... in response to How do ladies view man with a child?, posted by kidwonder on May 15, 2005Patrick or Hoda must be on the ball handing out so many passwords lately. Good work guys! Seems to be lots of new posters.
Good question Kidwonder,
I think I met only one Latina who had a problem with me having two children from a previous marriage. At the time, I didn't speak very much Spanish so used the assistance of a translator during this interview. Everything was going fine until I came back to the topic about my children. I thought of asking her point blank if she had a problem with me having two teenage children. I wasn't expecting her rather blunt, "Sí" and glanced over at the translator to see her eyes get wide-eyed. I thought perhaps she misunderstood my question and mentioned that they were living with there mother. "Sí, entiendo pero no mi gusta" was her reply because she didn't want to share her love with a man and anticipated future problems if the guy had kids. I was surprised and commented that any lady who wanted to have a relationship with me would also have one to a degree with my children and the interview ended soon afterwards. My comment to the translator was at least she was honest to which she agreed.
She isn't the norm for most Latinas. In my experience, most don't mind, especially if the children don't live with you and even then it's probably not an issue. Be aware though that most Latinas would like to have children if they don't already, especially those under 30.
