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Title: Valuable Interviewing Questions and Tips Post by: Medellin Agency on January 14, 2005, 05:00:00 AM [This message has been edited by Medellin Agency]
Gentlemen,
1. Do you live with your parents? WHY ASK THIS? Most ladies will answer YES, but if a girl lives on her own or with a friend, it would be good to ask WHY she decided to live on her own and even HOW she supports herself. There may be a simple answer such as her parents live in a near by Pueblo and there was more opportunity for her to move into the city to study or work. This also may uncover any problems in the family, a very independent character in the girl or something she may be hiding. It also is more accepted in the culture of Bogotá for ladies to live on their own whereas ladies from Medellín tend to live with their parents until they get married.
WHY ASK THIS? This is important of course to know how the girl has grown up as this will have been a major influence in molding her values and even character.
WHY ASK THIS? This basic question will also give you insight into the girls family and how she has grown up, and insight into her character based on the details of how she describes her relationship with her siblings.
WHY ASK THIS? This will give you girl’s motivations, what she is looking for, as well as possibly any hidden agenda’s.
WHY ASK THIS? This also will tell you the girl’s motivations for joining the Agency and what she does or does not like about a man‘s character.
WHY ASK THIS? This again will tell you what is important in a man’s character to the lady as well as what she likes or dislikes about how a man treats her. This also will identify any difficulties she may have in relationships.
WHY ASK THIS? Important to see if there are common interests between you and her.
WHY ASK THIS? This is a very important question to see what the girl has planned and expects to accomplish in her life whether it is to have her children within two years, finish the university and then work etc. This question can be used to compare to what your goals and motivations are for the future.
WHY ASK THIS? Self explanatory
WHY ASK THIS? Important to compare to your motivations and expectations to have children.
WHY ASK THIS? This will tell you what she likes about various cultures and her personality. Also, this may uncover any hidden agendas.
WHY ASK THIS? This will tell you if the girl is prepared or thought about leaving her own country and family to live with you. Any family oriented woman should be reluctant to leave her family and country but will do so with a loving husband she knows will be good to her.
WHY ASK THIS? Good to see the girl honesty and lead-in to the next question.
WHY ASK THIS? This will give you a good idea once again what type of man she is looking for.
WHY ASK THIS? This is a very important question! This will give you a very clear look into the girl’s personality. Most ladies will be very glad to answer this and this question will tell you exactly what her personality traits are.
FOR EXAMPLE: “Do you like to read books?” “Do you like to go out to eat dinner?” WHY ASK THIS? This will tell if she is interested in your hobbies or even interested in trying some of your hobbies.
FOR EXAMPLE: “Do you like to cook or do you want to learn to cook?” “Are you a very neat person?” “Do you like to go out a lot or do you prefer to stay at home?” WHY ASK THIS? This will tell you exactly whether she has some of the personality characteristics you are looking.
WHY ASK THIS? This is an important question, as sometimes the answer is YES! To have a man to Colombian women is an very important part of their life. They often have boyfriends that are more of friends than the “love of their life” but this as an important thing to know and investigate if she answers YES.
WHY ASK THIS? This will give you insight into her last relationship and her personality based on what she says were the good and bad parts of her relationship.
WHY ASK THIS? This should be known before the interview starts, but is good to verify and a lead-in for the follow-on question.
WHY ASK THIS? This is important to know, especially since you will most probably be taking her and her children out of her country and away from their father.
Best regards, Title: Excellent post! Post by: Seeker on January 16, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Valuable Interviewing Questions and Tips, posted by Medellin Agency on Jan 14, 2005
I really appreciate the effort that went into this post Steve. I especially liked your valuable comments as to why the questions and corresponding answers are relevant and important. I decided to print this post and keep it for future reference. In fact, I'm going to use it as a checklist with the women I'm corresponding with through e-mail. Not that I'm going to send them the questionnaire to fill out. However, my goal is to know the answer to every question over time. I hope you continue to provide us with valuable advice and tips with regards to our quest. Congratulations on the gorgeous women that recently were uploaded onto the CSH site. Title: Re: Valuable Interviewing Questions and Tips Post by: tzion on January 15, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Valuable Interviewing Questions and Tips, posted by Medellin Agency on Jan 14, 2005
Thanks, Steve. :) I don't want to sound like a smartass but they really The only thing is that I think calling it an Michael Title: You are right, "Meeting" is better Post by: Medellin Agency on January 16, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Valuable Interviewing Questions and ..., posted by tzion on Jan 15, 2005
tzion, You are right, "Interview" may not be exactly the best word, maybe just “Meeting.” I wanted to post this because many of our clients ask us what would be good to ask the girl. We had one client with an actual written questionnaire for the girl to fill out which of course did not go over well with the girl! This meeting should be a conversation, in which you are yourself, whether that is funny, serious, etc. If there is chemistry, you both will feel it. At Colombian Sweethearts, we have the lady come and talk with us alone after the interview to see what she thinks about the guy, since often they will be polite to you and may not tell you exactly what they think. This avoids you or the girl wasting your time if there isn't any chemistry. Michael, thank you for your input. Steve Valdez, Owner Title: NOT AN INTERVIEW Post by: kented on January 14, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Valuable Interviewing Questions and Tips, posted by Medellin Agency on Jan 14, 2005
