..., posted by BobEsponja on Jun 24, 2005

You need a face-to-face to answer the question. Get on the plane and have a good backup plan - maybe an agency lined up or a number of other ladies to meet. I hear good things about matchingsys.com in Peru. She could be the one and can continue her studies here but dont gamble on it when it is relatively easy to have a good backup. See Okie for reasons not to put all your eggs in one basket. If you ever want to try Panama - talk to me.  suerte