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Title: Lessons Learned, Metaphors Mixed Post by: John O on November 02, 2003, 05:00:00 AM A follow-up on my "Some Women Don't Know What They Want" post below.
When I finished my conversation yesterday with a Caleņa who hasn't been reciprocating my attention, the last thing she said was, "Please don't abandon me." "Don't worry, corazon," I replied. I then proceeded to call a couple of the other ladies I'm courting in preparation for my December visit. So I've got several lines in the water, as it were. I empathized with this particular lady because I've made the same mistake of indecision in my own process. More precisely, I've passed on a number of ladies that probably would have made perfectly acceptable spouses in the hopes of landing "The Big One" that would rock my world forever. I recently read a fascinating NYT article about a psychologist named Daniel Gilbert who studies how bad people are at predicting what will make them happy in the future. For me, that would include mate selection. It's generally true that you shouldn't "settle" for less than you want. But after watching several of these fine opportunities pass me by - and later regretting them - I'm trying to focus more on what I really need, and on what I'm likely to get, given the realities of my situation. And what I NEED is a woman who: 1) really likes me; 2) is sweet & fun to be with; and 3) turns me on. All within a reasonable degree. To use another metaphor, I'm still aiming for the center of the bull's eye, but I'm now willing to embrace a lady who falls within the first or second inner circles. And trying not to have a moving target. Or something like that... Title: Re: Lessons Learned, Metaphors Mixed Post by: CaliAdvisor on November 05, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Lessons Learned, Metaphors Mixed, posted by John O on Nov 2, 2003
I wouldnt put much stock in this women saying "don't abandon me". "No me abandones" is a pretty common saying in spanish and women through it around pretty lightly if they want to make a guys feel guilty about something. Even if you can see them on one certain night they might use that expression. Dont worry about it. Move on. Title: Re: Lessons Learned, Metaphors Mixed Post by: elcolombiano on November 02, 2003, 05:00:00 AM ... in response to Lessons Learned, Metaphors Mixed, posted by John O on Nov 2, 2003
What about charachter. That is also important. |