I completely disagree. This is not an interview, it is a conversation. I would NEVER have a list of questions. I'd just talk to her. The answers to the questions are not as important as the chemistry. If I enjoy talking to the women, I'll probably want to take her out again. The only thing I'm trying to decide is if this is someone I'd really like to get to know. The only questions you must ask on the first date are "deal breaker" questions like those relating to children. I know I ddin't want a relationship with someone who wanted children and I knew if I was with someone who wanted children it could never work. If a woman already had a child I didn't ever consider this an essential question. If a lady is taking several hours out of her day (remember, she isn't on vacation), honor her by chatting with her and getting to know her; concentrate on feelings, not facts. Just my opinion. Title: Re: I agree Post by: Thunderstruck on January 16, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to NOT AN INTERVIEW, posted by kented on Jan 14, 2005
I made the mistake of interviewing girls for several trips on advice of "marriage agencies". But if there's no chemistry, the questions are irritating at best. I agree that the topics that don't come up in conversation should be covered before any commitment. Guys should ask questions to learn what the girl's interests are and the stage of life she's in. With Calenas Find the humorous side of every situation and have fun! Title: Re: NOT AN INTERVIEW Post by: thunderbolt on January 15, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to NOT AN INTERVIEW, posted by kented on Jan 14, 2005
I think that those questions are worth asking in the beginning, just not in the 'interview' format. I would weave them into the conversation, rather than sit across the table her and mark her answers with a pen. Title: Re: Re: NOT AN INTERVIEW Post by: slojas1 on January 15, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: NOT AN INTERVIEW, posted by thunderbolt on Jan 15, 2005
I believe the questions were more of a guide and the intention wasn't to have a pen and pad to document all the answers. The subject of sex has to be discussed (of course not initially) at some point and it has to be dignified, direct, and to the point. What are the expectations as far as supporting family left behind? There are certain questions that can be weaved into a conversation especially in the beginning and should be. Go with you instincts, above all don't settle and don't make a time decision (ie 'I only have a few days, I must find someone)! There are too many lovely women there for that. Title: Re: NOT AN INTERVIEW Post by: WS244 on January 15, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to NOT AN INTERVIEW, posted by kented on Jan 14, 2005
Right kented. But another important question, does she like ice cream at crepes & waffles? ws Title: Re: Valuable Interviewing Questions and Tips_Great list Post by: roadken on January 14, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Valuable Interviewing Questions and Tips, posted by Medellin Agency on Jan 14, 2005
This is a great list for the newbies.Just try to make it flow rather than come across as an interview. Title: Re: Valuable Interviewing Questions and Tips Post by: OkieMan on January 14, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Valuable Interviewing Questions and Tips, posted by Medellin Agency on Jan 14, 2005
Hi Steve, I appreciate all of your information. I have a tendency to ask the ladies a lot of questions anyway; so this really helps. My feelings are that if the lady is interested and sincere, she will be happy to answer my questions. Your list has confirmed that even more for me. I already have a membership with your agency, and you and I have spoken on the phone before. I am Kerby, from Oklahoma. Right now, I am a little frustrated because I was saving some money for my trip, and was pretty close on my schedule as well. But, then, I had some unexpected extra expenses that came up. I will still be coming to Colombia, but I have had to postpone my trip for a short while. I will be contacting your agency again soon when I know more about when I can actually travel there. But, to get back to the questions you suggested. My feelings are that even though I want to learn as much about the ladies as I can, I think that your staff members, or staff from other agencies should be asking as much of these type of questions as possible during your initial "screening process". I say that because I don't think most of the other agencies even know their girls. Maybe there is just too many to stay up with; but if your agency is at least doing some preliminary interviews, then you are in a position to make some recommendations to men like me. I have some limited experience with another agency in Cali. For the most part, they are helpful. But, I find that when I start to ask some very specific questions, they don't either know, or are hestitant to ask. Since I don't speak spanish yet, I must depend on someone that can help me. My opinion is that in the initial meeting and interview process with a lady; I do not want to be concerning myself with stumbling through a few simple phrases of spanish. At that point, I am trying to "get inside her head". I believe that is what you was referring to with your list. But, I also agree with you that it should not appear to be similar to a police interrogation. I also realize that we americans are probably more direct in our approach than latinas are used to. That's where the staff can really help. That way, I can concentrate on being interesting and charming, etc. OkieMan Title: Using Human Translators Post by: Medellin Agency on January 14, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Valuable Interviewing Questions and ..., posted by OkieMan on Jan 14, 2005
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Steve Valdez, Owner Title: Re: Using Human Translators Post by: OkieMan on January 14, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Using Human Translators, posted by Medellin Agency on Jan 14, 2005
Steve, I agree with you. Thanks again for your help. Hopefully, we can meet in person in the near future. OkieMan Title: Great Comments & Feedback, Thanks! Post by: Medellin Agency on January 16, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Re: Using Human Translators, posted by OkieMan on Jan 14, 2005
Guys, Thank you for the great comments and feedback! Obviously you guys with experience meeting girls at Agencies have added greatly to this. And YES, these suggested questions are meant to be "woven" into a conversation and are not "checklist" items. The chemistry between you and her will become evident during the course of the conversation and this is extremely important! Best of Luck! Steve Valdez, Owner Title: Re: Great Comments & Feedback, Thanks! Post by: OkieMan on January 17, 2005, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Great Comments & Feedback, Thanks!, posted by Medellin Agency on Jan 16, 2005
Steve, Speaking for myself, I think one of the most important things is that your agency is actively involved in helping both the american men like us, but also the latinas. It boils down to quality service. Naturally, to us americans, that is important. I do not enjoy someone claiming that they want to help; but when you ask for help, they give you a blank stare or shrug their shoulders, etc. So, thanks again for your insight and help. OkieMan |