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Gentlemen,
There has been a lively discussion by many on this board concerning spousal abuse, particularly the fact that women should not be abused.  I will not attempt to speak for anyone else, but I feel certain that most, if not all of us are the type of men who are not abusive towards women.  Having said that, I also think that this all points to the fact that we readily acknowledge the differences between women and men.  I am also referring the fact that we are all fed up with the feminists positions on relationships between men and women, laws that have affected marriage and relationships, etc.  So, here we are on this board either working on relationships, some of you are married, and some of us are still searching.  All that to say this; I think that it is wonderful that the good Lord made us different!  I do not like being in competition with a woman or women in general. We should compliment each other!  Whether it be in the work place or at home, I enjoy the fact that women are different.  To make a point, I will tell you a little about my business.  I have a book business, and I mostly do business in schools.  If I had to depend on men to make my living, I would starve!  My business is primarily build around the fact that women inherently love to shop!  I have books and also some gift items.  These women (teachers, etc) love to look at my items and buy things for themselves, other family members, their classroom, etc.  Naturally, holidays are really good times for this, but I do business throughout the year.  You would just have to see these women in action to appreciate what I am saying.  Of course, if you notice many of them in stores and malls they are somewhat the same.  But, the point is their natural desires to shop, to nurture their families, etc is something that makes them very distinctly different than men.  Of course, there are many other examples that we all could point to.  But, I especially appreciate the loving, nurturing, tender ways that good women, mothers, grandmothers  and wives exhibit.  To that end, I am happy to be searching for a wife in a country where women are women, not some butchy dike man haters!
                             OkieMan

... in response to  Men vs Women, posted by OkieMan on Feb 2, 2005

I don't know where you get the attitude that women are "butchie dike men haters".  I teach with several women who appear to be lesbians.  They appear to be nice people, they treat me well, and are dedicated teachers.  I don't see why any secure man could possibly care about what someone else does in private that doesn't affect them.  I personally despise rapists becasue they DO impose their will violently on others.  Unless I miss my guess, I think most rapists are men.

I am personally not fed up with feminist views on relationships.  I have had three long term relationships which didn't last forever.  In my first with an AW, I wasn't really a nice person and I can't balme my failure on feminism.  The last two were to ladies who were on the selfish side but their selfishness wasn't a result of feminism.

You may be aware that some men dump reasonably good wives because they want to marry a younger prettier woman.  Do you think these women are asking to much to be able to support themselves with equal pay for equal work?  

I have three failed relationships but the failures are my fault either through my actions or choosing the wrong person.  And I want a younger prettier wife which is why I went to LA, not because of a conspiracy of feminists to detroy any possibility of me being happy.

... in response to Re:   Men vs Women, posted by kented on Feb 2, 2005

Kented,
Possibly I did not state correctly what I was trying to convey.  As a matter of fact, I started out  by commending many of my female customers.  I enjoy their company, and I certainly appreciate their business.  As far as my negative comments; I was just letting off some steam at how some people, or groups of people have adversely affected our society, at least in my opinion.  As far as your marriage to a latina, I would say that you are a very luckly man, and I hope to be as lucky someday soon!

                             OkieMan

... in response to Re: Re:   Men vs Women, posted by OkieMan on Feb 2, 2005

Thanks for putting your comments in perspective.  With two divorces and another failed long-term relationship, I could write a book on how NOT to have a successful relationship.

One thing I learned living in a monolithic culture of Costa Rica (no separation of church and state...the Catholic religion dominates all aspects of life...not nearly the cultural diversity of the US) was that our diversity is a great strength.  

No one group can adversly affect our society or even control more than the little corner of it the inhabit.  Everyone has the right to try and be happy.  Just like no one should condemn me for going to LA where I can find a younger prettier wife than I could find here (one might argue that these are superficial reasons to get married), I don't condemn other people for the personal decisions they make to try and find happiness.